Full disclaimer. This is me. All of me. Raw, unfiltered, authentic. Daily, I encourage my clients to honor and choose their real selves. Who they are behind the scenes. Who they are to their core, no apologies, no bullshit, no filters. So this is me following the same encouragements that I give to them. I identify as polyamorous. My spouse and I have been practicing members of the polyamory community for 2.5 years and both identify polyamory as our individual relationship orientation. This means that I believe that love is abundant and choose not to restrict my expression or experience of lov ..read more

“Loving ourselves through the process of owning our story is the bravest thing we will ever do.” – Brene Brown She sits quietly in the recess of the room, nose tucked into the corner where the walls meet. Her sweatshirt is stretched over her knees, air tight to her chest to feel some comfort of closeness. Tears are streaming down her face, muffled sobs are heard through her sweatshirt. She learned early on not to cry too loudly to draw attention to herself, but not too softly that they did not know she was hurting. They always seemed to be comforted by her pain, acknowledging and understanding ..read more

Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening! It has been far too long since I have sat in front of my computer to write. I think like many of us, quarantine, COVID-19, and the current state of the world has left me speechless. I took a few months to shut up and listen, try to process what was happening in the world, and figure out where I and my voice fit into it all. Here I sit today, still not 100% sure of the answer to that question, but still keeping my ears, heart, and mind open to the messages from the world and universe. I have an extensive list of potential “blog topics” I wanted to ..read more

Blunder (n): A stupid or careless mistake Blunder (v): To make a stupid or careless mistake You’d think after having been a polyamorous individual for 2+ years, that the polyam blunders would be behind me. Unfortunately, I continue to fall into some silly patterns, just like any person would, I suppose… I reflect often on the times when my husband and I first opened up our relationship and what silly mistakes we made at the beginning. Although now I can look back on those moments and laugh, it still leaves me cringing when I think about all of the things that I could have avoided had I opened ..read more

What an interesting week it has been. COVID-19, navigating polyamory (current and new relationships), and practicing what I preach has been quite the task over the last few weeks. Today, one of my clients mentioned a course that she has been taking online to help herself grow personally and professionally. One of the tasks in this course was a list of questions related to the “price of admission into your life.” Something clicked in my mind during this conversation and I knew I needed to dive a little deeper into this within my own personal life, particularly as it relates to my journey in po ..read more

Original Image Credit Unknown: shared on various social media platforms. “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” – Brené Brown Whether you’re an “essential employee,” working from home, lost your job, or anything in between right now, COVID-19 has hit us all right where it hurts. One of the things I have learned very quickly in processing this for myself is that there is a common connection in all of us: w ..read more

My Why When I first began to challenge myself to write a blog several years ago, I really didn’t believe I had anything of substance to write about. As I have grown in my career, my personal life, and in who I am, I find that I have a more unique perspective to give to the world than I had previously thought. Let me start from the beginning. I am Rhea, a 30-something, married, polyamorous, sober & in recovery bad-ass hailing from Arizona. I have been a practicing therapist for just about 6 years, in recovery from opiates for over 10 years (committed to complete sober life on 11/21/2018 ..read more