Article by: Cornelius (Con) Sheehan, LCSW, Therapist Emotional & Relationship Health Associates – ERHA Reno. Cornelius is a colleague and highly respected EFT supervisor. Contact him here. Starting couple’s therapy is a significant step towards improving your relationship. However, finding the right therapist for you and your partner can be difficult. It requires an evaluation process, for which you need the right criteria. You want confidence that the therapist’s expertise aligns with your specific needs. Below, I’ve shared a list of what experience has taught me are some of the most impo ..read more

I offer military couples therapy and am myself a partner in a military couple. Military couples face unique challenges from civilians in their relationships and daily lives. When I first moved to Camp Lejeune from Seattle to live with my husband, I had no idea what to expect. I knew little to nothing about the Marine Corps or how his job would really impact our lives. I was now living in a town where most people were military affiliated, which was completely different from the city life that I was accustomed to. Throughout my experience as a military couples therapist and the hours of conversa ..read more

Male sexuality is not mysterious. Here’s what she needs to know to make him really happy in bed and change the sexual power struggle. Sex Tips for Women about Men 1. Men want to be desired too. As women, we are socialized to be the objects of desire not the owners of desire. We grow up thinking that sex is something that happens to us, not something we make happen. Seldom do we feel as agents of our own sexual lives. Bombarded with messages from the media about impossible physical standards we are often wracked with insecurity of our attractiveness. We may struggle to reveal our erotic imagin ..read more

How to get her interested and keep her coming back for more I asked my husband what men would like to hear about. He responded that men wanted to know the bra trick and probably how to get her interested and make it good for her—they wanted someone with a manual to share the important secrets. Here are five sex tips for men about women. Sex Tips for Men 1. Romance opens her heart and eventually her legs. When you think about a Thanksgiving feast, you probably think about snitching crisp turkey skin right off the bird straight out of the oven, creamy mashed potatoes dripping with gravy, lusciou ..read more

Sex Therapist Near Me “Searching for a ‘sex therapist near me’ seemed a little weird,” reported Kasey, “I wasn’t sure what I might come up in the results.  All I knew was that my wife and I were not having sex very much at all after the our first kid was born and I was at the end of my rope.” Kasey told us how much courage it took for him to search for a sex therapist online.  He had been raised in the church and his premarital training had had absolutely no mention of their sexual relationship.  He had even asked a pastor for some help but the pastor told him just to be patient ..read more

Substance Use Disorder and Addiction Counseling What does substance abuse disorder treatment look like, what is it all about and what happens during addictions counseling? Do you know the specific cause of addiction and substance abuse disorder? Can you cure someone with addiction? How do you know if you or someone you love has an addiction? Is substance abuse impacting your relationship? How does couple’s therapy work when there is also addiction? Ever wonder how long treatment takes, what happens along the way, what happens after? All of these are great questions and ones we often get from c ..read more

As most menopausal women could probably tell you, “the change” is about much more than just what is going on physically. For many, it’s a time of significant life evaluation — a time to decide between what was “good enough” before and what is absolutely necessary for the second half of life. And this goes for sex, too. While earlier in a woman’s life, sex may have been about attracting or pleasing a partner, without much focus on herself, now her changing feelings and attitudes mean after sex after menopause may be very different. What Clients Say About Sex and Menopause “It hurts.” Menopause ..read more

The first time James had sex, he climaxed immediately. His partner grimaced, which he interpreted as commentary about his “failure.” He was quick on the trigger from then on, believing he couldn’t please a woman. Finally, after James met someone special, he became desperate to solve his premature ejaculation. What is Premature Ejaculation? Premature ejaculation is defined as reaching climax in one minute’s time. It is the number one sexual dysfunction, affecting 30 percent of men of all ages (18-59). Premature ejaculation’s biggest sexual consequence is shame – further exacerbating the problem ..read more

Although most people know sex addiction exists, many don’t know exactly what it means or the warning signs. What is Sex Addiction? Sexual addiction refers to sexual behavior that has become compulsive – no longer just for the sake of pleasure itself. It leads to negative repercussions that seriously disrupt a person’s relationships and work. While sex addiction often involves sexual contact with one or several people, people might be considered addicted because of the extreme use of pornography, using internet channels like chat rooms, or sexting with strangers. For example, if a man starts to ..read more

Couples therapy doesn’t work. Really?  If not, it can leave a couple hopeless about having the relationship that they wished for, expected and wanted.  Angelique called us and said she had tried couples therapy and it didn’t work before; now she wanted individual therapy to see if she should leave her marriage. In the process of helping her sort through her life and her part in the marital breakdown we asked her why she thought couples therapy doesn’t work. Unfortunately, here are all the pitfalls of their couples therapy that didn’t work: Side-Taking: “Ironically, the therapist took ..read more