Many years back, probably 18 years ago, I had a dear friend in my college who was dating this girl. He was absolutely smitten by her. So much so, that during our 12th grade board exams (most important exams till that time) he used to travel to pick her up from her place ( which was 9 kms away from his place), drop her to her examination center, then go to his examination center, finish his exams, again travel back to her center to pick her up and drop her to her place and then finally come back to his place. True Story. That One girl became his journey, life and destination. He lost himself in ..read more

Follow these Steps: Watch the full clip. Read the breakdown of the clip. Re-Watch the clip. Breakdown of the clip. Scene: Bunch of friends/colleagues in a bar having dinner and drinks. One of the guys, let’s call him Guy A spots an attractive woman by the bar counter with her friends. With some encouragement from his friends he decides to approach her and her friends. And so he physically moves to approach. The Guy A energy is high and opens with a direct opener. (Note: One of the female friend informs her friend who is the target (just for reference) about Guy A by saying “Incoming”) So ..read more

Let’s go back to older days, maybe half a century back. What were the avenues for a man and woman to meet, mingle and get together? In western world, some would say churches, weddings, ball room parties, neighborhood bar, community, common friends, offices, colleges and universities. In eastern world it would be roughly the same in the sense of real world environments. The only thing would change is the fabric of the real world environments. In essence, there were no social boundaries to meet someone new. Yes, there were limitations of geography as world was not connected as it is now. However ..read more

This Post is primarily written for Heterosexual Men: Men often wonder how to attract a particular woman . But hardly any guy raises a question on how to arouse a particular woman or what in general arouses a woman. And this is simply because most men are not aware of the distinction between the two. Attraction is a function of Mind. Mind is a conditioned phenomenon. Attraction happens in Mind and it is different for each individual depending on what he/she values higher. Some aspects of life attracts most people. For example a wealthy person is generally attractive. Coming to women and attract ..read more

Humans beings are unique compare to other species in a way that we have devise a verbal way to communicate with each other. We have invented alphabets, words, sentences in different languages to communicate. And this aspect of us keeps on evolving and being refined. The courtship language is one thing, and I have written about it often; however the verbal communication aspect is of Supreme importance; beginning courtship to dating and extending to relationships. Women, especially are adept at the game of verbal communication, largely because they have clarity of what they want at a given time ..read more

The following post was originally published on my Instagram handle (A Note to Men), for which I have added the link below. Source : Instagram Link Graphic 1Graphic 2Graphic 3Graphic 4Graphic 5Graphic 6Graphic 7 Offcourse there are times when a man sees a particular woman (it can be anywhere), and he can instinctively feel that he must approach her and take this forward. I am not referring to this kind of cold approach as it is pursued from a different source altogether. This post is about cold approaching done as a numbers game, with a hope to land with someone. The post Brief Note on Cold App ..read more

We have a past, present and future. Instinct is what belongs to our animal past. It is very old, solid; it is the inheritance of million of years. While intellect is human, belonging to our present. We mostly function through our intellect. All our sciences, all our businesses, all our professions are based on our intellect. Instinct is rooted in our body, while intellect is an aspect of our brain/mind. All the essential functions of our body from heartbeat to digestion are in the hands of instinct. And for the world of market place our intellect comes in handy. In the realm of instincts, ther ..read more

Imagine this Scene: You are in a club by the bar counter with a friend of yours. Three girls are standing next to you. You comment to your friend, “Hey let’s talk to these girls”. Your friend nods and you turn around say something. And girls response mildly. Maybe you all continue talking or not. Imagine another Scene: You are in a Brunch gathering of a friend. There are lots of women, few familiar but mostly unfamiliar. So you decide to get acquainted with few of the unfamiliar women, especially a particular woman. Maybe you ask a common friend to introduce you or you do it by yourself. And ..read more

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There is an old saying about Eyes: A human eyes have a unique capacity to look both inwards and outwards, One can close his eyes in meditation and look inwards, while with open eyes he can see outwards. Of all the five senses, sight is the most important in courtship-mating-romance-relationships dynamics. Usually for both men and women, it is the eyes that are used to capture the initial essence of another person, which is then forwarded to mind and body. (And that applies to dating apps too). The eyes can sub-communicate the entirety of the message; from the initial look across the room to de ..read more