You need first to comprehend what you are up against before you can figure out how to overcome it. Shame is a feeling of humiliation or embarrassment that derives from the perception of having done something dishonorable, immoral, or wrong. Shame can also be an embarrassment of something we feel is displeasing about ourselves. When we break the social rules we regard dear, we feel ashamed. We feel exposed and little in such situations, and we are unable to look another person in the eyes. You may just want for the ground beneath your feet to swallow you whole. We've all experienced shame or h ..read more

Shame has the power to shape our lives when we allow it to. We may not be fully aware of it but there are many instances that “we do” or “not do” things because of the fear of shame. We experience shame when we fail to live up to some ideals or standards that are most often dictated by society. It is such an intense, painful emotion that we try our best to avoid it, even conceal the truth. Shame makes us feel small, humiliated, and exposed.  The feeling of shame focuses inward, leading us to see our entire self in a negative light. It also makes us feel uncomfortable in the presence of o ..read more

We often hear how self-awareness can make a difference in our lives, but what does it really mean and why is it important? In a nutshell, self-awareness means having the ability to tune in to your thoughts, emotions, and actions.  With a high level of self-awareness, you are able to evaluate yourself objectively, manage your emotions, align your actions with your values, and also have a more accurate understanding of how other people see you.  Importance and Benefits of Having Self-Awareness As humans, many of us are often driven by our feelings when interpreting what’s going o ..read more

Reiki has been around for a century, it was discovered in 1922. Even in the early days, Reiki was never meant to be something that is mystified. But over the years, as with everything that has its moment in the light, it is becoming commercialized and misrepresented in many ways. As a Reiki Master Teacher who was trained in one lineage, then realizing my first lineage wasn’t as authentic as can be, I repeated my Reiki training in the most original lineage completely (Usui Shiki Ryoho Reiki). It allowed me to fill a lot of holes from my first training, and after repeat ..read more

We all make mistakes, some of which are very serious. Because of these mistakes or weaknesses, any thoughtful person feels a sense of failure, sadness, embarrassment, or shame. To some extent feeling bad about making mistakes is good as it fuels us to correct the errors of our ways. But there are also individuals who refuse to see they are wrong, and you can only guess what could happen next. In this article, we will learn some healthy ways to own up to a mistake. It’s Common to Make Mistakes And We Shouldn’t Be Blaming Others Life isn't always easy. We make mistakes, accidents happen, and li ..read more

Do you have a pressing issue in your body, mind, or emotions that you’re sure is brought about by stress?  One of the clients I will never forget is a young professional who walked into my studio for an eating problem she’s been suffering from for months. “I feel like I’ve lost my resolve to just eat healthy food.”  As a big advocate for nutrition, she was surprised by her seemingly uncontrollable craving for unhealthy treats. After asking the preliminary questions, I was able to tell that her new position in her corporate job was causing a lot of anxiety for her. When pressure moun ..read more

How Hashimoto’s Came About For Me: Over a decade ago I was diagnosed with something called Hashimoto’s, a type of auto-immune disease in the thyroid. I worked in film publicity back then and worked 12-15 hour days, waking up early but sleeping super late, having meals at my desk and dinners office at 9:00pm, sometimes even at 2:00am. I remember around the same time while reading media interviews as part of my work routine that celebrities back then had said, “I’ll sleep with I’m dead.” I wonder how they feel about that now too. None of that lifestyle was healthy, to say the least, and I was ba ..read more

Anger is perhaps one of the most obvious emotions. Anyone can tell if someone is angry, even without a loud voice. Non-verbal cues are written all over a person’s face and body language. But what we don’t see is all the emotions underneath. For anger to be healed, we need to determine its root cause like any other issue. (Image created by The Gottman Institute) Anger is compared to a tip of an iceberg. The tip symbolizes anger which everyone can see. The tip is only 10 percent of the iceberg, 90 percent of it is hidden below the surface of the water. Beneath the anger is more complex hidden ..read more

Happiness is one of the keys to not just living a good life but also living a healthier and longer life. Many scientific pieces of evidence have proved how happiness positively affects our health. On the other hand, people who have poor emotional health are more likely to get sick and even die prematurely than those who are happy and have a good sense of community. This is not shared to create fear, but more so of promoting mindfulness over the importance of emotional health because it’s just not talked about enough. I’ve worked with a number of clients who have had poor emotional health lead ..read more

One of the most significant battles you have to face in life is the battle happening within. Your negativity, the feeling that we don't deserve good things born out of guilt, is only one of those you will have to deal with. When we do something wrong, a healthy conscience will make us suffer. But there are times when we feel it to the extreme. We think that we are so bad, or we’ll never change. As we continue to thrash ourselves, we find ourselves agreeing that we are unworthy, not good enough for better things to happen to us. So how do you let go of guilt? How can you heal and carry on? We ..read more