Image courtesy of Wall Street Journal This morning, I did my normal things---fed Luna, got my coffee fix and read the WSJ online.  An article entitled “How to Be a Conversation Killer When the Chitchat Gets Boring”   grabbed me. Thanks, Elizabeth Bernstein.  (I like her writing and follow her). We need to take a lesson from rats.  (more later on this) All right, since my dating life is pretty much an open book, I thought back on an online date with a doctor.  Bob* and I had lunch on our first (and only) date.  After the first 10 minutes, I wanted to fle ..read more

I hear this from women constantly- “why do men dominate the conversation on the first date”?   And, I’ve heard this for over 25 years.     It’s not recent.  In my old days, running It’s Just Lunch, (a matchmaking service I started in 1991) clients were required to report in after their first date.  Our phones would go crazy around 2pm (generally the end of their lunch date).   Some Common Comments:     He was so cute, but never asked a single question about me.    I feel like I know his entire life story; he knows nothing about mine.  ..read more

Sure, it would be absolutely wonderful if we possessed all these traits---but life is about growth.  Success and failure are what define who we are and who we become. Just as no one is “perfect” (and who wants perfect, anyway?) neither are we perfect.  I know I’m not.  I just read a list the other day of 15 attributes you want in the person you marry---and while I was thinking of my upcoming marriage, I didn’t get close to hitting all 15.  When I thought of Jeff, I thought wow, he has all 15.  But probably if I had asked him if he thought he had all 15, he’d look a ..read more

Different choices bring about different outcomes. Dating can be tough. Love isn't always easy. Relationships take effort. It's normal to feel disheartened if things aren't going the way you hoped in your romantic life. Today, I'll talk about some factors that might be hindering your search for "the one." Making some adjustments could lead to more positive outcomes. You know the old adage:  the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. When I listen to new or prospective clients talk about dating, this runs through my brain co ..read more

As a dating coach for the past 25 years, I counsel my clients at 33000Dates.com every week ---from choosing the right dates online, how to write a dating profile,  selecting the right site, to how to message potential dates, and how to set up that first in-real-life-date. So, here’s my past week and what my single clients learned: Lesson 1:  “I’ve been on over 50 dates in the past year and there is no one in Jackson, WY” Said Tara, a 56-year-old professional.  Well, after seeing the sites she was on, and her dating profile, I could see why.  Within 2 weeks, severa ..read more

https://youtu.be/asjGDP5OEzQ There is quite a bit out there on when is the best time to date----as a dating coach working with clients for over 25 years, here's my take on the best time for online dating. It's a quick video versus a long article. And, there's data to back it up. Happy Dating....there's no reason to wait. You can schedule a free 15-minute call with me at Https://www.33000Dates.com/free-call I look forward to chatting... Andrea McGinty Founder, 33000Dates ..read more

Photo courtesy WSJ  Ten Questions: From a First Date to Marriage Happy Saturday, all!  This is a monthly column I write with a client answering 10 questions.   Today, it’s from Debbie*, 66-years-old, an attorney from Palm Beach Gardens, Florida.   My first Zoom call with Debbie was about 6 months ago in September 2023.  What initially struck me about Debbie was her creativity, kindness and close-knit friends and family that she prioritized.    And, she’s getting married in 2 weeks—yes, to a wonderful man she met online. ONE: What was it like to be single aft ..read more

Let's dive right into the dating world! As a dating coach, I often get asked about what to talk about on a first date. Sometimes, my intelligent and lovely clients share their planned topics with me after we've reviewed their profiles... and I must say, I'm a bit shocked. I always give my clients direct advice. No, no, no. You can't say that! After all, I want you to meet "the one" and make a great impression. 1. The Past Earlier today, I had a call with a new client at 7:30 am. She went on a first date last Saturday that turned into a 4 ½ hour lunch, followed by a walk and a bit of shopping ..read more

Think you do any of these things? Score yourself at the bottom.   Photo courtesy of Today With over 25 years helping singles, divorcees and widows with dating while they use my dating consulting services, I’ve identified several traits that your date will definitely find unattractive.   Are you aware of these potential characteristics you may have?  For most people, no.  Maybe this will help and give you a good, long think. Yes, no one is perfect nor should you strive to be.   You be you.  But maybe you can do away with a couple items that are a turn-of ..read more

Dating?  Ok, just go with me here.  Stay with me.  This is about dating Photo courtesy of Studio Flix . I’m a sports fan—I hit Spring Training on Sunday in Florida with the Red Sox and Yankees and watched my team wipe-out the opponent.  And now I’m caught up in March Madness and was glued to multiple channels last night.  And saw some things that reminded me of dating. (After over 25 years of being a dating coach, I can compare any sport to dating…you’ll probably hear me write soon about my idol Messi and comparing soccer to dating). Is online dating a long shot?  ..read more