How I Found Love On The Spectrum
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by Chloe Gray
3w ago
I have several clients on the autism spectrum who frequently express frustration in their search for a partner. It’s something that hits quite close to home for me, because my boyfriend, who I deeply love and share a home with, has ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder).  Many people on the spectrum spend their lives being scolded by well meaning parents, teachers, friends, and partners for simply being themselves- for not emoting “correctly”, using the “correct” word choice in conversation, “incorrect” cadence or tone when speaking, or being teased for their special interests and routines.  ..read more
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Is Tinder Select Worth the Hype?
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by Chloe Gray
2M ago
Have you ever found a spare $500 in your pocket and thought to yourself, “man, I wish I could use this to make online dating vaguely more interesting?” Yeah, me neither. Lucky for us, Tinder is now offering the solution to a problem we didn’t even know we had in the form of Tinder Select.  You’re probably asking yourself, what is it, exactly? Will it help me get more dates? Is it worth the money? Let’s figure it out together and see if it lives up to all the hype.  What is it, exactly? Tinder Select is being marketed as an application-only premium service. Its features include: T ..read more
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How to Look Taller on Dating Apps
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by Chloe Gray
7M ago
How to Look Taller on Dating Apps Dating apps are pretty brutal. The competition is fierce and if you’re a heterosexual man, it can be especially difficult. Unsurprisingly, height is the most common lie straight men tell on their profile.  In fact, a survey by the clothing brand Ash and Eerie showed that 80% of their shoppers lie about their height on dating apps. There’s a multitude of research on the topic from academic studies to GQ articles. While the exact percentage varies, it’s so well established that it’s become a meme. Should You Lie About Your Height on Dating Apps? Here’s th ..read more
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To Beard or Not To Beard on Dating Apps
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by Chloe Gray
1y ago
The Beard Dilemma  To beard or not to beard: that is the question.  Fortunately, I just so happen to have the answer and a bunch of data to back it up. If you’ve been wondering if your prospective partner would prefer you with or without facial hair, you’re not alone. It’s one of the most commonly asked questions I receive as a dating consultant. In fact, I found several studies regarding facial hair and attraction from a simple search on Google Scholar, which means that it’s been a source of curiosity for quite some time. Let’s get into it! Warning Label The contents of this blog ..read more
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What the Heck is Cuffing Season and How Does It Work?
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by Chloe Gray
1y ago
What is Cuffing Season Have you ever sat in a sea of blankets while eating a toasted bagel with blueberry cream cheese in upstate NY, right smack dab in the middle of November when the temperature is somewhere around 40°F, and right as you’re reaching for the remote to turn on Netflix, BOOM you’re overwhelmed by a wave of loneliness? Well, friend, that was your serotonin dropping to the lowest level of the year, and it'll stay like that until mid February. Simply put, cuffing season takes place from mid October through the end of February. During this time, lots of singles are scrambling to p ..read more
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The Truth About Ghosting On Dating Apps
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by Chloe Gray
2y ago
I’m about to voice a very unpopular opinion: ghosting on dating apps is often unintentional, unmalicious, and unworthy of the hate it receives. It can also be reduced with a bit of strategy.  Before you come at me with pitchforks, give me a minute to make a few clarifications.   This blog focuses on ghosting: On dating apps During the early stages of conversation Before plans to meet up have been established This blog is not referencing ghosting: Once plans have been established After a date During a relationship I’ll write a blog later about ghosting in relationshi ..read more
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How to Survive a Broken Heart
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by Chloe Gray
2y ago
You know that feeling of introspective stillness that happens when you’re able to look at a traumatic event with a bit of distance and clarity? I woke up this morning feeling ready to talk, so let’s talk.  Dating Consultants are People Too Being a dating consultant is weird, because I have this unreasonable expectation of myself that I should look like the perfect relationship partner… but, like… that’s not super realistic. Have I always been a great partner? Of course not. Has my heart been shattered into a million trillion pieces? Ohhh yeah. Does that disqualify me from being effective ..read more
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Dating Terms for Noobs: Part 1: Breadcrumbing
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by Chloe Gray
3y ago
Bread crumbs. They’re delicious crunchy bits of carby goodness. They enhance basically any recipe, they can be used to manipulate small winged creatures into being your friend, and they’re superb for abandoning small German children in witch-infested forests. Recently though, the term has been used to describe crumby behavior on dating apps. What is Breadcrumbing? Breadcrumbing is the act of giving someone just enough attention to maintain interest without any real intent to follow through. Sound familiar? Let me give you a few examples: They ignore your advances until you start to move on ..read more
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Overcoming Fear
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by Chloe Gray
3y ago
I’ve heard the phrase “fear is a powerful motivator” a million times... And sure, it can be. If you’re trapped in a burning building, the fear of being burned alive can push you into crawling out the window to scale the outside wall. The fear of choking to death will have you body-slamming yourself into the furniture, broken ribs be damned. But fear can also make us stupid. It can make us selfish. And it can paralyze us. To be honest, I think the whole “fear is a powerful motivator” thing is bullshit.  How Does Fear Affect Us? Have you ever heard of the instinctive drowning response? Basi ..read more
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How To Maintain Self-Respect In a World Full of Narcissists
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by Chloe Gray
3y ago
Sometimes I feel like being a dating consultant is kinda like being a Medium. I can’t fight the evil spirits for you. I just do my best to warn you and sometimes I have to watch you get eaten for lunch. So, welcome to my instructional guide for how to recognize when the person you’re dating is literally a demon. Me: I know you like her, but she sounds kinda like a demon. Client: What? No, you just don’t understand her like I do.  Me: You’ve caught her standing over your bed at night, floating a few feet above the ground, sucking out your soul. Client: She was just having a really rou ..read more
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