Earlier this week, Michael Bierut, Sonia Williams, and I spent an hour on the phone together. Michael is an influential graphic designer based in New York, Sonia is a high school student in Paintsville, Kentucky, and I’m a designer at Automattic, living outside of Boston. Sonia came prepared with a great set of questions. She prompted Michael to tell us about his career, and to take us through some of his favorite projects. We talked about designing this website. Michael described how he came to use a photo of the earth to represent home: he’d aimed to show the most universal representation of ..read more

If you really are going to be a happy single, you have to stop treating being single as the annoying time that you pass between relationships and embrace it. Rather than focusing on what you lack, focus on what you have: You. Natalie Lue. I’ve been wanting to write this piece for soooo long, I just didn’t know how to put it in words. Also, most people won’t agree with me. Especially for people my age, I feel like it’s sooo sad how girls get soo happy when they get a new boyfriend, then too sad once he leaves. I hate the amount of power that they give to these guys, the power to control their ..read more

Remember the friend that was getting distant, the one that constantly hurt me by making me feel left out whenever she was with her new friend? We’re all good now. Remember, there is communication, understanding then action. Her action was doing right by me. I couldn’t make her apologize because then she would not mean it, taking us back to obligation vs will, she had to realize it herself how her actions were hurting me. I think she realized because the day after I posted that blog, we were all good, there was a day when she spent it with just me, not even a bit with me. Well, this makes me ha ..read more

I’m not gonna speak about toxicity in general, I just want to address how I wasn’t aware that I was settling for toxicity lol. I always preach toxicity and how it isn’t good, more especially toxic relationships(romantic relationships). Just today I thought, maybe I don’t have a toxic romantic relationship, but I looked at how it has been so easy for me to settle for toxicity in friendships. Anybody can be toxic for you, don’t ignore red flags when you see them alright? It could be late when you want to leave. Toxicity takes away the possibility of you having consistent peace or joy, toxicity d ..read more

You know when you are lactose intolerant but eat cheese anyway because it’s soooo damn good while you chowing it down but the results of it will be bad, either that allergic reaction or whatever will happen in the bathroom lol. Just a thought, maybe that’s being anti-social for me. (This also fits with people settling for toxicity btw.) I mean, I’ve always been like, I’m anti-social and have a few amount of friends that I let in completely. But maybe that isn’t working for me. There’s two sides to this. Maybe I should not be anti-social because committing myself in friendships like that doesn ..read more

Loving someone doesn’t need a reason. If you can explain why you love someone, it’s not called “love”… it’s called “like.” Darrel H. I may be wrong… but I may also be right. You’re entitled to your own opinion anyway. Some people think that if you can’t answer the question, “why do you love him/ her?” Then you don’t really love that particular person. Says who though? Why should you have a reason to love somebody. In fact, I don’t think that there should be a reason as to why you love somebody. Here’s why: Because we grow, we change, we outgrow our old traits and develop new ones, we discover ..read more

It’s one thing to communicate but understanding is another. If I come up to you to tell you how your actions have been hurting me, if you don’t see it, or understand what you did wrong or let alone understand how I feel, your apology is as good as an obligation. And chances are, you will repeat that same thing. I’m all about obligations these days huh… but it’s not the gist on this piece. A sense of understanding should also be categorized under skills. And just because you don’t understand how what you did hurt me, doesn’t mean I’m being ridiculous. It doesn’t make my complaint invalid. You j ..read more

I’m back again with some deep stuff…lol. Right, so since I learnt a little while ago that forgiveness has to be a matter of the heart and wanting to, not an obligation, I’ve also come to figure that everything else works the same way. If it’s an obligation, chances are there is no real meaning to it, it’s just a task, a compulsion, a duty, indebtedness. For example, an apology. If I was forced to apologize for doing someone wrong, it means nothing. I did it to please the person who forced me, but the words had no meaning to it. Pretty much why people say the word “sorry” has lost its meaning ..read more

Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace. Jonathan Lockwood Huie How easy is it for you to forgive someone that did you wrong? What about someone that did you wrong twice? Three times? Four? When do you feel like it’s enough? Remember: you can never stop forgiving. Because it’s good for you. Like I always say, you come first in your life and when you hold a grudge, it destroys you, that means you’re not putting yourself first, you’re putting the grudge you have over that person first. I swear I had always thought that forgiving somebody is that easy ..read more

Do I even write the appropriate content for people my age? For teenagers? I feel like I get too deep sometimes, but hey, it is what it is. I just wanted to talk about sinning and the bible today. I’m not gonna preach or anything(maybe I’ll get carried away), but I was doing some thinking and obviously a few things came into mind. Sinning, it’s wrong right? What is sinning? Sinning is immoral act, one can even say wickedness. And I’m a Christian so I’ll obviously speak from a Christian’s point of view, I’m not trying to bias against other religions by the way but I know nothing about them so I ..read more