“Keep Coming Back” (KCB) is a slogan often uttered at self-help meetings such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. As an individual coming up on 43 years of continuous sobriety, 82 years of life, and experiencing the incredible impact of a pandemic, the words, keep coming back, seem particularly significant. I have always considered the commonly used words, KCB, to be perhaps the most profound ones used in recovery circles. whether directed at a newcomer or an “old timer” like myself. Here are a few examples. A newcomer to 12 Step meetings will have many crises happening daily, fro ..read more

“We are all serving a life sentence in the dungeon of self.” Attributed to Cyril Connolly, a British author (1903-1974). I read the quote in one of the daily readings I do in support of a semblance of sane recovery, from a self help book called “In God’s Care” Hazelden 1991. I focused on the term, life sentence, having recognized that long term recovery and advanced age do not seem to cure one of the basic aspects of addiction. “Dungeon of self” is a clever way of phrasing the well known hallmark of addiction, self-centeredness. The remedy over the long term for reducing self-centeredness in r ..read more

I Love an Alcoholic or Addict: How Do I Help Him or Her? The answer to this question involves issues pertaining to the one with the disease of addiction as well as those in relationship with that person. I’ll just comment on some of the ways the loved one can help the addicted person. Often the best way to help an addict or alcoholic is to stop trying to help the addicted person and to allow him/her to experience the pain and consequences that naturally flow from the irresponsible, negative behaviors of out-of-control drug or alcohol use. The focus for the loved one of the addicted person need ..read more

If you have concerns about your own drug or alcohol use, or such use by another, you will find information on this site that will, hopefully, help you. First, here is a short explanation that may aid you in deciding whether you (or someone you care about) need help for a problem with drugs or alcohol: Does your use cause significant problems in important areas of your life (legal problems, relationship problems, problems involving your work, or medical problems), have you become aware of the adverse consequences of your use in one or more of these areas, and are you continuing to use drugs or ..read more

“Keep Coming Back” (KCB) is a slogan often uttered at self-help meetings such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous. As an individual coming up on 43 years of continuous sobriety, 82 years of life, and experiencing the incredible impact of a pandemic, the words, keep coming back, seem particularly significant. I have always considered the commonly used words, KCB, to be perhaps the most profound ones used in recovery circles. whether directed at a newcomer or an “old timer” like myself. Here are a few examples. A newcomer to 12 Step meetings will have many crises happening daily, fro ..read more

“We are all serving a life sentence in the dungeon of self.” Attributed to Cyril Connolly, a British author (1903-1974). I read the quote in one of the daily readings I do in support of a semblance of sane recovery, from a self help book called “In God’s Care” Hazelden 1991. I focused on the term, life sentence, having recognized that long term recovery and advanced age do not seem to cure one of the basic aspects of addiction. “Dungeon of self” is a clever way of phrasing the well known hallmark of addiction, self-centeredness. The remedy over the long term for reducing self-centeredness in r ..read more

I Love an Alcoholic or Addict: How Do I Help Him or Her? The answer to this question involves issues pertaining to the one with the disease of addiction as well as those in relationship with that person. I’ll just comment on some of the ways the loved one can help the addicted person. Often the best way to help an addict or alcoholic is to stop trying to help the addicted person and to allow him/her to experience the pain and consequences that naturally flow from the irresponsible, negative behaviors of out-of-control drug or alcohol use. The focus for the loved one of the addicted person need ..read more

If you have concerns about your own drug or alcohol use, or such use by another, you will find information on this site that will, hopefully, help you. First, here is a short explanation that may aid you in deciding whether you (or someone you care about) need help for a problem with drugs or alcohol: Does your use cause significant problems in important areas of your life (legal problems, relationship problems, problems involving your work, or medical problems), have you become aware of the adverse consequences of your use in one or more of these areas, and are you continuing to use drugs or ..read more