Mindfulness may should like a piece of cake, until you decide to practice it. In fact, as if like some twisted magic, the more you decide to focus on the moment at hand, all sorts of triggers surface and vex you. You sit down to eat your breakfast. You want to focus on your cereals and chew carefully and then, your paper guy rings the bell and asks you to pay. You dash for the wallet and then he says he doesn’t have change. You have a small discussion about how he can adjust the balance next month and so on. By the time you return to your table, your attempt at mindfulness has been torn to shr ..read more

Motherhood comes with a whole set of expectations – can you meet them all? Of course not. . How to walk the golden mean of being the perfect mother? Don’t even go there. . Complete acceptance and nurture – a mother is naturally wired to offer these. . A human mother can never be the epitome of motherhood – each of us have flaws; lets accept that and move on . Separate your human mother from your idea of motherhood . If you have mother-wound and think your mother was not enough for you in nurture, care, attention, find out which areas of life area affected by this feeling . Tend to these area ..read more

Self-denial, the willingness to give up personal pleasures for the sake of another – the doctrine is so ingrained in many cultures world-over that when you talk about self-nourishment, self-care it almost sounds like counter-culture. Skipping meals, skipping pleasures, being hard on yourself, and basically avoiding what your heart desires may seem poetic but are primarily behaviors that spring from and in turn give birth to self-alienation – basically distancing yourself from what you truly love. Self-loathing may sound like an extreme expression but often springs from a sense of perfectionism ..read more

Self-sabotage – the worm in the wood which slowly eats away at our potentiality as professionals, as humans when you allow your own weaknesses to eat away at yourself. How do you really identify self-sabotage? Imagine a situation where you want to write a book and every time you plan a good long session to write it out, you think of two or more things to do and while attending to them first, you give up on the time slot you fixed for yourself to write your book. Your procrastination kicked in and drove you away from your own goal for the day. Self-sabotage is dangerous simply because no one re ..read more

You know yourself the best. When you feel out of sync, when you don’t feel together and integrated in your body and mind – you know it. But do you act on the same or ignore? Do you allow your stress, insomnia, anxiety, depression build day by day or you resolve it and outgrow? All this depends on how much selflove you have yourself. Mental health needs as much nurture as physical health. Learn to release your thoughts and empty you mind on a daily basis as a regular mental hygiene. How? You can write three pages each night of any thought that is playing on your mind. Just write and throw the ..read more

How we connect with our food is how we connect with nourishment. So, when we eat well and what fulfills us, we give a nudge to our soul and validate its craving. What we put on our plate is our business. What I bite into is what makes me happy. It is important you feed your soul and not somebody’s opinion because everyone may have a cent or two on what you should put on your plate – but only you know whether you like your egg scrambled or sunny side up. Eating well and eating consciously is self love in action. Listen to the Selflove With Sharmila Podcast http://shorturl.at/oyDFT ..read more

It is one thing that everyday we converse with people and we get feedback and we are told things. Sometimes we mull over these words for long and sometimes through our entire lives. Some words of praise shape our lives, some words of encouragement help us grow and at times some words hurt us endlessly. What we are told is important – but at the same time, what we are telling ourselves is even more important. Self-talk is that continuous rumination that plays on our mind, an internal dialogue that continues at all times – trying to process and pivot. Self-talk or what you tell yourself can stee ..read more

Welcome to episode 20 of the SELFLOVE WITH SHARMILA podcast. It is a big celebratory episode – 20 weeks of selflove and I can say my own selflove practice has grown immensely thorough these weeks. If you are a listener of this audio cast – I would love to hear your feedback on the same and you are welcome to write to me at selflovewithsharmila@gmail.com It is one thing to indulge yourself once in a while – but it is another thing to be absolutely devoted to your own good. Basically, how to not lose interest in selflove. To mark this week, I have 20 tips for you from a galaxy of suggestion ..read more

All action ultimately begins with a thought – what thoughts we are sending or directing towards our own life is significant in determining how we perceive ourselves. We build our self-image with the repeated thoughts we send towards ourselves. While we may live in a state of flux through the day, we can actively practice the art of developing loving kindness through a meditative practice, popular among Buddhists also known as the loving kindness meditation or LKM practice. It is best that you do this at the end of day, every day for a few minutes. You can sit down in meditation and over some t ..read more

No matter how long you have been doing something, if it is not something that you like immerse in, or if it does not consume you, it is pointless. . Have the courage to seek what is your one true calling – and nourish that. . Half-hearted work, half-hearted love also means a life half-lived. . There is no point in building a track-record in a life or work, which is not authentically you or aligned to your purpose. . You have no one to please but your own self. . A FULL life. A FULL love. Never settle for anything less. A Half-hearted Life? The lockdown has forced all of us to internalize our t ..read more