After coming to the realization that I had a bad relationship with the word woman, I had to really go deep and explore what about a woman was so bad within my belief system. And to my surprise, it was a lot worse than I thought. I won’t speak of all of the points I found here, I will just focus on one. Some of the beliefs I found were: Women don’t need men Women are looked down on Women aren’t good enough Women are less than men Women cannot succeed like men do Women cannot succeed on their own Women have no power Being a woman is hard Being a mother is hard I could say that only I think thi ..read more

For the last year I have been walking through a point that has given my life a 360 turn. It has changed the way in which I view myself and those around me. I will be sharing a series of blogs and videos of the points that I have walked and how I have been supported by an amazing community of people who are committed to do what is best for all. Have you ever wondered what relationship you hold with the alphabet? All 26 symbols? I met someone who had a bad relationship with the letter N. That’s because she had a hard time with the word NO. Saying No to others was hard. We don’t really think much ..read more

How many times have you rejected someone’s help in the last 6 months? How many times have you asked someone to help you without feeling guilt or shame? Have you ever felt that if you ask for help you are in debt to that person? That by some unspoken rule– if you receive, you automatically have to do something back to pay for the help received? During my childhood and part of my adulthood, using the word HELP was not an option. Just thinking about the word would make me feel anxious and sick. I felt as if I was bothering the person or taking something if I asked them to help me. It affected my ..read more

I have a tattoo and a scar on my pelvis and they both stand for COURAGE. When I was 17 I joined the soccer team in my school. It was the scariest thing I had done. But through the fear of being part of a large group because I am an introvert, the fear of failing, and the fear of being accepted I found the courage to make it through, to become part of something that became the biggest teaching lesson of my life. At the end of the season, our coach gave us a book as a gift from her heart. At the front she painted a symbol of what she thought represented each one of us. Mine was Courage. When I g ..read more

The Brain is the only organ that is not fully developed at birth, as a child begins to grow different stages of their development are attached to different parts and functions of the brain. The impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences is dependent on the stage of development at which the trauma occurs which will help to determine the way children shut down or hide their pain. For example, if a child experiences trauma at a stage in which they are developing speech, they may become retracted and have difficulty expressing how they feel when they become older. As parents, sometimes it is ..read more

When was the last time you did a family group hug? – posing for a picture standing next to one another does not count- lol. I love hugging my baby, I do so as much as I can throughout the day. I also love hugging my husband, and I always make sure that before he goes to work and when he comes home we hug and kiss. As our baby has gotten older, we have begun to do group hugs. All three hug together at the same time. The other day as we were hugging, something clicked for me. I realized I never did family group hugs with my mom and dad. I remember hugging my mom or hugging my dad. But ..read more

I went to a messy paint class the other day. The one where your child will get soaked in paint from head to toe. I’ve always enjoyed WATCHING my baby get super messy and enjoy getting paint everywhere. Like most moms, I take a million pictures and feel happy for her. However, this particular class was different. My daughter is wild- she likes to play in the dirt, enjoys painting herself, licking walls, and getting wet any chance she gets. And I love it! As always she got covered from head to toe and I walked around her taking pictures… as she saw her teacher put paint on her face ..read more

Changing when healing is hard- I know first hand. Changing patterns takes time, effort, and even concentration. It takes work to train our body, mind, and soul to do things we’ve never done before. So in the beginning, it may be uncomfortable and the reactions or responses you may get may even promote you to stop trying. But here is the thing; perseverance can defeat wisdom at any time. When we are able to implement change in our own lifestyle we then promote for our children to do the same. “The best form of apology is changed behavior” -Unknown So here are some ways to help you ..read more

What does your child see when they look in the mirror, how do they view themselves? Everyone we come in contact with is reflecting back to us a part of our lives and ourselves. Some people trigger feelings of love, hate, fear, and insecurities and we look at them and blame them for us feeling a certain way. I had a stepdad who always used to tell me “always remember that when you point your finger at someone, there are three fingers pointing back at you”, and although I am sure many of you have heard this saying, I never understood it until I had an aha! moment of the concept of “the mi ..read more

For the most part, divorces are messy, painful, and carry accumulated feelings of anger, resentment, and guilt. But what happens to the children after the divorce when these emotions are not healed? I know a lot of divorced parents who have parenting plans set for their children and on paper, it all looks well. I, myself, come from divorced parents who also had a plan. Like many parents today, my mother and father told me and my brother that they just couldn’t make it work together and at that point, it was best for everyone’s sake for them to be apart. But they forgot one thing—to ..read more