zI did not know when to discuss this, or if I should but I know for a fact that there are more women/men out there struggling with the same battles, so here we go.  As I struggled to write this because my abusers are still throwing themselves around instead of acting like normal people, so knowing I am feeding their source of supply is troublesome, yet in spite of it,  I felt I must share this to help others navigate the already corrupt court system This does not mean there are not 0. Let's talk about the "Gray" wall, you know the one, like the "blue wall" the police have ..read more

What is wrong with a person who has worked for 30+ years then decides he just can't anymore due to the stress (more like embarrassment) they are under from a divorce??  You ARE NOT the only one going through stress, everyone in this country is dealing with something! #election2020 #covid19 #vaccines #constutionalrights #stimulus #divorce #domesticabuse #ZOOM #socialmedia #finacialissues #depression #anxiety #childrenathomeallday #onlineschool (for some people for the first time), #death #childbirth...#seriously? Let me be frank, I tried to speak with the #cerebralnarc on several occasions ..read more

What do you do with the family home after being literally trapped in if for over a year?  Your ex let it go intot foreclosure when it could have been avoided but his #narcissitic child like behaviors did not want you to have it or anything else.  The disaster of boxes, half packed, unpacked, still packing...not knowing if you are coming or going... paying money you don't have to be represented in  court for a house that your name is not on the loan for but only the deed, then because he thinks you might be able to salvage the home your ex tries to get the house back from the mor ..read more

Keeping this short and simple..... WAKE UP!! Come out of your fantasy land that the #narcissist will ever change and realize they have no intention of changing. You need to start planning to make the journey to freedom before it is too late or you waste any more time with these #sociopaths! What do YOU want? Make a list, write it down..... What DON'T YOU want, make a list and write that down too then every day look at it and remind yourself of where you were and where you are headed. When you finally realize what has happened to you and get angry at the #narcissist, while everyone arou ..read more

"Show me the money!" Jerry Maguire, 1996 Why do victims stay in abusive relationships? The number 1 reason most victims chose to stay in abusive relationships is... drum roll...wait for it... FINANCIAL ABUSE!!  I keep asking my self why didn't I leave when my children were younger, why did I stay? I was young, pretty hot, and there were other men interested in me all the time, it was as if they could smell the neglect.  I know for a fact that there is no way if my children had been under the age of 6, I would have ever been able to face the mayhem I have faced since I got married and then ..read more

"Show me the money!" Jerry Maguire, 1996 Why do victims stay in abusive relationships? The number 1 reason most victims chose to stay in abusive relationships is... drum roll...wait for it... FINANCIAL ABUSE!!  I keep asking my self why didn't I leave when my children were younger, why did I stay? I was young, pretty hot, and there were other men interested in me all the time, it was as if they could smell the neglect.  I know for a fact that there is no way if my children had been under the age of 6, I would have ever been able to face the mayhem I have faced since I got married and then ..read more

Your browser does not support the audio element. HTML5 Audio Player I am the #NarcsExWife that survived a 19-year nightmare prison of a marriage to a #covert #cerebral #narcissist and was completely clueless all those years thinking I could "fix" him.  He never had any intentions of being fixed, he can't be fixed and after at least 8 different marriage counselors, a boot camp and specialized testing to see exactly why my ex-husband acted the way he did, and us living on separate sides of the house for more than 10 years, it was clear, the problem was not me, it was him. I always thought ..read more

NO CONTACT vs The SILENT TREATMENT I was told that I was a #narcissist by my mother and my oldest daughter for choosing to go NO CONTACT to preserve my mental health.  So I actually thought I might be one, what is wrong with me? I just could not process the #gas-lighting I was getting from my mother or having things thrown in my face that I knew absolutely nothing about, but the things I remember or mention, she has no idea what I am talking about.  With my daughter, I was sent a text message right after my brother died based on the way I worded a message to her that turned me into a #n ..read more

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The Miranda Rights Of an Emotional Abuse Victim That's right, we have the right to continue to remain silent, anything and everything we don't say will still be held against us even in a court of law. We have the right to Legal Aid or nonexistent counsel because we cannot seem to afford the good ones, there are NO pro bono left and nothing is ever provided for you free. Do you understand your rights as a victim of emotional abuse, narcissistic abuse or any other abuse recognized as abuse but not abuse? With that in mind who can you speak to, that can help you? Because I don't care, no one c ..read more