The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
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I work with the partners, adult children and exes of Hijackals to identify, recognize & recover from emotional & verbal abuse of those toxic relationships.
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
Discard, then woo. Devalue, then profess love. You know how the love-bombing swings. It's a ploy, a sham. It's not real. Be immune. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: How love-bombing is manipulation of the heart and mind The short-lived nature of promises made to change #Narcissistic reasons for love-bombing Why you may be tempted ..read more
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
The term "narcissistic" is used too commonly now, in my opinion. When people even talk about themselves a little too much for your liking, you may label it "narcissistic." HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: Defining narcissistic tendencies Defining self-centered behaviors Distinctions between narcissistic vs self-centered Why the distinction is important What healthy behaviors are that are neither ..read more
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
Holidays or any celebration can be stressful. It may be exciting--which is stressful in itself--and it may be distressful. Give yourself permission to recognize and act on the three empowering tips for surviving the holidays with other humans. In fact, these three tips will always help you feel empowered. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: 3 Empowering ..read more
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
You can override the negative messages a toxic parent provides and succeed in life. Yes, it takes work. AND, it is very possible. Corey Poirier is a multiple TEDx speaker, and he did it! Succeeding in spite of having toxic parents and a difficult past! We talk about that journey, and what succeeding really means ..read more
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
What's up with the Hijackals of the world? Can they empathize? Are they devoid of empathy? Or, is this just one more area of manipulation? Lack of empathy in one partner creates a deficit that the other partner cannot fill...no matter how hard one tries! Learn more about the differences in functioning, and the decisions ..read more
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
When you're leaving a #Hijackal, you need expert advice on how best to protect yourself and the best interest of your children. These tips will help you prepare for court or mediation wisely. Divorce is difficult, especially when you have children. Multiply the difficulties by tens if you're divorcing a #Hijackal, a #narcissistic person, or ..read more
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
Are you hypervigilant, looking over your shoulder or constantly concerned with your partner's moods? Not good. You're being robbed. Listen in. HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: What emotional abuse does to shatter your self-esteem How your self-confidence is weakened Dealing with chronic stress and anxiety What depression can be a sign of in an abusive relationship ..read more
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
Coercive Control usually starts in small ways, and escalates! All the attention in the beginning is lovely. Then, it turns to the dark side. You MUST see it clearly to stop it. This episode lays it out! HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: 5 reasons #Hijackals, #narcissists, and other toxic people isolate you The differences they show ..read more
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
You may be struggling to understand your relationship AND your partner. The families you each came from make such a difference. Understand fully how these differences can undermine your relationship now. HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE: What well-formed love is Where you form the basis for badly-formed love What is reasonable to expert from a "loving ..read more
The Relationship Help Doctor | Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
3y ago
You're worn, torn, and put down by a narcissistic Hijackal. Understand how intimidation is intended to make you comply to their wishes, wants, and demands. AND, recognize the need for change now! HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE: The six ways intimidation is used to control Why you might be suffering from being intimidated Three main methods ..read more