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Real Life Leading is all about servant leadership applied to different areas of life. Specifically, Joel is a teacher and coach who works with blended families and co-parents to help them learn to collaborate in a more positive way. Come check out the website for videos, blog posts, and other great information about making your blended family better. Also, be sure to sign up for the email..
Real Life Leading Blog
3y ago
*This is a guest post article written by High Performance Coach Zack Blakeney
It can be difficult for a high performer to live in the balance of confidence and humility, but therein lies the secret to their long-term success.
Without awareness of this essential need for balance, confidence can easily turn into arrogance, and humility can easily turn into inadequacy.
Interestingly, arrogance and inadequacy will mask themselves in your mind with the belief that they are polar opposite states of being, when in actuality they are intimately connected.
Inadequacy causes arrogance, and arrogance cau ..read more
Real Life Leading Blog
5y ago
RLL 81: Coronavirus Crisis and Blended Family Thoughts
So unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past few weeks, you know that our world is in a different place than we’ve been in for quite some time. Many places are in lockdown, others are in partial lockdown, and still more are moving that way. This is unusual, and anything unusual also tends to be scary, especially for parents with children and teenagers. However, for those of us in blended families, these times are even more complicated.
For those of us who are old enough to remember 9/11, one of the major aspects of that day was s ..read more
Real Life Leading Blog
5y ago
RLL 80: Choices, Consistency, and Consequences
Recently, my stepfather recommended that I read a book called Rise and Grind: How to Out-perform, Out-work, and Out-hustle the Competition by Daymond John, and so I’ve been reading a chapter or so each day. In the book, one thought, more than any other, has stuck out to me. The author, famous for being on the hit television show Shark Tank and for being a mogul in the fashion industry (as well as for writing the best-selling book The Power of Broke), tells an anecdote about something his mother used to say to him which has to do with productivity ..read more
Real Life Leading Blog
5y ago
Real Life Leading 88: Live B.I.G. in 2020
During the Christmas season, my colleagues and I said goodbye to a dear friend, Mrs. Teresa Hibbs. She was a fellow teacher, a wonderful Godly woman, and a person who lived out the Gospel every day. At her funeral, I was privileged to hear our school’s administrator, Mrs. Greer, share about Mrs. Hibbs’ life. Yesterday at teacher in-service, I was blessed to hear another Mrs. Greer (daughter-in-law of the aforementioned Mrs. Greer) share again about Mrs. Hibbs. What both Mrs. Greers ..read more
Real Life Leading Blog
5y ago
RLL 88: Bizarre Thanksgiving Meals
[Originally published at: https://www.encouragingdads.com/blog/bizarre-thanksgiving-meals]
by Joel Hawbaker, written for www.encouragingdads.com
When I was in high school, we had bizarre Thanksgiving celebrations at my house, though I didn’t realize it at the time. They weren’t bizarre because we ate outlandish food or participated in strange rituals or just pretended the holiday didn’t exist. What I mean is that Thanksgiving was bizarre because of who we celebrated it with.
My parents split up when I was in middle school, and about a year later my mom start ..read more
Real Life Leading Blog
5y ago
Real Life Leading 77: Redeem the Time
This weekend I watched my older daughter coach her first soccer game, and it happened on the same field I played on in high school; the same field where I spent years coaching her and her sister; the same field where she played her first soccer game over a decade ago. I saw some of my high school teammates there, also coaching their younger kids’ teams. It was a great moment, but also one that got me thinking about the passing of time.
One constant issue I hear from many blended families is that it is difficult to get everything done in the time available ..read more
Real Life Leading Blog
5y ago
Real Life Leading 76Scheduling Flexibility Is A MustIt’s summertime here in the USA, and one of my family’s favorite activities is to go to our local swimming pool and cool off. This summer, my wife is managing the pool, and our older daughter is in her first year as a lifeguard there. One of the extra services that the pool provides is swim lessons to local families, and it is from this that I was reminded of a valuable lesson: when you’re part of a blended family or co-parenting situation, scheduling flexibility is a must ..read more
Real Life Leading Blog
5y ago
RLL 75: Big Changes Means Big ConversationsAfter a brief early-summer sabbatical, I’m glad to be back and writing to you about such an encouraging topic today! Since my last post, we’ve had some serious milestones in my older daughter’s life. She turned 15 recently, and so with that have come major changes: she has her first real job as a lifeguard at a local swim club; she has gotten her driver’s permit and begun to cruise the streets, learning how to apply her book knowledge of traffic laws; and she is interested in beginning to date ..read more
Real Life Leading Blog
5y ago
RLL 65--Carly At Carnegie: Blending Reminders from New York City
Carly’s mom, Carly, and me, after her performance: VERY PROUD of her!
Last weekend, our family was extremely blessed to get to have our older daughter perform with the Honors Performance Series choir at Carnegie Hall in New York City! It was an incredible experience, a truly once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, and we’re so grateful to everyone who helped make it possible. From people who donated funds to peo ..read more
Real Life Leading Blog
5y ago
Real Life Leading 63: Over-Communicate with All of the Adults We all know what it’s like to be frustrated over a lack of communication: events get missed or are only found out about at the last minute; important items get left or forgotten at various locations; key information doesn’t get shared in a timely manner; and as a result, tensions increase and feelings of resentment abound. I have been guilty of poor communication resulting in all of the previously mentioned situations, and so I can speak from experience about the importance of good communication, especially in blended families ..read more