So this instagram post popped on my feed a few days ago, by Pregnantish, and it was sharing about Kristen Wiig, having her twins via surrogacy after years of IVF.  My first thought was good for her.  Then I started reading comments calling out Kristen Wiig for not being transparent about how she got her twins at her age. TBH I wasn’t triggered by her pregnancy news but I was triggered by all these women triggered by the fact she wasn’t upfront about how she got there - wanting her to declare if it’s donor or her own eggs because she's like 50 now? I'm triggered because I'm a pr ..read more

VOGUE Singapore | March 2024 I don’t know whether it’s divine intervention, but this article came at a perfect time! It’s International Women’s Day and for all the women out there who’s resiliently and bravely, showing up (and waking up) every single day with the opposing feelings of fear and hope - know that you are not alone! 2 months ago I was asked by Shumin, (one of the founders of Fertility Support Singapore), to be interviewed for Vogue Singapore about how l stayed positive on my IVF journey when the outcome is less than ideal. I was hesitant initially and mainly because I wasn’t ..read more

Photo by Casey Lee on Unsplash Being all the way over here in Singapore, when I heard the news about the Alabama ruling that caused the Alabama IVF clinics to pause IVF treatments, my 1st reaction was "what the hell is wrong with American politics? and “aww those poor couples that were affected!” I didn’t know if I wanted to write this post because I’m not a political or legal expert, and I didn’t want to say anything wrong. However I really wanted to understand WHY; why the Alabama court did what they did, what’s the implication on the future of IVF in Alabama, and the “what if” it happens h ..read more

My hubby's birthday is coming up, so I thought this is the perfect time to share snippets of  how we interact with each other during our IVF journey and get real about the not-so-good parts, which made us who we are today, better and stronger. We don't have the perfect relationship, and in all honesty, I don’t want to jinx it, but we rarely have any arguments. It could be because I’m pretty easy-going, and I don’t get mad (except the occasional red dragon day 1 of menses moments) but we do have “hurt’ feelings. And it's only recent- we had a small argument, where we needed space fro ..read more

Photo by Shoeib Abolhassani on Unsplash This morning I woke up with a question - why am I waking up? Why am I doing the things I'm doing? I have a todo list but i'm just staring at it. My fellow CEO IVF Goddess Fifi, asked me if I questioning my purpose? I don't think so - I have my WHY which is “to be of service” but I'm "WHYing" my todo list today. I've literally spent the last hour, on the toilet, writing a post on Instagram stories but I gave it up because it was too long, and it would be better off as a carousel post. And then got stuck in the "I'm unworthy" hamster wheel in my head as I ..read more

Photo by Jamez Picard on Unsplash The month of February is a lot of things - it’s Chinese New Year celebration with a long weekend. Or we could be in a panic mode because “OMG we are already in the middle of February - where did 2024 go? What have we done?” But I love February for the fact that it's the month of love, and it’s a reminder to me to invite more love into all areas of my life, not only on Valentine's day but every moment of every day. And it’s so timely that I woke up on Monday and the meditation I listened to from to the Dear Gabby app was about Love, or about “making love a hab ..read more

Photo by Rachel Kelli on Unsplash If you didn’t know this - I was 40 when I started IVF. There were a few things I wished I had done before starting. I absolutely have no regrets because I always trusted and believed that every decision I made was RIGHT for that moment in time. But with the information I have today, if I could go back in time, I would have done things differently and this is what I would tell my 40 year old self……… 1) Don’t jump straight into IVF, Sophie I know you feel overwhelmed, and you’d rather listen to the doctor because he’s the professional. And I know you’re af ..read more

Photo by Austin Neill on Unsplash How many of you are just winging your IVF journey? Hoping for the best, handling things as they come up? Just looking straight ahead, blinders on? Or did you meticulously plan what to do, what to eat? You read tons of books and research? Guess which team I fell into? Both! :) In the beginning, I was trudging through each appointments, just doing what the doctor asked me to do. I did a little reading, but left the technical stuff for my husband to digest and for the rest - for the doctor to explain. I DID NOT READ THE BOOK “IT STARTS WITH THE EGG” GASP All I c ..read more

Photo by Sapan Patel on Unsplash Welcome to my annual New Year ritual of journaling, celebrating, growing and embracing new beginnings as I release my highs and my lows of 2023 and declare my loving commitments for 2024. I’m more organised this year as the one lesson I took from the previous year is that reflections of the past and the future cannot be rushed nor forced, and there is no time limit on things I want to make happen, on my desires and my dreams. If you are thinking of doing this, and it feels overwhelming - just do this ONE journal prompt: What loving commitments can you make for ..read more

Photo by Sixteen Miles Out on Unsplash The year is coming to a close, take a moment to breathe that in. You did it!! And it's that time of the year again, to reflect and journal on what has happened in the past year, and create my "New Year of Possibilities" I used to call it my invented list to as they are real possibilities which I could commit to doing when I choose to. If you've been with me from the start of my blogging journey, you know that I hate new year resolutions. It feels like something you attach an expectation to (which comes with a lot of stresses and to-dos) and resolution is ..read more