Tori wrote in because she broke up with her ex due to some rocky moments and moved on with a new beau. The problem? Tori is not sure if she is still in love with her ex … especially after he professed his love for her. What should she do? “At the beginning of the summer I ended things with my partner of over a year. It was a wonderful relationship but there were rocky points, like me feeling like a second choice to their ex before me. I have kinda moved on and started dating someone else who is great. Although, sometimes I feel like I can’t really be myself around him. Out of no where me a ..read more

Anonymous wrote in because her boyfriend of over four years recently put a lock on his phone … and she saw a dating app notification pop up. What should she do? “My boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years and he has NEVER had a lock on his phone. Not once. And then two weeks ago he suddenly added the fingerprint lock to his phone? He says it’s because he “doesn’t want to use the password for the banking app” but it makes me feel some type of way. Especially since the banking app has its own fingerprint lock option. He didn’t need to lock his whole phone. I also recently saw a n ..read more

Anonymous wrote in because she has had a “friends with benefits” for four years. But now he said that he has a new girlfriend, and Anonymous is devastated. What should she do? “For the past 4 years, I have been in a “friends with benefits” situation with a man, J. He’s been a good friend to me and my children. His kid, who is of similar age to mine, is also a good friend. We’ve helped each other a lot over the past 4 years, our lives becoming always more intertwined, but always refusing to label ourselves as a couple. Hardly anyone knew that in addition to being friends we were sleeping to ..read more

Hi Mom and Spawn! I have a huge crush on one of my male colleagues and don’t know what to do! We’re really good friends and hang out during lunch at and sometimes outside of work. We became close last year but he has a girlfriend. Over the summer he told me he had feelings for me but things were “complicated” with the girl. Despite that, we still continue to text all the time and see each other every day. It has even gone as far as serious sexting. I feel bad that we are doing this and he still has his girlfriend, but I can’t stop. I also feel like with the amount of communication I have with ..read more

In this week’s column, “Always Suspicious Now” wrote in because her boyfriend lead her on for two years and now that they got serious, she found out he had a girlfriend for the first year and half of their “relationship.” Now, she wants to know how she can trust anyone ever again or if she will be stalking all of her future SO’s acquaintances. What do you think? @KimFriedmanNYC: Let’s burn this fuckboy’s life to the ground. @KateFriedmanSiegel: Yeah, wow. I’m sorry that happened! What an asshole! I am very glad to hear that you’re not considering taking him back, because HOLY JACKASSERY tha ..read more

“Dumped Over Text and Living with my Parents” wrote in because her long-term boyfriend broke up with her out of nowhere via text. She also moved in with her parents to save money as she starts a new job, but feels weird about dating while living with them. She also has some major trust issues. What should she do? “Hi Mom and Spawn! Recently my long-term boyfriend broke up with me over text while I was on vacation. This guy was supposed to be “the One,” he talked about wanting to be with me forever, we had planned to get married, etc. We have had no problems so there were zero warning signs ..read more

Mackenzie wrote in because she is constantly fighting with her mom. She thought it would get better after going away for school, but it hasn’t made the fighting stop. What should she do? “So I have a rocky relationship with my mom. I’m only 19 and I know that typically teenage girls have hard times with their mothers, but my friends have all seemed to have gotten out of that phase and are able to enjoy their relationships with their moms. I’m still in the “my mom is driving me crazy” phase. I went away to college this year (woohoo!) and it seemed to get better when I was away, but still no ..read more

Christen wrote in because she found her boyfriend’s secret Tinder messages a few years ago … and can’t get them out of her head even though he deleted the app. He also doesn’t seem sorry for what he did. What should she do? “Me and my boyfriend started a relationship October 2017, before he took a year off of school to do community service in a different state. He came home to celebrate Fourth of July with me and friend at my house. The night before, I noticed a message from Tinder pop up and that threw me for a loop. I confronted him a little too harshly, maybe, and made him show me his m ..read more

Emma wrote in because her and her boyfriend know they want to marry and have kids in the future, but he wants to wait five years before setting a wedding date. She understands wanting to save up money, but she also doesn’t want to wait that long. What should she do? “My boyfriend and I have agreed that marriage and children are in our future, but we have different opinions about timing. I’m in dental school and have three years left before I graduate. He thinks we should wait until after I graduate to get engaged, and then have a two year engagement while we focus on paying down my student ..read more

Lost wrote in because her BF cheated on her … but they live in the same apartment building. She asked him to not renew his lease (which he didn’t do) and now she changed her schedule to avoid him. Yet, the thought of living near him isn’t helping. What should she do? “Hi mom and spawn. I’m currently feeling very lost and I’m hoping to get some advice. I was in a relationship for 9 months with a guy and we broke up 2 months ago when he admitted he cheated. Problem is, he lives in my same apartment building, which was great while we were together but seriously sucks now. When we broke up, I ..read more