Anti-fatness, COVID blame, and Competent Care
Royally Incomplete
by theinbetweenqueen
2y ago
Yesterday, I tested positive for COVID-19. It’s been something I’ve feared for the past twenty months, especially working in a place and a profession where there are high volumes of people everyday. I am lucky to be twice vaccinated, and live in a state that takes vaccination really seriously among its residents. Ever since the claim that higher-weight people are at higher risk for COVID-19 was established early on in the pandemic, I along with many other fat people in the United States have felt the burden of moral panic attached to this virus. The weird irony is that, presently, over 75% of ..read more
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Lizzo’s cleanse isn’t the issue; the way we discuss bodies is
Royally Incomplete
by theinbetweenqueen
3y ago
If you are active on social media the way that I am, you have probably seen the latest in Lizzo tea. Yes, she went on a juice cleanse. Yes, she, a grown ass woman, had to defend herself for her choices. Yes, the internet lost their collective shit about it. I scrolled through the criticisms and supportive comments alike to get to the situation, but mostly relied on Lizzo herself to put the pieces together. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Lizzo (@lizzobeeating) After all, it is her body. People said she was promoting starvation and disordered eating by going on a juice cleans ..read more
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Unlearning Fatphobia is Your Responsibility, Full Stop
Royally Incomplete
by theinbetweenqueen
4y ago
Around two years ago, I was still in graduate school, still in semi-early recovery (again), and still trying to navigate support groups and fat acceptance all at once. As a recovery practice, I began getting comfortable with using the word ‘fat’ as a self-descriptor around in my shares at group and in conversations–until I was called out and told not to come back until I could figure out my language and how to stop saying ‘fat’ because it was triggering to others. I understood that. I understand that for so many people, fatness is a fear, and that fear can coexist with a mental illness (like a ..read more
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How and Why I Quit Therapy
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by theinbetweenqueen
4y ago
Therapy is magical. Seeing a therapist has been part of my life and my story since I was eight years old. I started in a small office in an old, two-story Victorian style house a few towns away when my parents got divorced. We’d get Wendy’s on the way there right after school. Mostly, my therapist Barbara and I played board games and drew about my feelings. I wrote poems. I talked about not feeling like I belonged at the Catholic school I went to, and the confusion of all of it happening to me at once. In fourth and fifth grade, we had a group at school called “Banana Splits” where we met wee ..read more
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A Shout-Out to My Gastroenterologist
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by theinbetweenqueen
4y ago
I recently went to my gastroenterologist for a consulting visit before my scheduled procedure in April and I was so honestly happy with the outcomes. When I began the process of seeking out treatment for my stomach issues (which are related directly to my anxiety, have been persisting for years, and likely were made more difficult due to my ED behaviors), I was really nervous and didn’t know what to expect. A family history of GI-related illnesses (Crohn’s, celiac disease) runs in my family, and I had been experiencing symptoms for the past few months that were indicative of something needing ..read more
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Stop Using “Rule 62” to Dismiss Women
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by theinbetweenqueen
4y ago
This 2020, I spent New Year’s Eve with my friends who are sober–most of whom are members of Alcoholics Anonymous (I am not). I was discussing sobriety with a man I had just met upon walking in the door to my good friends’ house on the water on the south shore of Long Island–the designated gathering place for 50+ sober people at any given time on a holiday such as July 4th, MDW, and this year, NYE. I mentioned the unfortunate lack of consideration for folks with eating disorders like myself in the program of AA–especially considering that so many women (approximately 50%) experience comorbid sy ..read more
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So, I joined a gym: Week 1
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by theinbetweenqueen
4y ago
During and after college, I used to be an avid attendee at my local Planet Fitness. Then exercise bulimia got in the way. I would often go to the gym twice a day, especially after bingeing on dining hall food to the point where I would make myself sick. Exercise became a punishment, a compensation, a labor. I took this behavior home with me after graduating from college, too, even when I started to recognize my eating disorder for what it really was–a disorder. I was obsessed with my body and food and unwilling to compromise with myself. I slowly began to resent the gym and movement pretty mu ..read more
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I Wrote a Book! Royally Incomplete is now a full length book
Royally Incomplete
by theinbetweenqueen
4y ago
What an exciting summer it has been!   Y’all know I’ve been writing a book–and that book is finally HERE! I’ve poured my soul into writing and editing Royally Incomplete for the past three years; we’ve been through life changes, brand changes, name changes, and body changes. I’m so proud to present my blog, in book form, plus a little extra.   I’ve been working with Eliezer Tristan Publishing, an indie publishing house that focuses on mental health narratives and stories. I am so grateful to have been writing this blog for the past three years, because it flowed so seamlessly into a book. The ..read more
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Fat acceptance helped me recover from my eating disorders
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by theinbetweenqueen
5y ago
What is the ‘fat acceptance movement’? There’s a lot said about it on many corners of the internet. Recently on Instagram, there’s been a lot of discussion on fat acceptance–particularly due to the release of a controversial indie ‘documentary’ that has solicited, harmed and pissed off fat and/or recovering content creators alike on various platforms.     There are so many opinions, ideas and even myths about what the fat acceptance movement truly is at its core–and even more speculation and bias regarding how it helps people. I can only speak to my own experience, but I hope that in sharing ..read more
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Body Love Bookclub — Beginning this Month!
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by theinbetweenqueen
5y ago
I am so excited to announce this! Me, a few registered dietitians and influencers on Instagram are starting a BODY LOVE BOOK CLUB!!!!   We are going to be reading a book monthly, in the realm of fat studies, fat acceptance, body love, body acceptance, weight science, and anti-diet culture.   This month’s book, which I chose to kick us off, is Body Respect by Linda Bacon and Lucy Aphramour. I chose this book as a starter because it so clearly and concisely discusses the nuances behind dieting research, myths about weight science that have been perpetuated by several industries across the last ..read more
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