21 On the appointed day Herod, wearing his royal robes, sat on his throne and delivered a public address to the people. 22 They shouted, “This is the voice of a god, not of a man.” 23 Immediately, because Herod did not give praise to God, an angel of the Lord struck him down, and he was eaten by worms and … The post Blinding Arrogance and Contempt appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. -Genesis 2:24-25, KJV Some Cheaters are so entitled that they treat their spouse as just another option. This entitlement … The post A spouse is NOT just another Option! appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him. -I John 3:6, NIV Does the cheater willingly admit the cheating was sin? Or is the cheating minimized as something less than wrong? Does the cheater try to “justify” the cheating and lying as “not … The post First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

One of the hardest things to do is leave a Cheater when they hold financial power over you. You married under the premise that you’d share the bills and set up a joint household. “What’s yours is mine.” Then you discover the cheating… Maybe they even hold you in contempt for not bringing in significant … The post Vulnerability and terror. appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

It only takes one to end the marriage. So often this fact is missed in the evangelical church. They teach as if both have a say in the marriage ending. That is simply not always the case. Many have experienced the double trauma of being cheated on and then discarded by the cheater. Without knowing … The post Can be one’s sole decision. appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

Their mother is a shameless prostitute     and became pregnant in a shameful way. She said, ‘I’ll run after other lovers     and sell myself to them for food and water, for clothing of wool and linen,     and for olive oil and drinks.’ -Hosea 2:5, NLT What if those Christian leaders or therapists had provided strong medicine … The post Strong Medicine Needed!! appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

Listen to this catchy new country song by Cam: The temptation is to blame the other person involved with our cheater. It is easier to focus our rage at them as opposed to the real source of our hurt. The cheater. I love the lyrics in this song talking about blaming the Other Woman as … The post The REAL problem! appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

Moses’ arms soon became so tired he could no longer hold them up. So Aaron and Hur found a stone for him to sit on. Then they stood on each side of Moses, holding up his hands. So his hands held steady until sunset. -Exodus 17:12, NLT We all need an “Aaron” and a “Hur” … The post Need Supportive Voices appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

Cheated On Support Group Starting Tuesday, May 7th! At Destiny Church, Rochester, MN I have decided that it is time to launch an in-person support group for faithful spouses and their supporters. This support group will start in Rochester (MN), and I will see what response I find from folks. If it goes well, I … The post Cheated On Support Group Coming!!! appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more

Hate evil and love what is good;     turn your courts into true halls of justice. Perhaps even yet the Lord God of Heaven’s Armies     will have mercy on the remnant of his people. -Amos 5:15, NLT I am a firm believer that injustice must first be acknowledged before we can heal from it. This step is often skipped in … The post Skipping over the injustice part appeared first on Divorce Minister ..read more