We’re in England. Our county was split into two local authorities a number of years ago, I was raised on one side but now live on the border and our home is considered to be on the other side. Having spoken to a number of adoptive parents from our current local area I do not want to use the RA our local council falls under, mainly as their support once placed is dismal, and having looked at the statistics for the VA that covers our region I am hesitant to use them also. I would like to register with the RA for the other side of our county, but am unsure if this is allowed given that we are te ..read more

Do adoption agencies look down on single people? Is this a red flag for them or something or do they just want to see that you have a support network? Thanks for any input. submitted by /u/Moni_HH [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Hi, My friends are about to adopt 2 children after a long long time trying. They are adopting a brother and sister aged 7 and 4. Id love to get them a gift that will be really helpful for them so thought I’d ask any adoptive parents or parents to be what you wish you were gifted / something you were gifted that you really liked. Would be very grateful for ideas! Thanks submitted by /u/Kaylynn-Langerak [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Hi all myself (f31) and my partner (m35) are looking to adopt. We do not know much about the process at all so any information on where to start would be helpful. I have been dealing with infertility for 8 years now, and was previously married from 2017-2021. The marriage ended due to the stress of inferility (5 rounds of failed treatment) and the fact my partner was very ill and we had a huge amount of pressure. We are still civil and are divorced. My current partner and I have been together for 2 years. We live in the home I own and he is a chef. I am currently an admin assistant for my loc ..read more

Hi all- I am doctoral student at Nova Southeastern University and I am currently looking for research participants for my dissertation study. My research is looking to explore the influence of the adoptive parent-adoptee dyad on the adult adoptee's romantic relationship in adulthood. I am currently looking for adult adoptees (aged 18 years or older) who are in romantic relationships, and who are open to taking a brief 10–15-minute survey. If you or someone you know is interested in participating in this research please feel free to visit the survey at the following link: https://forms.office ..read more

We are early in the process and I’ll be honest we don’t really know where to start. Do you have to pick either a VAA or LA to go with or can you be registered with both? I know that the LA seems to be local whereas a VAA is U.K. wide but I don’t really know what the other differences are. The amount of information online is both overwhelming but also a bit confusing so any information from people who are in it would be great. submitted by /u/Herps15 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I am a student at Penn State University and I am working on a project that aims to explore adoptees' perspectives on abortion. I am reaching out to invite adoptees to respond to a prompt, sharing their feelings on abortion. Your response can take any form you feel comfortable with— for example, a paragraph, a poem, a drawing, or a video. Prompts and directions to submit them are linked in a Google Doc attached below: https://docs.google.com/document/d/13LrpUzQKzoUhwyV4ezaaZpMPaWKEk4l58t8-3dq99TY/edit?usp=sharing As an adoptee myself, this is a topic I am often confronted with. There is often ..read more

We've been going through this process for close to a year now. No diversity seems to really be allowed. We felt scrutinised on every hint of diversity we represent. We moved here to avoid discrimination in our country. We went through hell in our life and still managed to get ourselves back on track. We have a child who is great, good jobs, been through therapy, we are healthy, active, we don't let our child watch too much telly, anything we'd assume a good parent should do, we try to do too. Yet from day 1 of this process, we felt our SW had a hidden agenda. She did not like the fact we have ..read more

Adoption has been on my heart since before we had our first birth child. We are thinking about the future of our family. I read many stories of people who have one birth child and adopt a second child, but almost never any more than that. We have three birth children and might have a fourth. Would we be struck off from adopting (either officially or unofficially) for basically having too many children already? I understand that adopted children need a lot of time and care and it would not be like having another birth child. I would be especially interested in adopting a sibling group because ..read more

After being approved to adopt we have explored a few matches and with one match we took it quite far but decided not to go ahead. There were some parts of the process the sw's didnt explain well and in places we felt unsupported. The whole process has left me not knowing what to do next. I just don't know if I want to continue and wondered if anyone has any experiences of withdrawing from the process at this point and if returning at a later date without going through approval again was an option? submitted by /u/Educational_Ad_9896 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more