Why have one dick when you can have two? No not a train.. We’re sex posi and do not subscribe to the sexist notion that an MFM equals a train but that instead means a whole lot of pleasure. We’re also not discussing the threesome, however instead the new Balldo, the apparent new world’s first ball dildo.  Balldo emulates the shape of a penis and is design to be place around the the balls. It has a couple of bands which holds the toy in place. I decided to watch the explanation video and I’m still confused on how it works or what the aim is. See here. It also looks incredibly flimsy ..read more

Your favourite sex and relationship agony aunt All dilemmas have been sent from real people and taken from www.simplyoloni.com/ask but answered in this feature Hi Oloni, my boyfriend is furious with me because I crashed his new BMW. I was at his house and he went to work(he’s a key worker) and I needed to use it to go shopping quick, so I didn’t tell him I was going to drive it. I’ve done it a few times with no issues. I’ve lost my job due to Covid and I can’t afford to pay the damages. He’s ignored all my calls and messages where I have tried to apologise. We haven’t spoken in a week. I’m sca ..read more

It’s not often talked about how women can also behave appallingly in relationships and if we are to tackle the way some men still treat women we have to hold women to account as well. Here at Simply Oloni, we are a sex-positive platform for everyone – especially our ladies – but also, to the wonderful male readers we have who support our fight for sexual liberation. So, this is for them. To provide them with the warning signs but also as a reminder for us to hold our friends to account if you see them treating a man horrendously. Or perhaps to the bad girlfriends who have stumbled across thi ..read more

Sex is great, but let’s face it, sometimes we’re not always in the mood to try a new sex position or any sex position for that matter. Our sex drive can dip allowing us to avoid intimacy.  It’s normal, especially for women. However, the FDA have recently approved a new drug in the US which is set to be released in September called Vyleesi. The drug has been hailed as the new “Viagra for women”. But is it really? Of course, Viagra is known for helping men maintain an erection during sex, but Vyleesi is a desire drug, used to help boost the libido of women. Bremelanotide which is Vyleesi’s chemi ..read more

Last week Sex Education was released and hit all our Netflix screens. The British series follows two best friends, Otis and Eric and a bunch of horny teenagers who are all on a sexual journey. They’re finding themselves, doing themselves, oh and of course.. other people. Otis’ sex therapist mum, played by Gillian Anderson, is the inspiration behind Otis and Maeve’s extracurricular “sex clinic”. I really enjoyed the show, so it only made sense for me to sing it’s praises by sharing what made it groundbreaking for me. Now this should go without saying, but for those who don’t know this will incl ..read more

Your favourite sex and relationship agony aunt All dilemmas have been sent from real people and taken from www.simplyoloni.com/ask but answered in this feature Hey Oloni, my boyfriend is my best friend and we’ve been together for a few years (he’s the only guy i’ve been with and vice versa). Problem: i’ve faked my orgasm every single time and now (the sex is great). I don’t know what to do because i’ve been faking it for so long so if if i suddenly stop he’ll be like what have i done different. Help!! Women fake orgasms all the time. As I’m typing this, thousands of women all over the world ar ..read more

Situationships, ghosting, the girlfriend fluffer and now breadcrumbing.. It might sound like new words are being used daily to create different scenarios in relationships, but they’ve always been there, there just wasn’t a word to explain what was going on. Breadcrumbing is when someone you may have an interest in doesn’t feel the exact same way, but enjoys getting your attention from time to time, giving you a bit of hope that you and them could go further, but it doesn’t. They come in and out of your life when they please by either liking a couple of your photos on the gram, start of an iMes ..read more

Being intimate with your sexual partner can be an enjoyable and wonderful feeling, but it can also be tricky. As great as the experience may be, there are times we might find ourselves regretting it. Not regretting the sex, but the fact that a condom wasn’t used or that it slipped off, broke and nothing was done about it in the heat of the time. During sex, that euphoric feeling can take over as you get lost in the moment, because, sometimes contraception isn’t always what’s on our mind during sex. So what happens now? Well, admittedly, I’ve found myself in this position before and I’m sure ma ..read more

The nostalgia right? I grew up watching Moesha, played by Brandy Noorwood in the mid 90’s and couldn’t wait to be a teenager so I could have a love life worth of diary entries like she did. There was so much about the sitcom I enjoyed, which is why I decided to compile a list of 9 things Moesha taught us about boys growing up. 1. In the pilot of Moesha, she dates Ohagi played by the late Merlin Santana, a soft spoken word poet, who was also dating another woman. Mo was left broken hearted when she found out, even after he wrote her a poem trying to “woo” her. It was then where I learned, that ..read more