In retelling an adventure I just had in Paris with my brilliant friend Michael Braverman, he shared with me his own personal encounter. Now our tales were not similar but it opened up a conversation about understanding ourselves as well as another’s difference.  Michael and I met a over decade ago in Los Angeles back when I worked in the film industry and ever since my 25th year, from time to time, we reunite, with tales old and new. On paper he’s a TV producer, but don’t let that put you off. His mind is one of the brightest I know. In dialogue I might give him a topic, he’ll give me a concor ..read more

(Christianna has been a student of mine this year, and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed pastoring her through her relationship. There is something valuable to learn from everyone’s story. This is their perspective in their relationship between Christianna and her boyfriend Peter Harrison) – Love Carrie xx ROLE PLAY Written by: Christianna Burkee & Peter Harrison I was raised to be incredibly independent and strong willed. At fourteen, I had my first job, and at six I wanted to be a world-renowned percussionist. I am eternally grateful for the drive and passion I grew up with. However, years later ..read more

I never like to dabble in formulas for the heart; tonics that make every relationship work. But I do feel there are a few things that, over my miniscule lifetime, I’ve discovered the reasons why we shouldn’t stay in the relationship. When is it time to go? And how long do we hold on before marriage? Some relationships I stayed in for too long, others I should have weighed it out and walked through the phase, knowing everyone has something to walk through. If we don’t have people advising us, if we don’t have family and friends whose wisdom we actually value and listen to, then we will always ..read more

Author: Christianna Burkee Oh the times when I was too worried about hurting someone’s feelings rather than the affect my dishonesty potentially had on someone. Times where my own insecurity of hurting someone weighed more important than simply delivering my honest opinion. Times that I agreed to go on dates I actually wasn’t interested in. Times I even (forgive me world) avoided a person at all costs because I was just too afraid of saying “no”.   No one looks forward to rejection. No one looks forward to being rejected. We are all humans with functioning hearts and a desire to be loved, pu ..read more

You can read Carrie Lloyd’s article for Match.com here ..read more

You can read my article for Huffington Post about breaking up well: here ..read more

Author: Alex Lentz Processed with VSCO with a6 preset Growing up, one of the main things I learned about beauty was: the longer the hair, the more beautiful you were. For most of my life, my hair was kept at a typical length but during my freshman year of high school, I chopped off my long, curly locks to support my grandma in her fight with cancer. I fell in love with having short locks, but felt such a huge pressure to prove myself as a woman now that I had a more “masculine” look. For years on and off, my hair was either pixie short or went past my shoulders but in 2015 I cut my hair to a n ..read more

(Part 3 of The Mighty Men Series) (Photo Credit: Faith Durham) (Location: The Lion at Alabaster Prayer House, Redding, CA). I remember when a man pummelled a woman’s head with the heaviest part of a telephone receiver in a phone box outside of Liverpool station. I remember getting out of my car down the street, screaming from a distance to save her life. Whoever she was. I remember him looking up, grasping from his violent breath, to see who had the audacity to interrupt him, leaving the half-conscious woman to now run after me. I remember the police being just around the corner. I remember h ..read more

My sincerest apologies for not posting much up on here for a few months, but on top of my full time position as a pastor loving on my students like a mother to her newborn, me and the team at Red Arrow Media have been launching my second book, Prude: Misconceptions of a Neo-Virgin. What delights me about the journey is that girls are emailing me with subject titles ‘Hey – I’m a Neo-Virgin’. The term invented by my mother during an afternoon tea in England, has now become a frequented word used on the lips of a friendly stranger. My time in New York was filled with beauty and raw, guttural ho ..read more

My interview with Olivia Marks from Vice Magazine. A little tongue-in-cheek. But enjoy. You can read it here ..read more