Hello readers and Happy Fathers day! Many sunsets, a disappointing Superbowl and over a year has passed since my last article on here. The last time I wrote we were in the midst of a quarantine and depression had punched me in the gut. Over a year later, I have given depression a kick out of the door and continue to grow myself as a man, husband, father and counselor. I  recently celebrated one year of doing just private counseling. Last year, I was worried that with the pandemic going on, that I wouldn't make ends meet or have enough clients. Both those fears have been proven wrong. The ..read more

Last fall, my wife and I went to see the movie “Overcomer.” in the theaters. The movie tackles the question of where our identity is found in. In fact, questions of identity is something many of us have and will tackle through out our life. We ask ourselves the questions that philosophers and theologians have pondered throughout time. Who am I? What is my purpose? Where do I find meaning? In the film, John, played by Alex Kendrick, has an encounter with Thomas, a man with a plethora of health issues is bedridden in the hospital. John is posed the question from Thomas, “Who are you?” John ru ..read more

Happy New Year 2020! It is January 1st 2020 and I hope all of you reading this had a wonderful Christmas and holiday season.  Many  people put out a top ten list of best and worst events, movies, books, etc.  For my first entry on my blog site of this year and decade, I wanted to take a look back on the pivotal moments that shaped me.  The last decade was a time of discovery and finding me.  The last decade taught me that it is never too late to finding passion, courage to take on new tasks and leaping into new adventure.  My intent is not to point and say hey look at me.  Rather, it is ..read more

Hello and welcome to the latest at Dads-Unite.  My first post for 2019.  I'm not writing quite as much but will update as ideas keep popping into my head.  I hope this finds you well and in a state of grace.  The title says it all.  Over the last couple of years, I have met with many clients that struggle with feeling valued let alone favored.  Some have fought with guilt over sin or past behavior.  I have been involved with Celebrate Recovery, a support group I can't recommend enough.  C.R. as us veterans like to call it has a tagline :  For anyone with a hurt, habit, or hangup.  That ..read more

​I'm back!  Hello all of you courageous readers of my blog.  Several months ago, I took a sabbatical from writing on here.  It was a time to introspect without bringing it to the masses.  The last few months have been a sort of a time for reflection and looking forward.  My wife and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary by traveling to Arkansas and discovering just how curvy of roads they have down there.  Seriously, are there actually any straight roads in Arkansas?   In the last few months, I have taken on a new job as a part time counselor at Armstrong Family Counseling in Overland P ..read more

Hello,  Dads-Unite is going on sabatical for the foreseeable future.  After almost 4 years of writing, I have decided it's time for a change.   As much as I love writing articles and posting them for all to see, I have begun to wonder why I keep doing it.  When this blog started, I was wanting to have an impact on predominantly men and fathers.  But then it started morphing and transforming into something different.  It became a forum for  me to express my thoughts.  This place allowed me to have a complete voice about my life, it's joys and challenges.  I have never gotten a lot of fee ..read more

Hello readers and curious seekers.  A little different post today.  In fact, this writing today may not be very long.  Hold your applause on that!  I was visiting with my nephew the other day.  We were sitting in my car talking about being perfect and the realization is that it's okay not to be perfect.  Because while we strive for it, we will never achieve perfection. He and I are both perfectionists in some of areas of our lives.  We both get down when we make a mistake or an outcome occurs that we hadn't anticipated or don't necessarily want. The title for this article came to me at church ..read more

The enthusiasm quickly dimmed.  The incline was getting steeper, the rain and wind unrelenting.  Red mud and water mixed into the soles of my hiking shoes.  Strength was leaving my body in waves.  Another step...out of breath.   Another step...sweat pouring out of me.  Half way point and I looked up.  A long way to go.  More climbing.  Wife and son making better progress than I.  Half way up and I found myself totally alone.  Left to ponder my thoughts.  The voice inside said I was spent.  Time to throw in the towel and walk back down the mountain.  I stopped.  I looked back down the trail ..read more

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