I was at dinner tonight with my gf and this Eastern European woman and her family were bullying me, saying "ew what is that" and legit staring daggers at me. At one point they started taking pictures of me. I stared deep into the woman's soul until she broke her gaze and she wouldn't look at me anymore. I said "are you photographing me?" They got freaked out and asked for their food to go and then left. I was like ?????? Weird experience, but I feel like I won. But still, I hate that this happens to me and it makes me want to get a conceal carry someday for when one of these people potentiall ..read more

Hey you all, for reference I’m 4’11. I’m gonna go suit shopping tomorrow and is there anything I need to know? I think I know what to do, but sometimes I’m a bit short sighted on what does or doesn’t fit me ? It doesn’t have to be this exactly, I’m willing to change my mind or adapt. But I’m trying to get a nice long white sleeved button up, black dress pants, black dress shoes, and maybeee black suspenders if I can find them. I’ll be buying my pants from women’s, some friends told me to buy straight women’s dress pants and will that work out? I know it’s a long shot but do they have nice poc ..read more

I just want a hairy blue collar country butch ? Any good app/website recommendations for this type? submitted by /u/sophia-812 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

ive only had short hair for about 6 months now, and i still have no idea how to style it or how to get it cut how i like. (my friend has cut it both times ive had it done recently) i feel like it just looks like a helmet/bowl on my head because of how thick and straight it is? any tips on how to make it look better or specific cuts you think would look good? submitted by /u/Beautiful-Piccolo670 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

Fashion and Safety: My friends and I are planning a study abroad in Aix-en-Provence (or possibly Paris) next Spring. Of course, my cis-women friends are talking about fashion (they don’t want to look like the stereotypical American tourist lol). I know there’s no one type of butch fashion, but it’s got me wondering about butch and gender-non-conforming fashion in France. And beyond that, what is it like bring GNC there? I know how to contend with ignorant people here, but how accepting is it there? Are there precautions I should take? All I know about is from living in America, and most of th ..read more

Posted something similar to this elsewhere anonymously and was told this sub had people like myself. Apologies in advance for the length, and I super appreciate anyone who reads this whole thing. Came out as a lesbian at some point in my mid-teens, and then nonbinary a ways later. Back then, I didn’t know nonbinary lesbians existed, so I struggled to find a word for my sexuality. And then, in my late teens, I switched from identifying as nonbinary to identifying as a transman. But something about that always hurt. By saying I was a man, I’d lost a part of my identity that was incredibly preci ..read more

The novelty of being performatively femme has almost worn out and I wanna just go back to my shorts and loose clothes and short nails and picked up hair. Am I slowly just wrapping around my gender to the starting point? submitted by /u/AlexTheSwan [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I don't know if I'm butch or transmasc or what but I love it when people call me "dude" or "man" or "boss" or use he/him around me, I love doing masculine things and I like being strong, I like hanging out in a group of men and being "one of the guys" it makes me feel so happy submitted by /u/actuallynotbisexual [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

I’ve had long wavy/curly hair until recently (cause I’ve cut it) and I’m now struggling with poofy hair…I know a lot about maintaining long hair with oils and stuff but short hair is another beast! It defies gravity and I fear I look like one of those annoying bmx radical 2014 hipster dudes it’s so evil!!!! I do not want a poof! With long hair you are not supposed to put too much leave in product on because it weighs your hair down and can strain the hair and cause breakage…and since my hair is poofy I was wondering if perhaps for short hair you are supposed to add more product…to weigh it do ..read more

I'm sure this gets asked frequently but I've just discovered this sub today. are there any longer hairstyle suggestions that still look masculine? I'm fat and short, so I'm pretty insecure in how round/soft my face is (I'm afraid it makes me look more feminine)... I'm worried having short cropped hair will only bring attention to that and, if I can sound so vain, look unflattering. I'm currently in the process of growing out the mullet i've had for the past five years. I feel like I can't win because my hair being longer also makes me feel feminine, but I like to wear my hair in a claw clip o ..read more