In the last year and a half, many of us have experienced some of the most dramatic shifts we’ve ever seen, both individually and globally. You already know from my emails and blogs that I’ve been poised in the “in between,” slowing down, taking inventory, reflecting on where I’ve been, and allowing my world to be a blank slate in order to determine where to go next, when resisting the temptation to arrive at any final answers and solutions. Believe me, both 2020 and 2021 have been exercises for all of us to maintain a sense of presence and patience with “what is”. Over the last couple years ..read more

Not long ago, I found myself in the kind of situation that has always been painful for me. I had been preparing for a huge event for several months, and every single person who meant something to me knew about it. They knew all about my passion, as well as the blood, sweat, and tears that had gone into my efforts. More than anything, they knew these efforts were all about building sisterhood and community—and community means nothing if it is not backed up by support. For me, support isn’t simply sentiments of affirmation, but rather, tangible actions centered around showing up.  So when ..read more

In honor of my upcoming retreat, The Power of Sisterhood, I’d like to share the following passage from my book, Your Messy Brilliance: 7 Tools for the Perfectly Imperfect Woman. It was written to celebrate the delicate, but unbreakable bonds that connect all women across time and space. Particularly in this time, as we re-emerge into the kinds of friendships and communities that will strengthen us through difficult times, may we always remember our own creative genius and innate power, especially when we come face-to-face with another sister and see ourselves mirrored in her. So, how exactly ..read more

How are you doing these days? I am sure this question will bring up all the feels. Maybe some sadness, confusion, joy, anger, even numbness—or a lively combination of everything in between. After the year we’ve all lived through, a ray of hope is probably beaming into the mixture. If you’re anything like me, it’s likely you’re spending some of your time preparing to emerge from what I think of as the “space in between.” The space in between is a rich and fertile region where everything and nothing in particular is happening. When you’re feeling impatient, out of sorts, or mired in the busy-ne ..read more

I have never been a well-behaved woman. I am an untamable storm, A paradox, A loud noise—soothing melody, A caged bird with broken wings, Daring to break free. I have never been a well-behaved woman, Never learned to be. Why would I want to be? The steady ground where I walk shakes at the touch of my feet. I heard once well-behaved women seldom make history. Unconventional Goddesses, The ones who fought the hardest For me to run free. I am who they envisioned for me. I have never been a well-behaved woman. I could never be, Even if I tried. I know Because I have, And failed each time. To be a ..read more

How do you know your “no”? I’m not just talking about any old no—I’m talking about your deal breakers. Your “HELL NO!” You know, those things in your life that take you to the breaking point of your tolerance. Those things that drain you of your energy and turn you into that person you’d really rather not be!  How does that “no” show up for you? Maybe you feel it as a flush on your skin, an edge in your voice, a pit in your stomach, or a panicky flutter of your heart.  But let me ask you—how often do you act on that “no?” Even when the alarm bells are ringing inside, do you usu ..read more

Lately, I’ve been in a very interesting place. A place I consider almost mystical. It’s simultaneously internal and expansive. Inside this place, I can feel myself surrendering to a greater intelligence than I have words for. As I take the time to intentionally reconnect with my body, mind, and spirit—in such a way that I’m fully connected to my intuitive voice and my awareness of how I want to show up in the world—a lot of beautiful signs have begun to reveal themselves to me.  For one thing, I recently met a medicine woman who helped me recognize my desire to align with my inner knowin ..read more

We are all diving into a dark night of the soul—and we are feeling its impacts on multiple levels, individually and collectively. A lot of people in my life are hurting. It probably goes without saying that this is completely understandable given the time that we are living in currently. I’ve personally had seven friends in crisis this past month alone—extremely close loved ones who are dealing with major issues: death and bereavement, illness and uncertainty. They are facing trials and tribulations that are requiring all their strength—and it can sometimes feel devastating to witness them in ..read more

Last week, we witnessed a horrifying moment in our nation’s (and indeed, the world’s) history. It’s something many of us feared for several months, if not years. We all witnessed the hateful, dangerous, and deliberately divisive rhetoric of the outgoing president boil over into an attempted overthrow of our already fragile democracy. It’s become crystal clear that when the nation’s political right appeals to “law and order,” it’s all about the version of law and order they’ve imposed—which is all too obvious given their treatment of the people who tirelessly marched for justice after George F ..read more

It’s no secret: The idea of messiness gets a bad rap. So often, when women hear me say the word messy, the worst possible images come to mind: a house full of chaos, dirty dishes, and screaming kids; a head that’s spinning with worst-case scenarios; a person who can’t get their shit together no matter how hard they try. And now, in the wake of so much chaos being enacted on our political stage, the idea of messiness has extended to images of a mob storming the Capitol Building. It has extended to the general sense of confusion and division we experience on social media, the handling of affair ..read more