Let's bust a big fat myth today… I’m sure you’ve heard that the best way to have a great marriage is to never go to bed angry.  It’s concerning to me that couples will literally stay up all night going around and around with the same argument because they are trying to stick to this rule.  I dunno about you but that sounds like a one-way ticket to complete exhaustion and a week of trying to make up for lost sleep.    This rule is damaging because it doesn’t take into account the amount of damage that can be done by continuing to fight when you’re dysregulated. It doesn ..read more

One of the hardest things about being a couples therapist is seeing how long people wait before they come to therapy.  The average couple will struggle with issues for around six years before seeking help. This is problematic, because the more time that goes on, the more resentment builds and this increases the amount of time couples spend in therapy.  There are many reasons that couples delay coming to therapy.  Some include: ❌ If you attend couples therapy that means you’re not strong enough to deal with things on your own.  ❌ If you avoid the problems, then things will g ..read more

Rekindling Connection: Nurturing Your Relationship in Rancho Cucamonga The Ebb and Flow of Romantic Relationships The beginning of your romantic relationship is usually when you and your partner feel the most connected. You stay up all night talking on the phone and are in constant contact about how you’re feeling and what you’re doing. You make a lot of time for intentional connection and dreaming together.   As time passes, you get the house, the car, the kids… all the things you dreamed of together when you first started your relationship. You don’t stop dreaming, but  you st ..read more

In the craziness of your daily lives, it's common for couples to forget to give their marriage some TLC. You know, life gets busy, and we get caught up in the whirlwind.  But here's the deal – taking care of your relationship is a big deal! In my practice, I help couples recover from affairs and other trust violations. Part of the process is understanding how they got to the place where an affair was a possibility.  I want to share the nitty-gritty stuff you can do to keep your marriage strong. We're talking about building a fortress against potential relationship hiccups and the de ..read more

Unlocking New Avenues for Mental Health in the Golden State Southern California, renowned for its sunny beaches, is not immune to the challenges of depression, anxiety, and emotional trauma. In this blog post, we delve into the realm of Ketamine Therapy and Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, guiding you to the resources you need for genuine healing. Ketamine Therapy Clinics: A Glimpse into Immediate Relief Ketamine Therapy vs. Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy: Understanding the Nuances Ketamine clinics have become widespread in Southern California, promising relief from depression and anxiety. Ho ..read more

Analyzing the Circumstances: Accurate Information Amidst Sensationalism Over the weekend, various media outlets reported the unfortunate passing of Matthew Perry, attributing it to the acute effects of ketamine. In the midst of mourning, it is crucial to sift through the sensationalism often presented for clickbait and ratings, ensuring accurate information reaches the public. Matthew Perry's Ketamine Infusion Treatments: Setting the Record Straight Understanding the Treatment Journey: Ketamine Infusion Insights Contrary to initial reports, Matthew Perry was undergoing ketamine infusion treatm ..read more

Living in or around #RanchoCucamonga is wonderful, there’s so much to see and do in Rancho Cucamonga and the surrounding areas. There is also fantastic shopping and some of the best business in Rancho Cucamonga. But what happens when you and your spouse can’t enjoy all of what the city has to offer because you keep getting into the same ruts in your marriage? When you know it’s time to see a marriage counselor, you probably begin by googling Marriage Counseling in Rancho Cucamonga, and you will find some amazing marriage counselors in Rancho Cucamonga! But the next step isn’t always so clear ..read more

When that rage burns through your body like a dragon breathing fire because you feel like your partner is just never going to get it, do you feel like just burning it all down?  Do you want to throw in the towel and wave your white flag?  Do you feel like locking the front door and just walking away completely?  I feel your pain.  I know it feels like things will never get better.  I know these cycles can make you become paralyzed and withdrawn and it makes it hard to focus on your work and your kids.  That feeling is terrible - feeling so stuck and not kno ..read more

“Five minutes to freedom.”  “15 minutes a day to make six figures.” “Change your entire life with this hack”  I don't know about you but my IG feed is FULL of clickbait titles like this. My email inbox is also full of headlines like this.  Social media and marketing are made to grab our attention and pull on our heart strings. People want to sell us on the notion that we aren't good enough without whatever they have to sell us.  The therapy space is a little different. I’m not a coach. I’ll never claim to be a guru, and I’ll never splash photos of me and my husband ac ..read more

Finding a marriage counselor in any city is hard! Living in Rancho Cucamonga you are thankfully in a nicely populated area that gives you a few choices when it comes to marriage counseling. So let’s say you’ve done the legwork - searched google, yelp, and maybe asked around to a couple of friends and you’ve gotten a list of marriage counselors that seem nice enough. They will likely offer a free phone consultation, but what should you say and ask when you get on the phone?  Questions to ask a marriage counselor in Rancho Cucamonga I know how hard it is to find a great therapist! You migh ..read more