Collaborative Couple Therapy - Daniel B. Wile
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Daniel B. Wile is in private practice in Oakland, California. He is a clinical psychologist with forty years experience as a couple therapist. In Collaborative Couple Therapy, loss of voice is substituted for resistance as the key pathological element.
Collaborative Couple Therapy - Daniel B. Wile
4y ago
In their first couple therapy session, Bonnie and Greg present their problems in broad outlines. I want to get to examples. It is only by hearing what partners actually say to each other in specific situations that it’s possible to help them come up with the needed conversation. Before shifting to examples, however, I want ..read more
Collaborative Couple Therapy - Daniel B. Wile
5y ago
At the root of Collaborative Couple Therapy is the idea that partners in a problematic exchange are in need of a conversation—a conversation of reconciliation in the case of partners who have been fighting and reconnection in the case of partners who are withdrawn. My job, in addition to helping initiate the needed conversation, is ..read more
Collaborative Couple Therapy - Daniel B. Wile
5y ago
At the end of each session, I ask, “What’s been disappointing about the session and what about it, if anything, has been useful?” If the session has been clearly useful, I omit the “if anything.” If the session has been clearly difficult, I emphasize the “if anything.” If “disappointing” seems too mild a word given ..read more