It isn’t possible to have a good and trusting relationship with your partner if you are not running the best version of yourself. How you talk to yourself – the language you use when formulating your thoughts – has a massive input on how you see others and how you respond to the world around […] The post Hints to Help You appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more

Today’s post is completely different from all others. I will be closing down my coaching services at the end of March 2021. Like all people who face a change of direction or contemplate retirement (in my case), challenges appear.  For many, it can feel daunting. For those contemplating retirement, you can face questions like: What […] The post Retirement appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more

How do you approach different aspects of your day and your life? We all know if we turn up to work in a bad mood then mostly we will have a miserable day.  The day drags!   A negative state can give us a negative day. How do you approach your relationship? The same applies […] The post Train your emotional muscle appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more

I have written a few times on the subject of teasing and how damaging it can be to a relationship. Of course, teasing has its place,  however, it can be damaging – especially in public.  Those moments when you are together amongst friends, colleagues or family.  They may see it as your banter and accept […] The post Are your behaviours kind? appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more

When your relationship is in crisis you can find yourself on the defensive and angry. You will also probably blame your partner. You can feel they have changed their behaviours and created a version of themselves which you dislike.  But what about you?  Are you also responsible?  The answer is YES. If you are also […] The post Would you like to be on the receiving end of you? appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more

Most people create lists In a relationship the type of lists you create can have a good or bad effect on your partner. So what type of lists do you create  (either written down or in your mind) – you can have as many as you like. There are the many types of Lists.  For […] The post Do you create lists – and if so what’s on them? appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more

Which emotion is running you? Today I want to give you some pointers which could well be affecting your relationship. You see when we feel we aren’t getting what we want from our relationship, and by this, I mean a relationship which has been successful in the past, then our emotions can run riot and […] The post If you are in a bad place ask yourself the following appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more

We all have different versions of ourselves that we use in different situations. Good relationships don’t stay good without a deep and committed understanding of yourself and who you are, however by habitually using the wrong version of you for your partner you may not be getting the best from your relationhip. So my question […] The post Which version of you shows up with your partner? appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more

This week I’m again reposting a previous post as I see so many couples lost in confusion about how to solve their problems. So I’m repeating some useful tips: Be courageous Couples who succeed have learnt to be truthful and to give love no matter what.  During difficult and painful times they know how to […] The post Find out how to give yourself success appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more

Today I am revisiting the subject of teasing I’m sure most of you have been teased at some stage in your life and on the whole, people only tease those they are fond of. But teasing can get out of hand. It can also be unkind, belittling or even emasculating. None of us is in […] The post Before you tease – be sure your teasing is kind appeared first on Linden Porter - Relationship Coach ..read more