I dare you to tell me I can’t do something. I love — seriously LOVE — when the odds are stacked against me. I don’t know where I got the personality trait, because my upbringing certainly wouldn’t have been an one that made me so perseverant. My father was coddled by his mom and his stepfather. When he needed money and was short, they would give him money. He worked the bare minimum. He was a stock broker in New York, he would get there right at 9:00, leave right at 5:00, take the same train home every single day . Take the same train in Grand Central, every single morning. Play golf at the s ..read more

This is going to be very simple. Not going to be long. It’s going to be something you’ll be able to read every single day. This is written for all of you who have the sure-thing mentality. You know who you are. You try something once. It doesn’t work. So you’re on to the next magical cure. You’ll buy a program. The program doesn’t work. Because you tried it once, wasn’t a sure-thing, and then you e-mail the person you bought the program from. What do you do? You ask for a refund. You’re somebody that’s always blaming other things, programs, people, circumstances, on your shortcomings. I’m goin ..read more

Go ahead and complain. Go for it, I don’t want to hear it at all. You know the old funny saying, how are you doing today? The pessimist will always say, you don’t really want to know, do you? I remember the first time someone said that to me. I looked at them and I said, no, you’re right, I don’t. And I walked away. Yeah, I could have asked. I could have had them vomit their negativity all over me. That’s always fun. It’s always an enjoyable process to have negativity thrown up all over you. I want you to ask yourself this question right now, and I want you to be honest with yourself. We all h ..read more

I have dated women of all ages. I’ve had relationships with women 15 years younger. I’ve had relationships with women 3 years younger. I’ve had relationships with women my own age. And I can tell you, there’s a big difference at times. Sometimes when you’re dating a younger woman, you almost feel like it’s your child. I’m not one of those creepy men that date women 30 years younger than then and come up with, “she’s really mature for her age.” I love that. She’s not mature for her fucking age. That’s your penis talking, dude. It’s basically your penis going, “Hey man, we really like to have se ..read more

I’m going to tell you something that’s really important for all of you… Get a hobby. Why? Because what a hobby does is get your creative mind going. One of the important things in life is to keep your brain stimulated at all times, and what hobbies do is exactly that. They keep your mind stimulated. I remember when I was a kid, I used to do model cars. We used to play with Legos. We used to draw. When our brains were developing, we actually had quite a lot of hobbies. We didn’t do a lot of sedentary things, but as adults, our hobbies tend to be watching a football game, watching a baseball gam ..read more

Shocking title, I know. Because you came to this website to read dating tips and advice from this guy, me, who’s been teaching people how to date and connect for 20 years. But, what I’m about to tell you is controversial and true. There’s no such thing as a fucking dating expert. None of the gurus you listen to, none of the people that give advice. They’re not dating experts. It doesn’t exist. I’m going to tell you exactly why. I started this thing, this industry. I was the first person that slept on people’s couches to coach them. I had people sleep at my house. But, I had never taught — nor ..read more

Today in this video, John Keegan explains why “To Compare is to Despair”: by comparing your self to others you are playing a dangerous game of self sabotage. True, a select few people use comparison to fuel their success, but those are far and few between. For this reason things such as social media, where people are painting this fake persona and picture of their (fake) “Perfect” lives, is extremely toxic to one’s mental health. It puts a halt on progression out of sheer jealousy and frustration. Be yourself don’t let others alter your path. The post To Compare Is To Despair: How To Control ..read more

Here is a message to all of you who believe in shortcuts. They do not exist. Let me explain why, and let me get through to you, finally. First, let’s look at your life. How many things have changed for you in an instant? To go even deeper, how many bad behaviors, lifelong thoughts, have changed for you? When you started doing something different, and it worked, right away? The answer’s going to be zero. Anything that changes in your life takes time. You’ll watch a lesson on something, whatever it might be. A lesson on how to work out. How to trade stocks. How to lose weight. Whatever it is. Yo ..read more

What do you say when a woman you’re interested in says, “I have a boyfriend”? Well, here are a few ways a guy like you can react. Pursue Her Anyway I’ve seen some guys do this, maybe because they think it’s “alpha,” or maybe because they think the girl is lying to them. As in, “There’s no way she’s dating someone else who’s not me, so I’m gonna go for it anyway.” Bad move, my friend. Stunts like these don’t come off as confident. They’re arrogant and abrasive. Walk Away This is where I’d say 99% of guys fall into. She says she has a boyfriend, so you just walk away with your head hung low in d ..read more

This is a message to all of you who think you can change somebody. You think you have those powers, those magical powers of being a change agent, and being able to change somebody. But, here’s reality for you. You can’t change somebody. You can be their cheerleader. You can support them. You can hope and wish and pray, and say man, if they only would change this about themselves, they’d be great to be in a relationship with. Well, let me tell you something: they may like who they are. That’s right. They may like being stuck. They may like being overweight. They may like everything about them ..read more