It’s been about a year but my ex is still in my thoughts throughout the day - the sadness, the regret, the wishful thinking, etc. I feel like i need to meet someone new or I’ll spend the rest of my damn life like a ghost observing life from my little house. But the thought of it just makes me bleak. I’ve tried dating websites and that was horrible, I can’t ever see myself finding someone real (literally that isn’t an AI?) on there. I know I need to join groups etc and I’m quite capable of that, but the actual thought of doing these things with that motivation makes it feel like a ridiculously ..read more

I just want closure from it all. I know I've lost my wife and I know she's with a old friend from her home state, but it sucks. I know we put each other through hell, but I miss her. I miss her embrace and I miss the warmth of her personality. We still live together, but I can't have what I long for. I was told there isn't a chance in hell for us to ever get back together. I know it wasn't quick for her, but it feels like she moved on quick and I was told her new relationship had nothing to do with our divorce. I went numb when I found out about it, and dove off into a very misguided relation ..read more

I'm at my parents in California (just got here this week), and she's in Arkansas. Any advice appreciated on how to approach this! cant change type-o in title haha submitted by /u/Odd-Ad-9052 [visit reddit] [comments ..read more

About a month ago I told her that I didn't want to continue the marriage. She had moved out earlier that month because she didn't feel like she had a space in the house since we were doing renovations in the room that she would be staying in(separate beds at this point). It's been a long time comming for the past couple of years. Constantly trying to see eye to eye on family boundaries, can't agree on finances, would agree on common goals and then she would change them to fit what she wanted to do. We did marriage counseling and when we got to my needs she showed me a lot of times that she co ..read more

My husband (32 M) and I (30 F) have known each other for 13 years and married 5. He initiated separation in a traumatic way by filing a temporary protective order against me citing emotional abuse. Effectively evicting me from our apartment in the middle of the night. All he had was his written testimony to do this and it was false. He has bipolar disorder and has struggled with manic periods throughout our relationship usually manifesting in excessive spending and hyper-sexualization. In the days leading up to the order he was acting increasingly paranoid about me and acting agitated. I just ..read more

Hello currently in the process of divorcing my wife. We have separated very amicably with three young kids involved. We worked out a division of assets etc... something we are a bit stuck on is child support. She makes good money but much less than me, but she moved across the country away from me to be closer to family which I was ok with. We decided since I wouldn't be able to see the kids more than 20 percent of the year bc of the distance I wouldn't pay full child support. Since this unofficial contract we agreed to, she has been slowly asking for more money. I just don't know what I actu ..read more

I am one of the young ones who married too early, divorced too young. I was so in love with my soon-to-be-ex-husband who decided that the married life was not for him when it was for me. The divorce isn't finalized and its been about 7 months since our official separation (we have to be separated for a year to even file). I can't help but feel like a failure. Like I chose wrong even though he was so great the beginning. I regret getting married but not because of the pain of getting divorced but rather telling people that I've been married before. It's something I've been struggling with the ..read more

He told me today that he’s already seeing someone else. Saw him at the local urgent care getting STD tests because they apparently both want full clearance before they “become intimate.” Papers aren’t even officially filed at the courthouse yet. We still live together. We still share a bed. We haven’t even told the kids yet. We still go to marriage counseling because we wanted to get through the divorce without hating each other. I’m such an idiot. All while I’ve been mourning and hurting, he’s already moved on. I guess that explains the sudden change in attitude I mentioned in my previous po ..read more

Just needed to get this off my chest as a soon to be adult cod. Last year my husband and I caught my dad cheating cause he brought the person home ?(my mom already knew). he got off with my mom somewhat because he head heart problems later and the doc apparently said his lack of reasoning was compromised from lack of blood flow to his brain ( blah blah blah). Fast forward my husband and I rent from my parents and due to an injury he has been out of work for quite some time and is just now getting back. My dad is back with the same person again and hasn’t paid any bills for 10 months spends li ..read more

My ex husband and I were married for 2 years, together for 5. When he proposed and we got married, he immediately showed me a side to him that I didn’t recognize. On our honeymoon (3 days in), we had a small disagreement and he threatened divorce - something that shocked me and that I forgave him for but during the marriage, I realized I fucked up marrying him and that there were red flags that I stupidly ignored when we were dating that led me to where I am today. He convinced me to have a child right away (to which I ultimately agreed because I was approaching 30) and then abandoned both of ..read more