Going through a divorce or being divorced can bring many uncertainties, especially when it comes to planning and preparing for your child’s college education. In this post, we’ll debunk some common myths and provide facts to help you better navigate planning for college and paying for college. Divorce often feels overwhelming, I know being divorced … The post Myths and Facts About Divorce and College Planning appeared first on Divorce BlogDivorce Support Blogs ..read more

I want to offer some advice that I believe could make a big difference in your life and in your divorce outcome, and it’d pretty simple: read EVERY line of your divorce documents. I don’t know about you, but if I go to the doctor for something and the doctor writes me a prescription, I go get it filled, read the directions and start taking it. In other words, I don’t question it. I don’t read and analyze every word on the package insert. I might skim it, but if it’s a doctor I really trust, I just do what he or she says. Sounds reasonable, right? But when it comes to divorce, it’s different an ..read more

Discernment counseling is a powerful option for what is called the “mixed agenda” couple, where one person is seriously considering ending the marriage and the other is hoping for reconciliation. When one spouse learns about discernment counseling before the other, they may find themselves in the position of wanting to convince their partner to give it a try. Given that the environment is likely already one of high mistrust and vulnerability, this can be a tricky conversation.   If you are the “leaning in” spouse and your partner has one foot out the door, they are likely to hear the word ..read more

It seems like everywhere I look these days, articles are popping up about dating app burnout. Articles like this and this and this are explaining how dating app burnout is a real thing. As a dating coach, I wanted to show you what you can do about it. Welcome to my guide of the 7 best ways to meet people offline for those suffering from dating app burnout! Give your thumbs a break from swiping, and get out there with these 7 methods for offline dating. 1) Get Set Up – The Right Way One of my favorite methods of finding love is the good old fashioned set up. But I’m going to tell you ..read more

Are you living together during divorce? This can be a tough situation. After all, you’ve decided you want a divorce. You want to be separate. But what happens when neither you or your spouse wants to or are able to actually move out? There are so many reasons a couple might remain living together during divorce. There are few things more stressful than having to live with an openly hostile, hurt spouse while you are divorcing. Believe me, I know. The negative emotions in this arrangement can be very damaging to you and your children. In some cases, spouses spend excess time collecting what th ..read more

I wrote this article when I was turning 50. I remember so clearly that despite the anxiety and fear of being in my 50s, getting old, etc., there was something really positive happening to me. I had been dating my now spouse for about 6 months and realized that love over 50 was amazing!  My article on: Love over 50 With all the physical drawbacks of the big 5-0 – impaired vision and hearing, varicose veins, wrinkles, a metabolism that comes to a halt and hot flashes, to name a few – comes a certain wisdom. Like a magical gift from above, 50 feels smarter, with a presence of self-assurance ..read more

“My spouse is controlling,” is something I hear from some clients during our initial consultation. Divorcing a controlling spouse can be an incredibly tough and draining experience. Their behavior can have an impact on the divorce proceedings, making them stressful, drawn out, and emotionally taxing. Understanding how their controlling tendencies influence the process is essential so you can better prepare and navigate through this period.   Signs of a Controlling Spouse   Controlling spouses often use manipulative tactics to complicate the divorce process. For instance, they may fil ..read more

I just returned home from leading a week-long culinary and wellness retreat in Italy. Southern Italy. Retreats by nature are designed to be life changing. There is something so sacred that happens when a group of souls journeys together through the unknown for a week. They get to witness the raw, unfiltered versions of each other through highs and lows.  This connection in it of itself would be special enough. However, in my wellness retreats, I like to sprinkle in the most euphoric food and wine adventure on top of the deep soul-to-soul connection. Is there anything better?!?!  &nbs ..read more

I ran into a woman recently who has been divorced for several years and has three children. We asked each other the usual questions you ask when you haven’t seen someone in awhile: “How are things,” “How are the kids?” “How’s the job?” “How’s the love life?” and of course, “How are things with your ex?” Her answer to that question was shocking. She told me that her ex moved to another state, got married, had two children with his new wife, and has not spoken to or seen their children in a couple of years. He has also not paid any child support.   While my gut reaction was to feel very sad ..read more

A few weeks ago, I wrote an article called “Am I Happier After Divorce? 9 Things I Learned in my Divorce.” The article gained a lot of attention, so I thought I’d write a part 2, which is How Divorce Changes a woman: 9 MORE Things I learned in divorce.   Here is how divorce changes a woman, 9 More Things I Learned in Divorce   1. I learned that you’re never too old to reinvent yourself.   Before I was married, I was working as a pharmaceutical sales rep, making a ridiculously wonderful amount of money. I quit that job after I had my first child and became a stay-at-home mom. Whe ..read more