Have you ever felt harshly judged by an inner critic, a friend or a family member? Or have you hoped a person close to you would care more about you, show interest in what makes you tick, or simply trust you more for who you are? We can look for love in vain and lose our joy because of blame. Or we can love ourselves and love others without blame and enjoy wellbeing beyond our dreams! It starts with a question whenever we feel judged. What lesson can I take from this situation to grow and improve? To address this question, we refuse blame. We don’t judge ourselves or others. We separate our in ..read more

Childhood suffering?  Failed dreams? Unfair criticism? Sad and lonely? Injustice? Each painful experience above is part of our world that’s beyond our control.  Each holds lessons and tools that will determine our freedom to sustain happiness, hope and healing. Recently a good friend told me through tears how a cruel text message meant for his adult son’s best friend, came to him in error? Has it happened to you? The hurtful email read: “Yah I’m angry & miserable around my f%*$ing dad…” The email went on with detailed accusations that his dad failed to meet his childhood expectat ..read more

Do we see most seniors (or ourselves) as happy, healed and hopeful? If our response is yes or no, read on for this newly minted challenge to help create a podcast that spotlights and equips seniors as wisdom seekers together. As if configured uniquely at creation, we seniors showcase happiness by relearning with our grandchildren. Sadly though, too many seniors fly outside love’s radar, with little awareness of why loneliness hungers for a hug and longs for trusted family and friends in our lives. At a time when seniors should feel like rock-stars too many feel stuck and suffering at rock bott ..read more

Happiness is a majestic force that lifts us beyond what we feel life should look like at any moment. It sets a magnificent mental and emotional stage to celebrate life fully as it exists in every current moment. Aristotle said, Happiness depends on ourselves.” What say you? With depression and sorrow at all time highs we are led to ask, “ Does healing and happiness go hand in hand?” Consider how joy fills the center of grace and acts as evidence of wonder fully in play. How though, might we restore this union of healing and happiness back to the millions who appear to have lost any sense of pe ..read more

We’ve all heard it spoken. He hasn’t got a lick o’ common sense. Or, she may be book smart, but without a tad of insight from common sense. We assumed common sense simply referred to “streetwise,” or practically clever with our workaround solutions to mundane problems. That was before we knew how brains work! Turns out that common sense is not so common after all. No panic though, since human gene pools come hardwired with a unique mix of inner and ethical smarts. Common sense often comes filled with compassion, empathy, and intuitive understanding! Fortunately, we now know how it can be taugh ..read more

We’ve all heard it. He’d rather be alone. Or, she rarely accepts party invitations, preferring to read at home. All the above relates to our intrapersonal intelligence, or mental and emotional opportunities for personal growth. If we link introversion to fixed personality traits, we are missing the mental and emotional tools that can lead us to a better place.  Sadly, if we see time and activity engage alone as limiting rather than as dynamic mental and emotional strength opportunities we miss the wonder of intrapersonal IQ. How so?Intrapersonal IQ is one of our multiple intelligences and ..read more

Tom Hansen said it best, Most Meetings Suck!  Hopefully we’re not the blokes who lead such outmoded gatherings though. Imagine the possibilities for transformative growth in meetings with vibrant round-tables that we and our peers deserve. What if we could rev up innovation, by changing one boring practice or stomping out a hapless habit at our next meeting?  See 10 top questions discussed on my invited international ASTD Video, and discover how to stoke brilliance in place of boredom at our next meeting. Here’s the skinny in mental keys to transform a boring meeting? Expect transfor ..read more

Now that we know that IQ is fluid not fixed, we can also improve our emotional IQ and capability. Unlike victims in toxic times, we lean into emotional or intrapersonal IQ to tackle toxins with an ability to remain calm when those around us turn to stress. We grow aware of our emotional strengths and sidestep disruptions that create conflict in ourselves and our relationships. We grow flexible to learn from others who differ and avoid the stagnation by looking at problems with possibilities in mind. We grow grit and resilience by using our curiosity to empower change in how we think with conf ..read more

Grace is the inner love, light and energy that overjoys us in good times, only to brace, hold and support us in tough times ..read more

If you’re looking to find more joy, delight, happiness or a bit of  bliss, you’re not alone. Never before have we seen more opposites to our basic happiness. These barriers to contentment leave us in panic, anxiety, misery, depression and overall discontent. In spite of a proliferation of facts and figures about our health people tell us they are caught deep into depression or anxiety attacks with seemingly no place to go. Increasingly folks find themselves melting down over the constantly changing and often angry world we currently face. Have you noticed how many people seem to be isola ..read more