TABLE OF CONTENTS INTRODUCTION – WHAT IS TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP Before delving into rebuilding trust, it’s essential to grasp the essence of trust itself. Consider trust as a conscious decision—an active choice that individuals make. Trust isn’t something that can be forced upon someone; it’s earned through consistent actions and behaviours. Often, individuals withhold their trust until they perceive that someone deserves it based on their reliability, honesty, and integrity. Cynthia L. Wall LCSW has written a great book called The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting ..read more

Example Subtitle TABLE OF CONTENTS - BETRAYAL BLINDNESS INTRODUCTION  For many years, I frequently heard my clients discuss their partners, often overlooking or dismissing any signs of betrayal in their relationships, even when the evidence was glaringly obvious. Despite the unmistakable signs of ongoing betrayal, some of these clients would persistently turn a blind eye.  As a counsellor, I interpret this behaviour as a powerful psychological defence mechanism-denial.  INTRODUCTION OF A NEW CONCEPT However, as quoted by Fern Schumer Chapman, Psychologist Jennifer Fre ..read more

SIMPLIFIED LIVING TABLE OF CONTENTS INTRODUCTION Living a simplified life can have a powerful impact on reducing anxiety levels. We create a sense of calm and clarity by simplifying our surroundings, daily routines, and commitments. Embracing minimalism, practising mindfulness, and focusing on what truly matters can go a long way in alleviating anxiety. So, let’s simplify and enjoy a more peaceful way of life! By decluttering our physical and mental spaces, simplifying our schedules, and fostering meaningful connections, we can cultivate a sense of calm and balance that is a powerful ..read more

TABLE OF CONTENTS INTRODUCTION: WHAT ARE CORE BELIEFS? Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do to certain situations or why you hold specific views so dearly? The answer lies in our core beliefs, the essence of how we see ourselves, others, and the world. In this article, we’ll explore core beliefs, why they matter, the impact of distorted beliefs on our life, and how we can work to identify and potentially change them for personal growth and better mental health. WHAT ARE CORE BELIEFS AND WHY DO THEY MATTER. Core beliefs are individuals’ fundamental perceptions about themse ..read more

TABLE OF CONTENTS INTRODUCTION: AFFIRMATIONS ABOUT FEAR   Over the years of working as a counsellor, it has become increasingly evident that anxiety and fear are among the most common issues clients bring into the counselling room. Whether it’s the fear of failure, rejection, or the unknown, these fears can significantly impact our mental health, relationships, and career paths. This is where the power of affirmations about fear comes into play. Affirmations are positive statements that can help you challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeatedly af ..read more

TABLE OF CONTENTS INTRODUCTION: How to overcome self limiting beliefs. If you asked the average person their self-limiting beliefs, they would probably look at you puzzled. However, holding on to self-limiting beliefs can significantly affect your life. It’s the one thing that can stop you from succeeding and attaining your goals. I have lost count of the many clients I have encountered over the years who live their lives stifled by their self-limiting beliefs.  I lived the earlier part of my own life with self-limiting beliefs. It was not until I reached an age and recognised t ..read more

TABLE OF CONTENTS INTRODUCTION – LOSING A PET SUDDENLY. Losing a pet suddenly is a harrowing experience that can leave you feeling lost, heartbroken, and overwhelmed by grief. These cherished companions become part of our families, offering unconditional love and joy that enrich our lives immeasurably. The abrupt absence of their presence can create a void that seems impossible to fill, and the shock and suddenness of the loss often compound the intensity of the grief. We understand how difficult this time can be, and it’s important to acknowledge that your feelings are a testament to th ..read more

BENEFITS OF COUNSELLING BENEFITS OF COUNSELLING –  INTRODUCTION As we delve into the numerous benefits of counselling, we must recognise this practice as a journey towards self-discovery, healing, and empowerment. The impact of counselling extends far beyond the confines of a therapist’s office, influencing how individuals engage with the world around them. As a counsellor, I’ve come to appreciate that we all gravitate toward our unique therapeutic approach to counselling, reflecting our philosophy and understanding of human behaviour. I prefer the integrative approach, which harmoni ..read more

PANIC ATTACK AT WORK PANIC ATTACK AT WORK INTRODUCTION –  PANIC ATTACKS AT WORK Over the years of working in private practice, I’ve encountered a surprising number of individuals who suffer from panic attacks at work. Notably, the teaching profession emerged as one of the most common sectors where stress-related issues, including panic attacks, are prevalent. While many might assume that the generous vacation time and seemingly shorter workdays in teaching would mitigate stress, the reality is quite the contrary. Teachers face many challenges and demands that extend far beyond classroom ..read more

INTRODUCTION HOW TO MANAGE MENOPAUSE PANIC ATTACKS AT NIGHT As a therapist with many years of experience, I’ve had the privilege of guiding numerous women through this crucial time in their lives. It’s not uncommon for them to seek therapy as they navigate the complex maze of menopause, compounded by the everyday challenges of life transitions, such as children growing up and leaving home—a phenomenon often referred to as ‘the empty nest syndrome’. In addition to these emotional and psychological adjustments, they are also grappling with significant hormonal changes that can have profound ..read more