“Optimist: Someone who figures that taking a step backward after taking a step forward is not a disaster, it's a cha-cha.” ― Robert Brault Wouldn’t it be awesome if things in life followed direct, simple paths? If your progress at learning a new instrument or how to crochet or a new habit would go from 0/100 to 100/100 in a simple, easily understood, linear fashion? Sadly, change rarely happens in a straight line. Today, I was meeting with my chiropractor (the amazing Dr. Sam Zoranovich), and we were talking about how one of the conditions we’ve been working on had a flare recently. He re ..read more

I recently had an unexpected surprise in my professional life, the kind of thing you just can’t make up. I was asked to be a “contributing content expert” to a swinger dating site that is expanding its reach beyond “swinging” per se with a focus on educating people on healthy relationships and sexuality. I took the gig, which included an invite for my spouse and I to attend an 8-day SDC Lifestyle Cruise for us who are actively involved in the relationship therapy and coaching space. I’m an unlikely advocate for an alternative lifestyle: a graduate in theology and psychology from Oral Roberts U ..read more

For many, the word “rope” doesn’t conjure feelings of excitement, beauty or passion; but that was quickly changed for attendees of F.I.R.E. 2017. Florida Intense Rope Experience (F.I.R.E.) brought together over 400 rope enthusiasts and instructors from all over the world. In attendance, were subject-matter experts on roping including Furious Buddha, Lunatic Bound and Knothead. This gathering of legendary riggers made Orlando the temporary center of the roping world. F.I.R.E. This four-day event hosted daily classes on several aspects of roping, including an intro to suspension, predicament pla ..read more

Our mission in Costa Rica: unite as a team and come out stronger than before. After some ziplining and group activities, we were proud to say: Mission Accomplished! 15 Minds Are Better Than One This past February, a few of us headed down to Costa Rica for a few days, traveling from Montreal, North Carolina and Miami to meet with our development team, many of whom had never even seen each other before. Most of our talented developers hail from Costa Rica and other areas in Central and South America. At the beginning of the trip, I joked that we needed name tags. But it didn’t take long for all ..read more

When it comes to sex and dating, most of my clients want the “cheat code.” They want to know how to level up their dating game so that they can win big. Everyone wants the secret to go from zero to hero and find the princess or prince they’ve been searching for that is somehow always in another castle. While there may not be something as simple as the Konami code for real life, I think that video games can teach us 5 important lessons about how to succeed in sex and relationships. 1) Don’t button mash When you first try to play a game like Mortal Kombat, it can be super tempting to just mash t ..read more

“Vanilla” folks often have a difficult time wrapping their heads around the idea of being a “submissive.” As a result, many misconceptions have developed around submissiveness in the BDSM world. For example, that we subs must have experienced some form of abuse in our pasts, or we are weak doormats who allow others to use us. My hope in writing this post is to bring a little awareness to who subs REALLY are, and the reasons I personally choose to submit to my partner. First Things First… Let’s define some of the terms that will be used in this post. A submissive is a person who chooses to reli ..read more

Variety is the spice of life, as the saying goes. It's fun to do our best to keep love alive and the sexual experience exciting with our loved one(s) but sometimes it is simply a little change and variety that can stimulate and enhance your already amazing relationship. Spice things up with a Different Location and Position Exploring ways to change things up and keep your sex life exciting can include variety in where you make love. If you always make love in the bedroom, try a different part of the house or in the car, outside in the backyard or on a beach… I especially enjoy making love outs ..read more

These days you can find an abundance of articles, videos, and podcasts about polyamory, swinging, and open relationships. Some caution about the damaging effects and call it an "immoral activity." Others praise the emotional and sexual benefits and believe it to be more of an identity rather than just a hobby. Although these alternative relationships may not be for everyone, many have maintained healthy, thriving relationships within this dynamic. I have met swinger couples and triads that have been together for 10-plus years, proving, for some, that this is not just a stage but a maintainable ..read more

Imagine you bought a dress that didn’t quite fit you right. You thought it looked amazing on the hanger and when you tried it on, it looked great but had a few little problems which you figured weren’t that big a deal. So, you wear it out to a party, and all of your friends tell you that it looks fantastic on you. They gush so much that you can almost ignore how it pinches you under the arm and it’s scratchy, and you can never get comfortable until you take it off. You wear it a few more times, and whenever you put it on, you remember that you don’t like how it feels on you but feel torn becau ..read more

How naughty are you? How naughty can you be? What naughty things have you been up to? Too hard on the nipple... I was living in Marina del Rey in Los Angeles a few years ago, in a really nice apartment near the beach. I had a girlfriend living with me at the time who was bi, and very fun. The clothes dryer door wouldn’t shut so I had to call up the shop I originally bought it from and get an appliance repair person to come round. He arrived early in the morning and I only had a skimpy robe on. I flirted with him the whole time, letting my robe open slightly so he could see I was naked undernea ..read more