Not giving someone what they want can be hard, especially when you have been socialized to prioritize the comfort of others. In this episode, Lois and Stephanie explore the difficulties that women, in particular, have with saying “no”…and offer some ways that women can overcome them ..read more

Lois and Stephanie revamped the list of abusive “seduction” techniques described in their last episode to include healthy, enjoyable (and even exciting!) legitimate methods of healthy seduction and relatedness. Check it out and spread the love ..read more

The majority of women don't feel safe walking after dark.  And on short winter days, when the sun sets early, women tend to feel even more vulnerable.  In this episode, hosts Stephanie and Lois discuss women's fears and their right to basic safety--both outside and inside the home.  They also offer up some ideas about how male allies can help women feel (and be) more secure.    ..read more

Creating *holiday magic* takes planning, effort, and persistence.  In this episode, hosts Lois and Stephanie sift through the mountain of added mental, emotional, and physical work that women do around the holidays...and offer some suggestions for how to shift the holiday experience from full-of-woe to full-of-wonder.   ..read more

Do you sometimes feel cursed by your own competence?  Can you get things done when no one else seems able to, leaving you doing all the work?  If so, then this episode is for you.  Lois and Stephanie deconstruct strategic maneuvers of incompetence that people use to keep competent, conscientious women overworked, tired, frustrated, and feeling invisible. They also explore some ways out of this dynamic and into more harmonious and balanced relationships.   ..read more

"Not ALL men don't do the dishes."  What makes men need to be the exception to the rule when women share their experiences of men?  In this episode, Stephanie and Lois attempt to sort out the quandary of what makes male self-reflection seem so hard to come by.  Check it out!  ..read more

In the US today, women are frequently instructed (often with good intentions) to take better care of themselves.  In this episode, hosts Lois and Stephanie break-down the concept of "self-care":  is it a helpful suggestion and sign of support, or is it an impossible capitalistic Western oxymoron?  Check it out and see what you think ..read more

Connecting with song lyrics can be both powerful and healing. In this episode, Lois and Stephanie talk to NYC-based singer-songwriter Shilpa Ray about the fiercely resonant lyrics of the songs in her album "Portrait of a Lady." Shilpa describes the inspiration for the album, the stories behind each song, the critical role of truth and honesty in social change, and the necessity of pressing on. *be advised this episode contains explicit language ..read more

"Hermeneutic Labor" is a new concept described by modern feminist philosopher, Ellie Anderson.  It describes the multilevel, multisensory, anticipatory relational maintenance work that women routinely and unconsciously do on behalf of men.  In this episode, Lois and Stephanie break down hermeneutic labor and discuss it's widely-accepted everyday counterpart, women's intuition.   ..read more

The meaning of a word can sometimes depend on the context in which it’s stated. In this episode, Lois and Stephanie talk about well-intentioned but now-aggravating words that, to them at least, have been corrupted by mis- and over-use ..read more