Do you and your partner take on certain roles in your relationship? Today my guest is Chantel Landeros, founding partner and psychotherapist at Thrive Marriage & Family Counseling in Grand Junction, Colorado. In this episode, Chantel talks about how remaining curious will keep you from feeling stuck in a relationship role. You’ll hear: Why establishing roles in your relationship helps to uncover hidden expectations and how that helps prevent conflict You’ll get some fabulous conversation prompts to help you get curious about the hidden assumptions lurking in your relationship And we’ll gi ..read more

What is pleasure? Why does it matter? How does feeling pleasure impact you? Impact your relationship? In this episode, you’ll hear from transformational coach and author, Kirstin Hotelling Zona. Kirstin left the safety of her tenure-track position as a professor—complete with the security of lifelong health benefits to follow her desire: wherever that desire leads her. You’ll hear: Why following your desire is always the safest decision you can make (even though it feels terrifying!) The simple—but not always easy—path that connects you to your desire And how to cultivate a habit that tunes y ..read more

What do you notice when your partner forgets to clean the kitchen? Do you add it to the list of evidence that your partner is bad at doing the housework? Or do you get curious about your partner's perspective on why they didn't do the chore? In this episode, you'll hear about the power of noticing in your relationship. When you can notice without judgment, your relationship will undergo an enormous change. We'll talk about how it's tempting to come up with good guy vs bad guy narratives in our relationships You'll hear how curiosity cultivates compassion I'll give you a habit that will challe ..read more

Why does self-care play such a vital role in your relationship? If you feel like you are living beyond your capacity, it may be getting in the way of your self-care. And when you're not taking care of yourself, it can harm your relationship. In this episode, we'll talk about how to decide what's important to you so you can avoid relationship conflict. You’ll hear a story about my dog and how I learned the value of self-care You’ll hear about two fundamental elements of self-care: capacity and nourishment and why they are sometimes in conflict I’ll give you a simple habit so you don’t get over ..read more

My guest today, Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, lives into this question. Her son, Finn, died by suicide two and a half years ago.  The pain Rosemerry felt was extreme. Her world crumbled. In this episode: You'll hear about how hurt can disguise love You'll learn how to use your love-translator You'll understand the importance of being patient with yourself and your spouse when you're in pain Connect to Improve Your Relationship Communication Visit the show notes here. Please subscribe to my newsletter here.   Reach me at 970-210-4480 ..read more

This is, unfortunately, not true. When you have unspoken expectations of your partner, it feels bad for both of you. My guest today, Allison Evans, promises you’ll feel much freer if you stay in your own business. In this episode: You’ll hear a different perspective about the struggle for fairness when it comes to chores You’ll realize why you might be creating your own frustration, and how to stop You’ll get help: 4 questions to ask yourself so you take back your personal power You’ll feel Allison’s gentle approach to chores, relationship, and creating a peace-filled home Connect to Improv ..read more

There is no right way to grieve. There is also no wrong way to grieve. How do you navigate the unpredictability of grief? I'm offering two tools to help. You'll hear: How a grief sandbox allows you to process grief that has no words Why a grief pillow can help you heal when you feel the heaviness of grief in your body Connect to Improve Your Relationship Communication Visit the show notes here. Please subscribe to my newsletter here.   Reach me at 970-210-4480 ..read more

What does it take to have a 59-year marriage? You want a lifetime of love, but how do you deal with the difficult times? Today you'll hear from Jean Hodges, my high school theatre teacher. She was married almost 6 decades before her husband, Jack died. You'll hear: About the 3 phases of love during a lifetime Why marriage is a love-laboratory and why making a clean ask is crucial even when it might hurt your partner's feelings for a bit Connect to Improve Your Relationship Communication Visit the show notes here. Please subscribe to my newsletter here.   Reach me at 970-210-4480 ..read more

How often do you say "thank you" to your partner? Today we explore the 4 magical ways two simple words will vastly improve your happily ever after: 1.    You’ll discover how thank you can be a door of permission for you to create the life of your dreams 2.    We’ll explore why thank you is often preferable to the word sorry 3.    And you’ll discover how thank you can provide an attitude shift for you or your partner Connect If you'd like to read a transcript of this episode, visit my blog here. Please subscribe to my newsletter here ..read more

Are you a leech in bed? Today we’ll talk about how to practice RECEIVING what you want instead of TAKING. 1.    We’ll examine the link between wanting and receiving 2.    You’ll discover why you don’t want to be a leech in bed 3.    And you’ll get a habit to help you RECEIVE pleasure so you don’t have to be grabby and TAKE the pleasure the crave We'll look at how easy it is for kids to receive pleasure, and all the messages a kid like you received about resisting pleasure. Today's habit for your happily ever after will help you indulg ..read more