In this special interview on the Single Over 30 podcast, I have a great conversation with one of my old roommates, Monica, who married in her thirties and met her husband in a way that will blow your mind! My conversation with Monica is a reminder that all things are possible.  We also talk about dating anxiety, breaking up, self-sabotage, "putting yourself out there" even when you don't feel like it, and not seeing yourself as unwanted but valuable while you are single.  I know you'll be delighted with this special interview with Monica!  The dream that you have--to love and ..read more

Before I married, I once chatted with a 36-year-old man on the Internet who asked if I would like to see his requirements for a mate and marriage. “Sure‚” I typed. “Send them over.” His request was curious, but I was amused when I received his list for the perfect wife. In today’s podcast, I share what I learned about this guy and I also share 23 questions you can ask yourself to identify if you are in an toxic relationship or if you meet a man how to tell if he could be abusive ..read more

Hey there, Single Lady! First Date Dilemmas. They happen all the time. Maybe he asks you out after the first date but then you never hear from him again. He asks you out, you go out and have a good time, but then seems like he just wants to text you. He doesn’t move the ball down the field and ask you out again.  You want him to ask you out after the first date, but aren’t sure how to let him know without coming across as chasing. Ooooh! This is going to be a great episode because I’m going to share 9 First Date Dilemmas like those that I just mentioned and share what to do about them ..read more

Many women I coach struggle with deep grief that their love story hasn't worked out the way they desire when they enter their late thirties and early forties. Maybe you can relate.  (I certainly felt a lot of grief in my forties.) It's disappointing when you feel love should happen in your life in a certain way by a certain time and it doesn't happen that way at all. And not only can it be disappointing, but it can fill soul shattering. You thought things would go this way, then you wake up one morning and realize that the years have come and gone and your deepest dreams and desires for ..read more

When I was dating and I met a man I really liked, I often experienced a lot of fear. There was something in me that would get triggered and I would become very anxious. I was confident and happy in the rest of my life, but enter Mr. Charming and poof! My confidence vanished and I was replaced by a fearful woman I hardly recognized.  Maybe you can relate. What do you do if you're afraid to date, afraid to love, or even if  when a guy just looks at you and smiles that you go into a spin of "What ifs"?  Good news! I'm here to help you today with encouragement and practical advice ..read more

Around the time I turned 35, I started wondering, "Why am I still single?" I had no idea what would have possibly prevented me from meeting my Mister Right. What I didn't know was that I had some unhealthy dating patterns that were holding me back from engaging in healthy relationships. It was only after I married and started coaching single women that I realized how my dating choices kept me from healthy love.  If you've ever wondered why you haven't met a special guy, you might be able to relate to some points in this episode. But before you listen, please hear me: this episode is not ..read more

Hi there, Single Lady!  This is a "must listen" episode because the majority of the women I have worked with or coached say that they have encountered Red Flag Men. In this episode, I help you recognize red flags.  Have you ever ended a relationship, and then looked back over your shoulder and thought, "How did I miss those red flags?" If so, then this episode is for you, and if that hasn't happened to you and you want to avoid this unpleasant situation, then this episode is also for you.  The dream you have to love--and be loved--is possible!  ..read more

Hey there, Single Lady! This is a fun episode and I know you're going to love it.  In this episode, my husband and I talk about:  The difference between chasing and inviting a man to pursue you Why it's okay to go up to a man and start a conversation with him Different levels of physical affection Why men need to pursue women and women need to be pursued and  How to get a man to ask you out on a date Ooooh. . .this one's good! The dream that you have to love--and be loved--is possible! Your coach, Shana P.S. To find out if one-on-one coaching is a good fit for you, you ca ..read more

Have you ever felt as if you were in love with a man but then it turned out not to be love at all, or maybe even a toxic relationship, a complete mismatch? But it felt so right at the beginning. This brings up the question: Was it love or was it limerance? What is limerance? That's what we're going to talk about on this episode. What it is, how to recognize it, how to keep from making poor relationship choices because of it, and how to tell the difference between limerance and love. If you'd like to find out if you are a good candidate for one-on-one customized coaching, please visit single ..read more

I've been married for almost 9 years now. How time has flown! My husband and I have a good marriage and we're still going strong, for which I am thankful.  Recently, though, there was a discussion in a singles group online about marriage and it got me thinking about the myths single women often believe about marriage—and how those myths can hold even the best woman back from getting a great relationship. So today, I’m going to share 8 of the most common myths about marriage--including sexual compatibility in marriage, soul mates, and how things in a good marriage should be easy and that ..read more