Single mom, 37-yr-old Piper, met 36-yr-old Tony online.  Having just quit his job, and recently divorced, Piper questions if Tony is ready, willing, and able to go the distance, especially as a stepfather.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula helps Piper get clarity on whether to clear the way for Tony to come forward or if it’s best to retreat ..read more

44-yr-old divorced, single mom, Leisel, reached out to 45-yr-old divorced dad, Rob, on Bumble.  Rob eventually asked Leisel to meet and the two have been dating for about 3 months. But Rob only agrees to see Leisel every two weeks and doesn’t stay in much contact between times. When asked about where they stand, Rob says that he doesn't like labels and wants to "take things slow."  Most concerning to Leisel is that Rob says he likes "aggressive women” who make the first moves and pay for dates 50-50. Feeling anxious about Rob’s interest, Leisel connects with Paula to see if she shoul ..read more

56-yr-old Maddy and 44-yr-old Andrew have had 4 breakups in 3.5 years of their relationship. Successful, happy with her life, and accommodating, Maddy is confused as to why Andrew is so confused about her.  Despite saying he loves her Andrew will go for a certain amount of time before telling Maddy he “can’t.” On this episode, Paula explains why Andrew feels as he does, and what Maddy can do for the best chance of Andrew knowing, feeling, and deciding that he “can ..read more

44-yr-old Emily is seeking a hypergamous relationship from online dating. As a Rules Girl, Emily states that she expects a man to see her as his “dream girl” and start wining and dining her without texting between dates. Confused as to why telling her prospective wealthy men what it is that she expects of them isn’t leading her to the relationship she desires, Emily comes on this episode to get Paula’s coaching advice ..read more

Despite 43-yr-old Terri knowing that casual relationships don’t work for her, she finds herself going on hook-up sites and predominately dating much younger men.  They eventually leave, then Terri becomes obsessed, wondering why they didn’t like her enough. On this episode, Terri discovers the source of the dissonance between what she intellectually knows is her value and the feelings of unworthiness that drive her behavior ..read more

28-yr-old Loni wasn’t particularly interested in 28-yr-old James when they first met. But upon showing her the kind of care and attention Loni hadn’t ever before received from a man, James won her heart. The couple now have a newborn together, but all is not blissful.  Loni admits that she allowed her insecurities and jealousy to take over, and James moved out. Now in regret, Loni comes on Make Him Wonder to hear what Paula has to say about the possibility of rebuilding trust and James coming home to stay for good ..read more

44-yr-old Emma met handsome 51-yr-old Matt online and wanted to know his true intentions before having sex.  After cancelling their seventh date out-of-the-blue, Emma got a text that Matt was frustrated that there was no passion or sex on their sixth date. On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Emma gets clarification on Matt’s probable feelings and what risk vs reward is worth taking to put his fears to rest so the two can move forward ..read more

After a year and a half together, 34-yr-old Gigi keeps hearing the classic “it’s not you, it’s me,” from 37-yr-old Aaron regarding his unhappiness with their relationship. Discussions about it and going on breaks haven’t solved the issue, and Gigi is afraid of a final split. In this episode, Paula explains to Gigi how her compassion is crippling Aaron’s desire and helping to ensure the negative outcome she fears, and what she can do to become his shining star, once again ..read more

54-yr-old Kit found committed love for the first time in her late 40s. It was tragically taken away in only 4 years when her husband died unexpectedly.  A few years later, a former HS classmate came back into her life and gave Kit hope of having love once again.  But due to his football coaching career, 53-yr-old Shaun doesn’t have the best track record of giving time to a relationship.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula helps Kit reframe her personal game-plan and see ahead to winning in romance and reaching her goal.   ..read more

31-yr-old voice actor and media host, Raven Brinson has moved many times for her career, and has recently relocated to Los Angeles. Doing all that she can socially to meet new people, Raven is perplexed as to why dating seems so much harder now, than in the past.  On this episode of Make Him Wonder, Paula helps Raven choose her core-four must-haves, unpack her resistance to  online dating, and discuss mindset tools to stay positive for herself, as well as supportive of friends who are marrying and having children ..read more