Have you ever found yourself in an affair situation with someone who is monogamously committed to someone else? For a while, your partner is pretty sure they want to leave that relationship and pursue a non-affair relationship with you. They share their intentions to leave their partner for weeks, months, or even years, and they may even take action to prove these intentions.    Then, one day, your affair partner reaches the point where they decide that they can’t leave their committed relationship after all. They decide to stay in that relationship, despite everything they have said ..read more

How often do you make a decision that you think you’re happy with, then doubt yourself and fear it was the wrong one because you feel so many mixed emotions about it? When you make a major decision in your life, about your infidelity situation or otherwise, you are most likely going to have mixed thoughts and feelings about it, but that DOESN’T mean it’s a problem or a sign you should choose differently.    In this week’s episode of Your Secret Is Safe With Me, learn why it is completely okay to change your mind on any decision you make and the importance of making decisions with a m ..read more

Join me for part two of "Why I Do the Work I Do" as I share the turning point that led me to become a relationship coach specializing in non-judgmental assistance to people engaging in infidelity, and exactly what it took for me to get here. I’m picking up where I left off last week and sharing the power of taking small steps forward, even when your confidence is wavering, and how I created this unique role for myself despite believing for a while that I didn’t have what it takes to be an entrepreneur.   You CAN create a version of yourself and your life that doesn’t exist yet, and I’m sh ..read more

As you may be aware, “non-judgmental infidelity coach” is not a common job description that exists out there in the world, at least not to my knowledge. This thing I do and the angle I take is pretty unique, and I am dedicated to offering non-judgmental guidance to people actively engaging in any form of infidelity. But how did I get here? What exactly led me to do the work I do?   In this week’s episode, I share where my interest in all things sexuality and the stigma surrounding it came from, and how exactly I came to do the work I do today. I dive into what enables me to conceptualize ..read more

At some point, the drawbacks of your infidelity situation can start to outweigh the benefits, and if this happens for you, you may want to start thinking about taking a conscious, deliberate approach to resolving your infidelity situation in a way you feel good about. Yes it might feel hard at first – so hard that you may decide that you’d rather stay put and continue to accept the status quo – but here’s the thing: staying stuck and stressed is NOT your only option. It is NOT as hard to resolve your infidelity situation as you may currently believe; you just need to change the way you approac ..read more

If you experience boredom after you’ve stopped engaging in infidelity, you may not know what to do with yourself, and you are NOT alone. Post-infidelity boredom is a thing, but fortunately for you, I have some recommendations to help you deal with it. In this episode, I share why you might find yourself feeling bored once you end your infidelity situation, some examples of what this can look like and indications that you are feeling this way, and how to examine your overall satisfaction with life as a whole before making drastic changes in your relationships.   Get full show notes and mor ..read more

In this week’s episode, I talk about why exploring non-monogamy COULD be a way to resolve your infidelity situation… and when why exploring non-monogamy may NOT going to be an effective way to resolve your infidelity situation. As non-monogamy becomes a more and more legitimate way to configure our relationships, it’s increasingly important to use discretion when we’re wondering if turning a monogamous relationship into a non-monogamous one will help us resolve our infidelity situation.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/182 ..read more

Before initiating the conversation with your partner about your affair, there are some things you need to be clear on. In today’s episode, I discuss how to tell your partner about your affair and provide tips on how to approach this conversation in two different kinds of circumstances.   When you find yourself in the situation of telling your partner about your affair, there are many things you can choose to say, ways you can react, and ways you can disclose your infidelity. Learn how to have this conversation, ensure that you want to have it, and approach it in a way that feels right for ..read more

Is your affair partner invested in helping you leave your committed relationship? In today’s episode, I explain the importance of understanding the extent to which your focus is on your affair partner’s desires and how to be aware if the decisions you’re making are for yourself.   Even if you want the same things your affair partner wants, you each have to take your own path to get there, and it’s important that you differentiate wanting something and actually deciding to do it. Learn the key thing to look for if your affair partner has an agenda for you and why it’s not your job to ..read more

Today, I’m talking to those of you who have an agenda for your affair partner. Even though you mean well, the truth is that you can only manage your own business. It’s important to let your affair partner figure things out for themselves, and today, I’ll explain why.   Understanding what you want when you have an agenda, whether you realize it or not, will only help YOU deal with your infidelity situation. Hear why letting go of your agenda is good for your partner and perhaps even more so for yourself.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://mariemurphyphd.com/178 ..read more