Evelyn and Aaron break down a biblical perspective on Marriage, Sex and Intimacy so that we can have a better understanding on God's view of pornography. This is an area that many add or take away from and its important that we come back to the Word of God on each part of this issue. We will be coming back to this again, because there are lots of FAQs surrounding What God created and What goes against it.         ..read more

Evelyn answers some of the communities questions including: How do I respond to the addict saying they need undeserved grace like God gives all of us? I'm needing reassurance but I don't know how to explain what it looks like... help? And at the end of the episode Evelyn shares both her asks and some of Aaron's offers to help build trust and safety ..read more

"I'm an addict, I'm always going to struggle." "I'm and addict, I'm going to relapse at some point." Heard these words or something like them, in this episode Aaron and Evelyn address this common statement and its larger implications. Why it doesn't help recovery and why its a red flag that they might be stuck in a victim mentality. Other points include, H.A.L.T.S., blame shifting, keeping the lid on and why we need to retrain our brain so we can truly heal and recover.   Mentioned in the episode is Jerry Bridges book I called "Acceptable Sins" its actually called "Sins we Accept", find i ..read more

Evelyn discusses some common styles of blame shifting and gives examples of what they may sound like within a relationship with someone on the spectrum of sexually compulsive behaviours and addictions. She also talks about a common teaching of recovery books and how they can perpetuate blame shifting. 0 ..read more

Evelyn and Aaron discuss and define empathy. Covering why its so important in recovery, what it does and what it looks like to have a lack of empathy in your relationship.   Empathy is so much more than just understanding what a person might be feeling, and its key to a recovery that goes beyond just sobriety. So how do we grow in it? listen and find out.   ..read more

Melissa Ruff from the Live Free Wives Community joins us for part 2 of our interview. We discuss everything from EMDR to Boundaries and building trust. Do you know the difference between "I want to" or "Im going to try to" compared to true genuine commitments to change? We also talk about when motivations matter and the first, second and third order of change. You won't want to miss this episode ..read more

Evelyn talks about how the person struggling with sexually compulsive behaviours and addictions often begins to over sexualize the people and world aroung them. But what affect does this have on their spouse and how can they face this struggle?   ..read more

Evelyn and Aaron discuss some of the hang ups in recovery and how to overcome them. This first conversation covers the idea of putting off and putting on as well as some of the common things that are overlooked in recovery that need to be put off.   ..read more

In this episode Evelyn discusses the deep affects of pornographhy consumption on the self esteem and self worth of BOTH the consumer and their spouse (even if the spouse is unaware of the use). We dig into how self worth is affected, the causes, factors that worsen the symptoms and a few steps to begin your journey out of low self worth and self esteem ..read more

Evelyn shares a little of her struggles as of late but dives into what she's been doing to face it. How we face our trials, heartache and hardships matters and we must learn how to put off and put on. Breaking down the biggest hurdles of walking through the struggles and helping you find truth and what must be put on.   ..read more