When you're going through the hard times of divorce and co-parenting, you can often get "stuck" in the ruts that things won't ever get better -- that you'll be in this place of unhappiness forever.  But even though you can't see it now, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it can and WILL get better. But you can't just wait for your life to start, you need to visualize who you want to be and how you want to live.  It's time to create that for yourself.  You need to get past the ruts that have been hard-wired into your brain and create NEW neural pathways. Make new dre ..read more

This year for me is a year to "explore".  And one of the things I'm working on is exploring a deeper relationship and connection with God.  I figure if this is something I'm working on, then maybe it's something you're working on too.  Maybe it's something we can work on together. So as I'm working on my connection, I'm looking to work through the following: Overthinking / Worry Negative Self-Talk People Pleasing Aligning My Friendships to Who I'm Becoming This is starting out as a year-long process, but it's more of a way to let go, surrender and connect.  It won't reall ..read more

Ladies, "divorce fatigue" is a real thing and can wreck your health, your mental clarity, your decision-making, and your emotional balance. On this week's episode, Joy talks about 5 ways to keep yourself mentally and physically healthy to withstand the divorce journey as a marathon and not a sprint,  You don't want to run on empty and give up when you are so close to the finish line of your divorce and let the attorneys / courts decide the fate or your finances, support and custody because you don't have the stamina to be your best advocate. So much is about how you refill your cup, rec ..read more

A lot of fear and uncertainty in divorce revolves around money -- distribution of assets, retirement accounts, taxes, the house, etc.  It can be absolutely nerve-wracking. Amanda Campbell is a CDFA (certified divorce financial analyst) who is joining me this week for a Divorce Month discussion on financial planning BEFORE making the decision on divorce and how to work through them while in the divorce process.  It's knowing what you own and what you owe! Amanda breaks down some common mistakes and misconceptions that can cost you money at the divorce table: It's understanding that ..read more

January is International Child-Centered Divorce Month, and Rosalind Sedaca joins the podcast this week to talk about how to keep the focus on the kids during the transition of separation and divorce.  It's a time to love your kids more than you hate each other! It's an episode filled with information for moms and dads who want to put their differences aside to allow their kids to thrive during a difficult time.  We talk about the common mistakes parents make in their co-parenting journey, as well as how to be successful as co-parents, being flexible, consistent and cooperative.&nbs ..read more

One of the best things you can do to keep yourself on track for your divorce is to have an organizational system in place. From working with clients I find that having a "Divorce Go Bag" is a great way to keep all of your paperwork together and organized.  The Divorce Go Bag is filled with all of the essentials you need to keep your documents together and keep you moving forward, without wasting time, money or energy gathering up all of the loose ends you need for appointments and meetings. You're time is already spent and your stress level is already too high.  Keeping records in ..read more

There is so much to learn and know in your divorce process, but as a divorce coach, I see these top 10 mistakes made over-and-over again by my clients and friends. These mistakes include legal, financial, co-parenting and emotional issues that can impact the divorce process negatively.  It can drag it out and cost you precious time and money. If you're ready to streamline your divorce process and get on to the next chapter in your life, this may be the perfect episode for you.  Don't forget, I have a free download, a Divorce Checklist, available on The Divorce Confidante wesbite a ..read more

I wanted to bring you a focus on the 4 themes of Advent this Christmas season, so this last week's meditation is on LOVE. God's love is divine, pure and unconditional.  A reminder when we are going through divorce and grief and hard times can give us a much-needed boost to move forward.  Focus on love, receiving and giving God's love, through this hectic holiday season. Christmas is stressful.  Divorce is difficult.  Co-parenting is hard. My hope is that connecting to hope, peace, joy and love this season may bring you comfort and relief. Merry Christmas! Verses Referen ..read more

Did you know that just finding a new way to breathe can help you reduce stress?  My guest today, Sarah Nye from Althea Breathwork, is a facilitator helping women learn to lower their stress and handle their grief just by changing their breath when they find themselves overwhelmed. Starting this healing journey for herself, it grew into a platform for her to help others through their healing as well.  The breath allows us to bring "soma", the body, into our healing and become more connected with ourselves.  Sarah explains the feminine energy in the breath, the 3 part breath, a ..read more

I wanted to bring you a focus on the 4 themes of Advent this Christmas season, so this week's meditation is on JOY. Happiness is circumstantial and superficial, but joy is more deeply ingrained.  Joy is in the heart.  It's connecting with and focusing on the deeper level to understand how that feels in your body, mind and spirit, and to be able to tap into and recall it when you have an unpleasant encounter or just a negative part of your day. Christmas is stressful.  Divorce is difficult.  Co-parenting is hard. My hope is that connecting to hope, peace, joy and love this ..read more