Navigating the Complex Landscape of Grief Grief is a powerful and universal emotion that touches each of us in big and small ways. It’s a feeling that can’t be underestimated in its depth and complexity. It doesn’t always arrive at our doorstep in the same form. In fact, grief comes in many forms. As you navigate the complex nature of grief processing, it can help to keep a few things in mind. The Physical Side of Grief: Understanding Your Body’s Response When we grieve, we experience emotions as physical sensations in our bodies. People often report physical sensations of grief, … Grief proce ..read more

4 (of the many) main events Hey there, new (or expectant) parents! Congratulations on your journey into the wild world of parenting. Now that you’ve crossed the finish line of labor and delivery, it’s time to navigate the sometimes bumpy but very interesting and funny road of postpartum body changes. Buckle up, because it’s going to be a ride you’ll never forget (or you might due to lack of sleep). Postpartum Bleeding: The Red Carpet Treatment Let’s dive right into it: postpartum bleeding. Remember the intensity of labor and giving birth? Well, consider postpartum bleeding as the grand finale ..read more

Your baby’s birthday: harder than you expected Being forced to celebrate the anniversary of a horror in your life is so complex. You are raw and emotional but expected to hold your head up and put on a smile. You wonder how you are supposed to survive your baby’s birthday. Well-meaning but uninformed family members might even ask you to tell the story of how the baby was born. The season is the same. The activities of your life are similar. So many reminders. You look at the clock and remember, “this is when they broke my water”. Or “this … Surviving your baby’s birthday (part 2) Read More » T ..read more

Surviving your baby’s birthday As you approach the anniversary of the birth of your child, you may have mixed feelings. You wonder how you will survive your own baby’s birthday. Some people describe their experience of childbirth as feeling like everyone failed to rescue them. I can’t tell you how you will feel. But I can tell you how I felt and later what helped me. Below is my experience. Yours is still unfolding. Birthaversary (also known as my baby’s birthday) No one acknowledged what happened. Everyone just thinks it is okay and we are celebrating. Everyone wants to make … Surviving your ..read more

Therapy worries: How long do I have to go? I can’t tell you how many times I am asked this question. From friends, family, and clients. This concern comes up early on whenever someone learns what I do for my job. People desperately want to know the timetable. I have worried about it for myself when beginning working with a therapist. I think to myself, is this really worth it? What if I don’t get anything out of it? How long? As long as it takes You will only keep going to see your therapist as long as it is … Therapy Worries: How long do I have to go? Read More » The post Therapy Worries: How ..read more

That’s what insurance is for, right? You are at a place in your life where seeking help is possible. Your next step is finding a therapist. So you start with the network of providers for your insurance. Surely, you will be using your insurance to pay for therapy, right? Financial concerns are a legitimate reason to want to find a provider that takes your insurance. But is insurance the best and only way to pay for therapy? Read on for some things to consider. Reasons NOT to use insurance Privacy and confidentiality Your therapist must provide certain pieces of information … Insurance for thera ..read more

Parenting and the illusion of control There is an illusion that exists in life. A good example is driving on icy or snowy roads. You assume that you’re in control of the vehicle, but the reality is, you have far less control over the vehicle than you think. Truthfully, the only way to stay safe in these weather conditions is to not drive. For most people, when they become parents is the first time they’ve had to face this illusion. Who else realized they had anxiety when they became pregnant or had a baby? ?‍♀️ Up until the big parenting … Parenting changes everything, including you Read More ..read more

Baby sleep: carriers Baby sleep challenge: they sleep great in our arms but our arms get tired. Solution: Find a baby carrier that is comfortable and use it for daytime naps. This is key. And can make a world of difference. This is especially helpful with short nappers and sensitive sleepers. You aren’t going to wear your baby constantly and sometimes you’ll have them nap on you when you are relaxed and not up and about and therefore you will just hold them. But for babies that are hard to soothe or easily startled or super 4th trimester babes: baby … Baby sleep 4 tips and tricks: baby edition ..read more