One of the most common questions I get asked is, “how do I talk to my friends and family about my faith deconstruction?” The term deconstruction can mean different things to people. In general what my social media audience or coaching client is asking me is, how do I talk about my changing beliefs? They are often referring to specific beliefs that are changing, such as: “What do I tell my family about my faith deconstruction?” “How do I share with them how purity culture affected me when they think it was great?” “How do I explain my different views about the Evangelical Church when they are ..read more

Guest writer Joy Vetterlein shares her story of the connection between deconstruction and mental health. I started following Joy when we met through Hope Writers and a group coaching program on social media growth. Joy calls her community “spiritual misfits”, a group for those that don’t find themselves fitting into church. Joy describes her transition from working as a pastor of worship at a church to being laid off to realizing how unhealthy her church experience was. Ultimately, Joy’s deconstruction led her away from church, the Bible, and evangelical theology and to embrace a more open-end ..read more