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5d ago
Hey, thank you for your comment. I totally agree with you, I can see how wrong and naive I was, too much of a hopeless romantic haha. I knew beforehand she had a troubled life, I presomptuously thought if I loved her enough, if I loved her right, it’d just open her eyes on all the good things she deserves, and more. I know now it’s not my role to do that, only hers. Totally, you can’t really love someone into loving themselves. I think you hit the nail with the anxious-avoidant dance, I’m quite aware I have anxious tendencies, though there were not triggered at all until she began to be uncons ..read more
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Hey Clem, you’re right, my bad, sexual and gender identity is more complex and fluid these days than my comments reflected. PLEASE stop thinking you weren’t good enough. Spare yourself a lifetime of pain from believing it’s about you and your worthiness of love if someone decides to end the relationship. You are just fine as you are and worthy of love. You just need the right match. This wasn’t it long term. I know that hurts. Feel that pain fully and it will resolve itself and you will be able to move on. You learned a lot here, I’m sure you will see that in hindsight. Each relationship takes ..read more
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Hey, thank you for your comment. She never put a label on her sexuality, not everything needs be put in a box I guess. Honestly I’ve known her for so long and always thought she was 100% straight. She would only ever talk about boys, boys, boys. Until she apparently fell for me. I’d guess she’s kind of bisexual, with a huge preference for boys, and I was just kinda there, the exception to the rule maybe. Maybe she’ll never be with a girl again and that was a one time thing. I’d like to think she wasn’t experiencing, especially considering how the situation was difficult, I don’t know, what a h ..read more
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Hey, thank you for your comment. I know jealousy is by no mean an indicator of love, I think I even became allergic to it haha. I know the outcome will not change, but my brain thinks this is some kind of cold case I have to solve. How could someone be so in love with you then not be ? We’re on no contact policy, initiated by me, which she kind of guilts me for but anyway. Thanks again ..read more
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1w ago
She was just dealing with too much that she was not ready for ..read more
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1w ago
TLDR.. from what I did read my take is: 1) She’s got disapproving parents and at this point in her life can’t and won’t deal with the rejection she’d face by coming out as lesbian 2) She is experimenting with her sexuality and isn’t really sure she’s lesbian 3) She realized she cares for you as a friend and not a lover 4) You two are just very young and learning what love is and isn’t 5) One of these or a combination ..read more
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1w ago
What @Gaia said ..read more
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1w ago
You don’t need any more explanations. There will not be a different outcome. You can’t force someone to feel for you when they don’t or don’t understand their own feelings. You are all so very young and there is a world of experiences out there for you. Also, jealously is never an indicator of love. You need to cut this person off completely. Don’t remain friends. It not good for your mental health ..read more
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1w ago
Hello everyone, I (F, 19) was in a relationship for 9 months with my bestfriend (F, 19), it was both our first relationship and we’d been friends for a quite long time. It’s been 3 months, and I can’t seem to accept the reasons why it ended, I’m hopelessly believing it’s not that simple. I’m dying for some honest insight on what to think. So, for starters, her parents are homophobic, for them, same sex love doesn’t exist, her dad literally ignores her since she came out to them, and her mother’s not that much better, the kind that makes subtle reflections to show that it’s not normal to be lik ..read more
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2w ago
His behavior is very dramatic. Most people go out to dinner after th ey get off work. If he’s being abusive be glad things are over. Call up your girlfriends and go out tomorrow night ..read more
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