In this episode (Titles and definitions have to be the same), I continue my conversation with Julian as we reflect on dating apps and attributes he saw in his wife leading to his proposal. We highlight important attributes to look for in a partner. We discuss swiping with intentions on the dating apps. We examine the importance of supporting your partner in the midst of adversity. We also dissect how pivotal it can be to see how someone shows up for you, especially in areas of vulnerability. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be ma ..read more

In this episode (The streets retired me), Nkem and I examine some of the issues he had to overcome in his long distance relationship and marriage. We talk about when guys start looking for marriage in a relationship. We highlight how moving in with someone is a big step and some of the considerations to factor if doing it before marriage. We agree on the necessity of having tough conversations with people in a respectful way. We emphasize the importance of having positive experiences in dating. I also reiterate that I don’t like the term dating.  Help support the podcast so it can continu ..read more

In this episode (Selflessly Selfish), I discuss with Darrin how he navigated obstacles such as long distance, being an entrepreneur, and infidelity prior to getting married as well as how those lessons learned has helped him become a good husband. We focus on the challenges that come with trying to satisfy your passions as well as your partner. I talk about the importance of having someone that supports you and your passions. We explore the tough calls and tradeoffs you have to make when doubling down on pursuing your dreams and how critical it is to know when to get out or pivot. We also exam ..read more

In this episode (Get your no’s out of the way early), I wrap up my conversation with Brooke Fitzpatrick, the founder of Mosaic Matchmaking and l get her thoughts as a dating coach. We talk about the costs of dating and some of the thoughts that go into asking a woman out on a date. We examine what’s a reasonable amount of time to chat before you move off the apps with a match. We discuss common complaints that people have with dating apps. We breakdown the advantages and disadvantages of several dating apps. We offer thoughts on ways people can improve their dating profile. We also dive into t ..read more

In this episode (The benefit of truly learning somebody), I wrap up my conversation with Carlton as we talk through the benefit of truly learning someone and having a healthy sex life in a marriage. We discuss the challenge that men have listening instead of problem-solving. We highlight the intentionality required to develop organic and strong relationships with the in-laws. We examine the importance of sex in a marriage and maintaining an active sexual dynamic throughout the years. We conclude on the idea that the head of the household being a collective effort. Help support the podcast so i ..read more

In this episode (The unfortunate part of dating), I discuss the value of knowing your person’s heart with Carlton as he shares more of his journey in marriage and in fatherhood. We talk about why guys are okay dating more than one person at the same time and the tradeoffs you make while dating multiple people. We discuss how harder it becomes to date as people get older and considerations for living with your partner prior to marriage. We examine the need for parity in a relationship and being mindful of the development opportunities of who you choose to hitch your wagon. We highlight the impo ..read more

In this episode (Matchmaking as a Service), I discuss with Brooke Fitzpatrick, the founder of Mosaic Matchmaking, and learn about her business, how she got started, and how she coaches singles as well as matches them with viable candidates. We talk about what she’s hearing from both men and women who are trying to find love. She highlights the importance of taking some risks while dating and what comes with the territory of putting your heart out there. We learn about her philosophy when it comes to matchmaking and what happens to people that join her database. For more information on Mosiac M ..read more

In this episode (Am I really willing to do the work?), I discuss the feeling of knowing when you know and how they led to Carlton dating someone he randomly met prior to graduating college as well as their journey in marriage.  We discuss the importance of being intentional when getting to know someone. We break down the process of knowing that you know and how specific experiences can solidify how a guy feels about a woman. We also dive deep in what it means when a guy says “you know when you know”. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of sup ..read more

In this episode (I could have went off the rails), I wrap up my conversation with Courtney discussing critical moments that challenged his marriage early onsuch as dealing with a miscarriage and overcoming a severe covid experience. We emphasize the need to find time and space for yourself in the midst of internal and external chaos so you can show up better for your partner and family. Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to thinklovewife_donations@neloeffect.com. Contributions will go towards things like equi ..read more

In this episode (From supporting myself to supporting three), I talk to Courtney about his journey of becoming a stepfather. We discuss the importance of creating boundaries and relationship norms while learning to be a stepfather. We dive into the conversations required to engage as a parental figure while dating. We highlight why you should break through taboo norms and not wait very long to have meaningful conversations on important topics (i.e., life goals, salary/income). Help support the podcast so it can continue to give you quality content. Donations of support can be made via Zelle to ..read more