It’s hard to miss people. It’s hard to grieve. But, in my opinion, missing someone is not a good enough reason to let someone back into your life. This is especially true if the person has repeatedly hurt you or violated your boundaries. In this episode, I discuss three things you should ask yourself before you give someone another chance. I know it is tempting to rush into the arms of someone you love, but ignoring their past behavior won’t make the future any better. I want to stress the importance of self compassion in this process as well. We are not machines, it is okay to miss and love p ..read more

I am exposing more spirituality in this episode than I have before, but this topic is something I have been meditating on a lot lately and I felt called to share. This week we are diving into the difference between the soul and the ego. If the word “soul” doesn’t resonate with you, you can think of this as your highest self. To me, the two are one in the same. I believe that both the soul and the ego are necessary parts to being human, and each serve a function. I have also been examining the faults of the ego and how living out of that version of myself also puts me in close alignment with my ..read more

If you find yourself constantly starting and quitting new workout routines and diets, this episode is for you. I was there too. Not so much with the dieting, but I tried program after program and tried so hard to stay consistent with working out. It wasn’t until I took a step back a realized that I was trying to change too much at once that my habits shifted. This can, of course, be applied to any new habit or goal you have in your life. The secret to consistency is revealed in this episode as we discuss what keeps so many of us a stuck and how to break down our goals into manageable chunks. Y ..read more

If you have any experience in the self-help industry, you have probably seen tons of people recommending affirmations. However, I find that very few people explain how affirmations work and why they are a great stepping stone towards healing your inner child and becoming who you want to be. In this episode, I not only explain how affirmations work, but I also give practical guidance for how you can incorporate them into your daily life for the best benefits. It’s my belief that affirmations give us a direct line of communication with our inner child. This is why choosing affirmations that spe ..read more

It is important to know when you may be abandoning yourself so that you can start to change those habits and meet your own needs. In this week’s episode I give examples of self abandonment I’ve seen in myself and in my clients. As always, identifying what behaviors are unhelpful to you is the first step in actually changing them. Tune in to hear some examples of self abandonment and some small habits you can enforce to gain self trust, compassion, and confidence. Trusting yourself is the root of confidence, and the only way to trust yourself is to actually show up for yourself in ways that cou ..read more

You may have heard of the “Golden Rule” when you were in elementary school. It’s a rule that says to treat others the way you want to be treated. While I agree with the sentiment in that, and I think it’s a good place for children to begin to learn empathy, I don’t think it carries over well into adult life. For one, if we are always treating others the way we want to be treated, it may be assumed that we will get the same treatment in return. However, we are all unique individuals so what bothers one person may not bother another. How, then, does this rule apply once our preferences and boun ..read more

This week we’re talking all about self care and love languages. If you want to improve your relationship with yourself and amp up yourself care routine, you can begin by looking at your love language. Your love language describes the primary way you receive love from someone else, so it’s a perfect place to start when exploring that relationship with yourself as well. In this episode, I give practical examples of how you can use your love language to determine what type of self care you may be lacking in your routine, along with examples of each. Tune in to learn more ..read more

Our society is based on instant gratification, which is enjoyable when it comes to streaming shows and music. It’s not so enjoyable when it impacts our interpersonal relationships and sometimes creates more conflict than necessary. In this episode, I discuss the importance of creating space between conflict and reaction so that you can respond in a way that feels good for you. I’ve noticed a tendency in myself and my clients to want to rush through emotions, especially when these emotions are strong and what someone would typically label as negative. Tying this into attachment theory, this als ..read more

Emotions are the way our bodies communicate with our brains and let us know how certain circumstances affect us. Though I try to view emotions as I would any other biological function, I know that our thoughts can often get in the way and make things more complicated. This what causes meta emotion, or how we feel about how we feel. For example, you may experience an event that makes you feel angry but somewhere along the way you were also taught that anger is “bad.” So, instead of processing the anger in a healthy way, you begin to feel shame about being angry. This is what creates the meta em ..read more

Hi, I’m Ashley. I’m a certified health and life coach and host of the Mindful at Midnight Podcast. In this episode, I explain a little bit about myself and why I wanted to become a life coach. I had a nontraditional childhood; my mother is a drug addict and my father was in prison until I was 18. Because of these circumstances, I’ve realized how many unhelpful beliefs and behaviors I have created to keep myself safe. From ignoring all of my own boundaries, and being involved in many codependent relationships, over the years I’ve realized that I want better for myself. I found life coaching dur ..read more