Today we’re breaking new ground on the show and being on our first cis, gay man. Ben Fisher (he/him) has been single for about 7 years now. He s based in New York City and likes to believe that he is kind, funny, and looks like a gay early 2000’s Jimmy Fallon.  You are a kind, secret hunk with a sense of fun and adventure, a bit of a creative spirit, and can also be your own person. And you don’t necessarily have to live in NYC! Host Carolyn Bergier & Ben dive into his attachment style this episode, while also touching on meeting people organically vs on the apps, why architects are s ..read more

We’re hitting k-pop, strap talk, and everything in between with the hilarious Sheria Mattis! Sheria Mattis (she/her) is a cisgender, black, queer woman & comedian in New York City. Brooklyn born & bred, Sheria is also a bottom (not lazy), a Pisces, and recovering from an attraction to fuckbois. You are: into your own passions, 30+ years old, charming, not a comedian, and ready to support and treat your partner right. Sheria joins Carolyn to talk about life & dating at boarding school in Massachusetts, figuring out your own wants & needs, the possibilities of Sheria being a th ..read more

Jess Rothschild (she/her) identifies as a Leo, a lesbian, and a native New Yorker. Jess currently lives in Manhattan and is a great texter, loves gay summer life, has no food allergies, and has a career in design strategy.  You should slide into her DM’s if: you have a quiet power, are comfortable in your old skin, are somewhere around 35-45 years old (she’s 40), don’t have a big dog, and are ok with independence. You should also live in the New York City area. Jess catches up with good friend and host Carolyn Bergier about being burned out on the apps, celebrity crushes, and the pros and ..read more

Colette McIntyre (she/her) is a fat fem service top with an architectural triumph of an ass. This Pisces Sun, Aries Rising, and Aries Moon is working in advertising (but very anti-capitalist about it) and living in New York City. She loves planning an activity, is passionate about therapy, as well as the fact that people should be hornier. Her future partner must be into long text banter, not much younger than 32 years old, and would never make an Instagram account for your pet. Colette & Host Carolyn Bergier talk about going to the opera in this episode, some of the sex negativity we’re s ..read more

Sagan Chen (he/they) is a Chinese-American artist based in New York City working in film, TV, and theatre, and he will NOT be moving to LA!!!! Gender fluid & poly, Sagan is a Gemini Sun, Aries Moon, and Sagittarius Rising. While Sagan currently has one partner, he is also looking for a fem that probably has dark hair and is a little bossy. You’re most likely an artist with some level of emotional intelligence and would be into going to the theatre. Host Carolyn Bergier and Sagan jump right into Clexacon and the community at a good conference, Sagan’s newly found bottom boy status, not want ..read more

Jeena Bloom (she/her) is a Los Angeles based comedian & IT engineer who doesn't like people sleeping in her bed. She is trans, open to dating all sorts of folks, will be supportive of your endeavors, and describes herself as poly, but too lazy to date more than one person. Jeena’s future partner is: creative in ways that she is not, has some initiative in making plans, trusting enough to let her have some freedom, and is about 30-60 years old. In this episode, Jeena chats with host Carolyn Bergier about keeping independence and solitude in relationships, and how the pandemic helped her g ..read more

Valerie Complex (she/they/he/whatever) is a queer, empathetic, and easygoing person.  Currently non-monogamous, Valerie also describes herself as patient, a traveler, and says her love language is giving & receiving gifts. She grew up in the Bronx, still lives in New York City (now Harlem), and works as an editor for a major entertainment outlet. Valerie says it's important for her partner to: treat people well, like karaoke, also be non-monogamous, be at least 27 years old (she's almost 40), and you MUST cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze!! Host Carolyn Bergier and Valerie tal ..read more

Olivia Titus (she/her) is a queer woman working in reality TV casting & development. She is newly single, an Aries, super family-oriented, and currently living in New York City. Olivia is originally from just south of Boston, likes being the more femme girl in the relationship, and is a great listener whose love languages are acts of service & quality time.  You are ideally masc or androgynous (anything but a cis straight man), not a total gym rat, and down to go out to a nice dinner. Her end goal is a monogamous relationship with marriage and kids.  In this episode, host Car ..read more

Phil Corin (they/them) is a nonbinary person of trans experience, leaning more masc. They say their friends would describe them as a kind, funny, and wise Capricorn with an open heart. At 54 years of age, Phil says they are always on a quest to learn more about themselves and how to evolve as a human. They also LOVE birds. Phil is looking for a fem presenting person with some basic kindness already living in NYC. Someone who is warm, open-hearted, self-aware, and loves live music & a good meal.  Host Carolyn Bergier and Phil dive into the rigidity of Capricorns, dating workshops and h ..read more

Micah Eames (he/him) is a trans-masc queer man looking for cuties to kiss and treat like a queen. This Brooklyn-based short king calls himself a hard Kinsey 3.5, and tends to skew more toward women romantically. A lifelong rock climber, Micah also enjoys karaoke duets and going out dancing. Micah's ideal partner is probably a woman (but he’s open to all genders & sexualities), someone who is organized, lives in Brooklyn, is a good tipper, and looking for something casual. Host Carolyn Bergier & Micah break down why so many queers are rock climbing these days, getting into standup, dati ..read more