February 20 When we look at our new lives, did we really change? Have we changed, or do we talk about change? What has changed? Honestly! Take a look around you. Do you still argue? Are you still “fighting everything and everyone” (including yourself)? Have you just put down the drink and drugs? Are you now more miserable than ever? Are you eating more? Smoking cigarettes again? Vaping this time? Cussing more (that’s me!)? This shit happens. Happens all the fucking time. People kid themselves about what they are actually doing in recovery. They hit a few meetings, make a few phone calls to th ..read more

February 19 Good grief! When someone you love is gone, it leaves a significant hole that fills with sadness. Fucking complete malaise. That’s the only way to describe it. The hurt of loss lingers and nags at the back of your mind. Always there to remind you that you had a good thing and lost it. The love of another soul, the ability to love another soul. It doesn’t matter if it’s a family pet, a horse, or a fucking fish. The loss is still there, still nagging, and it can be painful. Grief has a way of sneaking up on us all. It takes many forms, and we all experience it differently. We all hav ..read more

Summary In this conversation, Carl and Chelsea discuss their early drinking experiences, the consequences of their actions, and the challenges they faced in their relationships. They reflect on moments of shame and regret, as well as the realization that they had a problem with alcohol. Chelsea shares her journey of giving her boyfriend an ultimatum and the positive changes that resulted from it. They both acknowledge the role of their higher power in their sobriety and the importance of seeking support and making changes for themselves. In this conversation, Chelsea and Carl discuss various a ..read more

February 17 Knowing what you know about yourself, why would you ever drink or use drugs again? Why do you even think about it? What the fuck are you thinking when those thoughts come up? We are such a fucked-up people. We think of so many ways to escape our cranium, but what we need to do is make friends with our own thoughts and know that they are not all sane or based on reality. Our imaginations are filled with big and little delusions/self-deceptions. Once we have that understanding and can accept it, we can begin to do something about it. Self-knowledge may feel like the answer, but it i ..read more

February 16 Gratitude. You knew you were gonna read this word as soon as you got this book. The book has an F-word in the title, but it’s not like that makes the author a heathen! There are things to be grateful for, aren’t there? You have eyes to read these words, the pocket change, or the means to obtain this book. All the things around you, your breath. The basics. You woke up today! Holy shit! Is that not awesome? Sometimes we forget what it took to get us here and how much of a miracle it really is. Had the Earth been a few degrees hotter and positioned differently in space if your paren ..read more

February 10 Summary Support the podcast and buy the book!⁠ Summary In this episode, Carl and Chelsea discuss the importance of persistence and consistency in recovery. They reflect on their own experiences and share insights on what got them to where they are today. The conversation touches on the challenges of maintaining sobriety, the need for honesty, and the importance of self-improvement. They also discuss the daily challenge of identifying positive behaviors and making small adjustments to stay on track. Overall, the episode emphasizes the ongoing journey of recovery and the importance o ..read more

Summary - Buy 366 F***king Days Sober Book. Or buy "Alcohol is Sh!t" by Paul Churchill! In this conversation, Carl and Paul discuss their podcast beginnings, the challenges of starting a podcast in early sobriety, the gift of desperation, self-love and self-loathing, the purpose of addiction, creating community and connection, the why behind addiction, and the catalyst for writing a book. In this conversation, Paul Churchill and Carl D discuss the motivation behind recovery, the why behind Recovery Elevator, creating physical spaces for recovery, transcending the ego and connecting with someth ..read more

January 30 - Buy the book! There is so much about our ego we don’t pay attention to every day. We will never fully comprehend some things about ourselves and why we respond and react the way we do. One thing is for sure, many of us think we know a little about a lot (or is that a lot about a little?). We share our opinions as if it matters. We rant and rave on social media and add our two cents when we hear someone sharing out at coffee or a restaurant. We “chime in” and “pipe up” whenever the moment suits us. Like our opinion is the only opinion that matters. Have you ever stopped to ask you ..read more

January 29 - Buy the book! Do you love your family? Do you spend time with them? No, really. Do you? The last time I checked, you spent most of your day with your face plastered into a device, watching the T.V., or browsing on your phone. When was the last time you watched a movie together? When was the last time you talked about the future or reminisced about the past? We think we know each other because we live under the same roof, but in reality, we hardly know the other’s desires. We know only a little of our needs, and we are afraid to talk about the real shit. The important stuff. Let’s ..read more

January 28 - Buy the book! That motherfucker! Every time you do something, they are right there criticizing everything you do! What the fuck! I am going to throat-punch that S.O.B. If they say one more God damned thing! Okay, breathe. Relax. Is it worth it? Probably not. You can waste so much energy and time focusing on another’s actions. When you focus on another, you lose sight of your direction, needs, feelings, etc. When someone in your life is in fear, hurting, confused, or feels insecure, they may act out and get caught up in their own distractions to cope. You may be one of their distr ..read more