In this episode I tackle the topic of relationships. It’s Valentines Day so I assume everyone is thinking about their relationships and how they want them to improve! With 20 years of experience in the field and seeing thousands of couples I thought to myself, I should know what are essential components to a successful relationship. Sit back, take notes and enjoy my relationship essentials and see where you can be better with your partner. From Trust to Connection I have you covered and as a special bonus I leave you with the 777 challenge. For more on me go to my website www.ryanwynder.com or ..read more

In this episode I break down the concept of mental load. It refers to the invisible burden that is associated with the effort involved in managing your work, relationships, family and household. This is typically associated with woman in a relationship. There are 4 parts to the mental load: anticipate, identify, decide, and monitor. Education and awareness are key to helping to alleviate the burden of the mental load that exists in the relationship. I also share details about my own experiment of helping to alleviate the mental load in my own relationship. For more about me go to my website ww ..read more

Being traumatized means continuing to organize your life as if the trauma were still going on. In this episode I discuss how we organize our lives based on our traumatic experiences. They hey is being able to identify what the patterns are and how they are connected to our previous trauma. The metaphor of sitting your poopy diaper will be explained in the episode. For more go to my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist ..read more

In this episode I update everyone on what I have been up to and what things have been going on in my life since the last episode. My focus is on the value of time. As we approach this new year how do we want to utilize our time for effectively. Time is the stuff life is made of and our use of it determines many things things in our life. I leave you with 3 questions - 1. What do you want to do with this one wild and precious life. 2. How do you want to show up as a friend, partner, worker, etc. 3. What is important to you and what may be missing in your life? For more about me visit my webpage ..read more

In this episode Ryan dives into part 2 of 2. This episode will focus more on the Defense Mechanisms we use to keep us "safe" or to keep us feeling more hurt or pain in our lives. "Most of us do not reenact the experience of the trauma itself. Instead we act out the coping strategy (or defense mechanism) we evolved to deal with the trauma. Ryan will discuss a number of different defense mechanisms we utilize, including Terrance Real's adaptive child defense, self-abandonment, disconnection, self blame and shame, victim mentality, and the inability to receive. From this episode you will gain a b ..read more

In this episode Ryan breaks down the first of a two part episode. The focus for the first episode will be on Triggers. The word trigger itself has become a hot topic and according to MaryCatherine McDonald and her new book Unbroken, it has become a catchall for any occasion in which we have an emotion that is remotely unpleasant or unwanted. This misconception also leads to a misunderstanding of how we deal with triggers when they happen. We have learned to block and avoid instead of adapting and healing! There are three things to be mindful of when it comes to triggers: 1. We are always consc ..read more

In this episode I will continue with the theme for suicide awareness month. I will be discussing 5 myths associated with suicide. Also what we can do to help prevent the possibility of suicide. This includes things like knowing the signs and talking about suicide in a proactive manner. I also give suggestions for ways we can help those struggling with suicidal thoughts. Finally, I talk about loss and how those who have lost loved ones to Suicide can heal. For more info on me go to my website www.thevegastherapist.com. You can also follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist ..read more

In this episode I welcome in my guest Janise Loveridge. Janise is one of the founders of Inspiring Intimacy Games Stuff. Their goal is to help married couples reconnect, unite, and have FUN! Their hope is that they can help other couples reconnect and enjoy being together. They have created Inspiring Intimacy Games such as: Better Intimacy/12 Sex Challenges in 12 Months, Twelve Days of Flirty Foreplay, 52 Weeks of I Love You, and Inspiring Intimacy Card Game. Listen in as we discuss the importance of intimacy in your marriage, how to improve your connection and sex life. We discuss ways to wor ..read more

In this episode I delve into the psychology of gratitude. I have always thought gratitude was a good thing to practice but I have never really looked further into the full benefits it can have on us. Gratitude has a huge impact on the brain and positivity, it helps us feel less pain, have healthier relationships, and numerous other benefits! I will also discuss ways to actively practice gratitude in our lives. Find me at www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist ..read more

In this episode NHL Legend Theo Fleury joins the podcast. Theo’s resume includes a World Junior Championship, a Stanley Cup Champion, and he helped Canada win a Gold Medal at the 2002 Olympic Games. He is also an author, his books include “Playing with Fire” and “Conversations with Rattlesnakes”. He is a speaker and a relational trauma expert. You can find him at www.theofleury.life You can also follow him on Instagram @theofleury14. In this episode our focus is on trauma and how to heal our trauma. Theo experienced a great deal of trauma in his early life that led to addiction or as he calls ..read more