Encore episode! Let’s talk about sex (or die trying)! Sarah and Alex finally attempt to actually discuss sexual dynamics in non-monogamy without laughing or crying. mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ An actually useful explanation of how to play the three minute game (since ours went so sideways): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KCzpNBNbVM&t=80s Or download the pamphlet here: https://bettymartin.org/download-wheel/ Don’t miss: Evergreen Hearts - Polyamory Pitfalls - Thursday May 9th, 6:30pm Evergreen Hearts Polyamory Expo The Whatever Factory ..read more

Who should you tell you're poly??? A death in the family sparks different reactions from Alex and Sarah about how open to be with family and friends. Mentioned in the episode: Evergreen Hearts - Polyamory Pitfalls - Thursday May 9th, 6:30pm The Cut:  5 people tell their coming out stories Business Insider: Coming out as poly is the hardest kind of coming out The Poly Coach: Coming out as polyamorous Feeld: Guide to Coming out as Poly mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast ..read more

Alex wants to talk about performance anxiety….and Sarah really, really doesn’t. Mentioned in the episode: Evergreen Hearts - Polyamory Pitfalls - Thursday May 9th, 6:30pm Cleveland Clinic: Erectile Dysfunction Book: The Ice Storm, by Rick Moody Hump! 2024 National Tour Dates Book: Come as You Are, by Emily Nagoski "5 things you can say to someone who didn't have an org@sm" from @QueerSexTherapy on Instagram mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast ..read more

Two local organizers talk about their experiences being solo poly; what they like about it, the challenges, independence, couples privilege and more. Stay tuned for the lightning round! Mentioned in the episode: Puget Sound Polyamory Meetup Group Evergreen Hearts Poly Prom Newcomers Social Connections Speed Dating Puget Sound Polyamory The NY Times says solo poly is just a fancy word for dating around…lol mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast ..read more

Special Midnight Mini episode: is polyamory being gentrified? Mentioned in the episode:  The Cut, New York Magazine: A Practical Guide to Polyamory How did polyamory become so popular? (The New Yorker) American Poly, by Christopher M. Gleason More: A Memoir of Open Marriage by Molly Rodden Winter   More reading: How a polyamorous mom had a ‘big sexual adventure’ and found herself (NY Times) @Bimbo.Theory on Instagram mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast ..read more

The leading researcher into poly dating app usage shares what works and what doesn’t in profiles, gives insights into the trends in non-traditional relationship styles around the country, and defines the dizzying jargon of poly subcultures. Listen until the end to find out what “dexting” means.  Sign up for Riki Thompson's workshops and get a 20% discount using the code “Mistakes”  https://rikithompson.com/#post-152  Evergreen Hearts Lecture Series Follow Riki on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/virtuallyriki/    Mentioned in the episode: Riki’s article on “What ..read more

Should non monogamous parents be “out” to their kids? In this episode Sarah and Alex ask different parents about their approaches to sharing their relationships with their children – from secrecy, to involving secondary partners in parenting – then share mistakes they've made in balancing their feelings and dating schedules with what was developmentally appropriate for their kids. Mentioned in the episode: Do Happy Parents Raise Healthier Kids? Fully automated Luxury Gay Space Communism A brief summary from Reddit: “It refers to a communist society. Full automated: production is automa ..read more

Sarah and Alex talk about the jealousy and panic that comes up when partners are on dates or trips with others, the roots of those feelings, and how rituals of connection and communication can help. Oh, and also how the film ET is a meta text for polyamory(?) Mentioned in the episode: https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/s/2HFb3BywGM  https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/s/8SvfUvZord "Recovery can take place only within the context of relationships; it cannot occur in isolation" --Judith Lewis Herman "Trauma happens in relationships, so it can only be healed in relationships. Art can't ..read more

Alex’s partner leaves him for monogamy, sparking a conversation about cowboy-ing, triangulation and attachment. Mentioned in the episode: PolyPhilia: https://www.instagram.com/polyphiliablog/ Attachment Panic, the album by Alex & Sarah’s alt country band: https://open.spotify.com/album/2zrOxbFLVA4Y4L3m9Cjamq mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast ..read more

Season 2 finale! Sarah and Alex try to stump each other with research into some of the most common myths and misconceptions about non monogamy. mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ More about us: Bloodstar band: https://ffm.to/bloodstarattachmentpanic | [Listen to Bloodstar on Spotify]  Sarah’s website: https://www.sarahstuteville.com/ Making Contact: https://www.radioproject.org/ | [Listen to Making Contact on Spotify] Mentioned in the episode: Shrimpteeth survey on nonmonogamy impacts Shrimpteeth survey for ladies dating men Shrimpteeth on I ..read more