
Counseling Perspective Blog
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Posts about mental health, self-growth, life coaching, and more from our Singapore-based team of experienced psychologists, therapists, and counselors. At Counseling Perspective, we provide in-person counseling in Singapore at five convenient locations, as well as online counseling to local and international clients.
Counseling Perspective Blog
2w ago
At 17, one of my teachers told me I was dyslexic and that I needed to “work extra hard” to succeed. At 33, an educational psychologist officially diagnosed me with broad dyslexia (Reading Comprehension Impairment) and visual-spatial reasoning difficulties. However, the true turning point in my journey came at 37 when I was diagnosed with ADHD. It was a moment of clarity that reframed decades of self-doubt and burnout.
Burnout and the Breaking Point
The tipping point came when I experienced severe burnout at work. I’ve always taken immense pride in my career, pouring my passion into cr ..read more
Counseling Perspective Blog
2w ago
In the journey of life, interpersonal relationships play a fundamental role. From a Reiki perspective, these connections are not just human encounters but profound opportunities for spiritual growth, energy exchange, and mutual healing.
Universal Energy and Relationships
Reiki is based on the idea that everything in the universe is connected through universal energy. Every relationship we form—whether with family, friends, colleagues, or partners—is influenced by the flow of this energy. When our energies are balanced and flow harmoniously, our interactions also tend to be more positive an ..read more
Counseling Perspective Blog
2w ago
Your partner forgets to text you back after a long day, and you think, "They don’t care about me." Or they casually mention plans with friends that don’t include you, and you wonder, "Am I not important to them anymore?" These passing negative thoughts may seem trivial, but they reflect deeper narratives we unconsciously construct about our partners and relationships.
In relationships, the way we think about our partners and their actions matters deeply. As relationships evolve, we develop beliefs about our partners and the relationship. These beliefs shape how we feel, act and respon ..read more
Counseling Perspective Blog
2w ago
Amanda* (not her real name) sat on the couch opposite me, phone in hand, staring at the freshly downloaded dating app. Again. It wasn’t the first time she had sworn off swiping, declaring herself done with the endless loop of mismatched conversations and vanishing connections. But here she was, redownloading it after another short-lived hiatus.
“Maybe this time,” she said, “there’ll be better options?” Yet, a part of her knew this pattern all too well - the mix of hope and hesitation, the lure of possibility clashing with memories of frustration. Amanda’s experience is far from unique ..read more
Counseling Perspective Blog
2w ago
It’s often said that opposites attract, and nowhere is this truer than in the dynamic between anxiously attached and avoidantly attached partners.
At first glance, it might seem counterintuitive that someone who craves closeness would be drawn to someone who finds comfort in distance. But beneath this surface contradiction lies a powerful, if imperfect, symmetry: each brings a piece that the other is missing.
An anxious partner often feels alive in love, highly attuned to emotional shifts, and brings warmth and passion to their connection, while an avoidant partner offers ..read more
Counseling Perspective Blog
1M ago
As we welcome 2025, the energy of a new beginning surrounds us—a chance to reflect on what truly matters. This year, let’s shift from traditional resolutions to something more lasting: setting intentions. Intentions are powerful, guiding principles rooted in our core values. Unlike rigid resolutions, intentions foster a purposeful, meaningful approach to life, grounding us in who we truly want to be rather than what we feel pressured to achieve.
Intentions: A Path to Holistic Living
At Elemental Wellness, we see intentions as seeds of growth planted within our mind, body, and spirit ..read more
Counseling Perspective Blog
2M ago
As a therapist and tantric practitioner, I've learned that when people come to discuss their relationships, they're often bringing layers of complex emotions and unmet needs. Over the years, I've seen how love, sex, and relationships are so deeply interconnected that you can't address one without impacting the others. Whether you're working on relationship issues alone or with your partner, considering all three together can be the key to significant change.
In therapy, treating these aspects as a whole is where the real transformation happens. It's not about fixing what's broken; it's about ..read more
Counseling Perspective Blog
2M ago
“Grief is Simply Love with Nowhere to Go”
Quote from Chris Hall Chief Executive Officer of the Australian Centre for Grief and Bereavement
As I sit down to write this piece, I’m reminded of a young woman, let’s call her Sally, who was utterly inconsolable after losing the love of her life 6 months before they were to be married. So profound was her sorrow, she struggled to find the strength to carry on. She was so enveloped in despair that it became difficult for her to distinguish whether it was her partner who had passed away or, in fact, herself. As a couple ..read more
Counseling Perspective Blog
3M ago
Men’s Health Champions IMD2024 - Newsletter - November 2024
Men’s Health Champions is the theme of International Men’s Day 2024 and for me it prompts the question, what is men’s health and why is it necessary that we focus on it?
In today’s society, there remains a patriarchal messaging that men should “be strong” and “don’t feel” (show emotion) which has an impact on men’s physical and mental health such that they often leave seeking help until the last moment.
Many men have experienced the camaraderie that is developed through playing sports or when working out p ..read more
Counseling Perspective Blog
3M ago
As a therapist, I have observed that shame is a prevalent topic among my clients. Often, when exploring their presenting issues and underlying causes, shame emerges as a significant factor. It is a subject that resonates deeply with me, both personally and professionally. My own therapeutic journey, coupled with the professional interactions with my clients, has solidified my understanding of shame in the human experience.
According to Brown, shame is "the fear of being unlovable—a profound sense of believing we are flawed and thus unworthy of love and connection."1. Unlike guilt, which re ..read more