“True emotional healing happens by feeling. The only way out is through.” ~Jessica Moore Have you ever loved someone so much that you could no longer see who they really were? Or have you ever been young and naive to the danger that surrounds you? I’m the first to raise my hand and say I did that! I’m a person who trusts people until they give me a reason not to. Trust Trust can be broken in so many ways by those you least expect it from; those you love and thought loved you. In some cases, it may not be that they don’t love you, but just that they have had a temporary moment of madness that ..read more

“We are hard-wired to connect with others, it’s what gives purpose and meaning to our lives, and without it there is suffering.” ~Brené Brown In relationships, I have always felt more comfortable being on the sidelines rather than center stage. I liked playing the supporting role to many people’s leading roles. I am good at it; it’s the career I chose for myself as a life coach. However, personally, constantly staying in the role of supporter created resentment. I felt unseen and unheard, and many of my relationships began to feel one-sided—with me listening and holding space for them and the ..read more

“I always wondered why it was so easy for people to leave. What I should have questioned was why I wanted so badly for them to stay.” ~Samantha King Do you feel afraid to speak your truth or ask for what you want? Do you tend to neglect your needs and people-please? Do you have a hard time being alone? Have you ever felt panic and/or anxiety when someone significant to you left your life or you felt like they were going to? If so, please don’t blame yourself for being this way. Most likely it’s coming from an abandonment wound—some type of trauma that happened when you were a child . Even tho ..read more

“If you don’t love yourself, you’ll always be looking for someone else to fill the void inside you, but no one will ever be able to do it.” ~Lori Deschene I was a simple girl who met a complicated boy and fell in love. It was unrequited. I loved him with all my heart for six months, without him knowing. Or if he did know, he never said anything. I acted like a teenager with her first crush. It was humiliating. I did things that I should never have done—the incessant texting, calling, arranging meetups, and what not. Embarrassment doesn’t even cover the emotions I feel now. There is also a lot ..read more

“There are years that ask questions and years that answer.” ~Zora Neale Hurston At the age of thirteen, my childhood as I knew it came to an end. My parents sat my brother and me down at the kitchen table and told us they were getting a divorce. In that moment, I could acutely feel the pain of losing the only family unit I knew. Although my teenage self was devastated by this news, it would take another twenty years for me to realize the full extent of what I had lost. And to acknowledge that I had never fully grieved this loss. While divorce is so common in the United States, it is not a ben ..read more

“It’s okay to care about what people think. Just know there’s a difference between valuing someone’s opinion and needing their approval.” ~Lori Deschene My date—an attractive student in her twenties—talked away excitedly, but all I could think of was this: “How can I make her like me?” “How can I impress her?” “How can I make her laugh?” I agonized over every word that I said, every response from her, every moment of our interaction, and I poured every single detail that I could find—or imagine—under the microscope of my mind… and all of a sudden, the date was over! As we said goodbyes and as ..read more

“Everywhere you go, there you are.” ~Unknown I have heard this quote many times throughout life, but that was it. I heard it, thought hmm, and moved on. Well, here I am at the age of thirty-nine, and I am really starting to see and understand it. I first started noticing this idea showing up over and over again recently, at a time of a change in my career. I went from an ER nurse to an RN in the transfer center. So bedside nursing to office work. I noticed one day, as I was sitting in my new, quiet office area looking at the board of the ER in epic (which shows how many patients are curr ..read more

“Never chase love, affection, or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having.” ~Unknown We met at a bar with Skee-Ball and slushy margaritas for our first date. She was gorgeous. I noticed that as soon as I walked in. I still wasn’t sure whether we’d have anything to talk about though. The messages we’d exchanged had been minimal. It turned out we did. Conversation flowed from one topic to the next—meandering from her passion for biology in college to how I tried to master mountain boarding at summer camp as a kid to how both of us were passionate about writin ..read more

Hi friends! I’m excited to share that the inspirational Dalai Lama Global Vision Summit 2023 starts next week. This FREE event takes inspiration from the Dalai Lama’s vision, kindness, humility, and wisdom to explore how we can navigate our increasingly uncertain world with compassion and virtue. If, like me, you’d like to help create a world with less pain and move love, this is a perfect opportunity to learn the skills and strategies you need make a positive difference. Sign up today for free to access 20 expert presenters and join thousands of people around the world who share your ho ..read more

“It’s not a matter of letting go—you would if you could. Instead of ‘Let it go,’ we should probably say ‘Let it be.'” ~Jon Kabat-Zinn When I was in my twenties, I went to see an acupuncturist because I’d been through a bad breakup and felt uncertain about my life path and purpose. “Went” is a kind way of saying it; I was dragged. I didn’t want to go, but my family was going and thought it might be supportive with all that I was going through. I was dealing with a lot of rough emotions and felt like I was on a daily roller coaster of lows. The ride took me from anger, to sadness, back to ..read more